Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Help! Boyfriend doesn’t enjoy giving me oral leaving me unsatisfied?
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This question will contain some explicit details. First question and the reason why I made this account. I need help, I have no one to talk to about this. I love my boyfriend more than anything and he feels the same. We live together and have been together for over a year. My main problem with him is having very unsatisfactory sex. Our sex routine usually goes like this, the sex is initiated by kissing usually no more than for 10 seconds, the pulls out his penis, Igo down on him for never any less than 5 minutes, usually can be around 15-20 mins, he spits on his hand and puts in a finger for less than 20 seconds (which doesn’t do much for me anyway, in fact it can be quite painful) and then we have sex usually for around 2 mins before he finishes. I have never had a orgasm from a partner so I don’t expect this of him, but I have orgasmed alone many times, only by clitoris stimulation. He has given me oral a few times. The first time he looked so grossed out I made him stop. Today he told me when I asked him why he didn’t like to please me that giving oral just wasn’t his thing and he doesn’t mind doing it as a one off on birthdays. He is amazing at oral, this is why only on special occasions drives me crazy, it’s bittersweet because it gives me a taste of what I’m missing. The fact that he doesn’t do this can lead me to feeling gross and a bit worthless and used, which is stupid because I know he isn’t using me as we are very much in love in all other aspects. I just don’t understand how someone who loves you so much could deny you so much pleasure. Personally I don’t enjoy giving my boyfriend head. But I do it and I make sure to do it well, sometimes for a hour straight. I am super clean, shower daily sometimes every twice. Smelling myself doesn’t smell bad at all and I’ve never had a complaint. I have also been checked for stds and Vaginal infections, in am completely clean. I would never force him to do this for me, if he thinks it’s so gross, I’d rather him not.
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What Girls & Guys Said
1 33Find a guy with the biggest schlong. Make your boyfriend your cuckold.
Very sorry to hear that. I feel bad for you.
All fornication acts are immoral anyways.
Poor girl, you need to receive nice vagina lick till make you screaming orgasm..
:( I wish
İf I had a chance I really like to make you help about it 😛
he is selfish, get a new boyfriend
Time and place girl and I'll take care of you anytime
Wow
Love to give you oral till you have many orgasms
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Aww I’m sorry he doesn’t like that. Sounds like u need someone who knows how to handle u better in the bedroom but I understand if u love him.
Who Doesn’t Enjoy Oral? I Eat “Shaved” Pussy Until She Has Cum At Least Once, Fuck Her Until She Cum’s Multiple Times, Then Go Down On Her Again...
Well he does know how to do it but has a stigma about it, it probably just doesn’t do anything for him and doesn’t like it. Have you tried having him do it in the shower with the water running down your body? Try getting him to do that
You’ve painted yourself and anyone who tries to answer this into a corner. Unless you’re just looking for sympathy—and you certainly have mine—what possible advice can anyone give? You’re in love and evidently unwilling to leave him despite the fact that you’re miserable. You won’t engage in quid pro quo oral sex, because it’s blackmail. (I wouldn’t either.) Presumably, you’ve told him that you’re not getting anything out of sex except pain and a feeling of worthlessness? You’ve told him he is being both selfish and inept? You’ve made an effort to show him how to get you off? You allude to the fact that you have, because you say he explicitly denies you pleasure. You say he loves you, but the highest expression of love is selflessness. I don’t think he’s showing you that.
Look, sexual compatibility and satisfaction are extremely important. You already know that. If things continue as they are, the resentment will infect your relationship and it will die. It will. You might stay anyway, but you’ll be wasting your life. Life is too short for selfish lovers.
I really appreciate this answer. I wasn’t looking for sympathy, more of someone to talk to as I don’t have friends and I can’t speak about this to family for obvious reasons. I feel as though I have a lot to get off my chest as I feel really sad and am sometimes brought to tears by the lack of feeling loved in my sex life, and have no one to share this too, sometimes it’s nice to have people listen and way in there opinions on the sitcho. thanks for the answer 🙏
Yes I have spoke to him and explained exactly what I need to get off. He just ignores my requests, it’s almost like it goes in one ear out of the other.
Then there is only one way out. I know you don’t want to do that, but it’s either that or misery.