Help, my boyfriend doesn't want to spit on my face and slap me?

[Anonymous]

he always says "i can never hurt you". He refuses to chock me, slap me, kick me or spit on my face, what do I do?

[NamerOfStars]

Okay, in the name of not overlooking the obvious: this is something that you want, right? You want him to do these things, but he's not willing? Assuming that's the case, his desire to not hurt you is a definitely a good thing, and applicable, too, since that's not really what you're asking for. This is a dispute that may (and I stress may) be solvable through education. I don't have much specific information for you, though; you might want to reach out on a BDSM forum of some kind; I doubt you're the first person to have this problem. Good luck!

[On_the_other_hand]

My ex wanted me to choke her and be rough. It caused a lot of anxiety. I did some soul searching and was able to do the things she wanted. I think she had rougher fantasies that I don't know if I could go through with. Looking back I would have made her make a video giving consent and asking for these kinds of things. This is a bigger deal than you think. If you offer him some kind of proof of consent it might make things more possible. That being said I can't spit or cum on a girls face, she has to take into account and respect my preferences too.

[NNFeet]

Heyy. I really respect your choices of intimacy. You both can go for a role play, Where he is a police officer/ landlord and u a criminal/tenant respectively.

Where his role as a police officer is to get the facts from u, he would slap u, torture u, etc. U would enjoy such when done in this way and am sure he would also enjoy.

Just convince him and say him we are just acting.

Well personally, even I also get aroused when my partner spits on me, slaps me, tramples my boobs/face with his feet in leather boots.

[MsTaniaUncensored]

While this may be something you enjoy or wish to try I believe that partners should respect what makes each other uncomfortable and not pressure them into it.

For many men striking or abusing a woman is just not something they are comfortable with. If he left a mark on you visible to others someone may believe you are beinylg domestically abused and contact authorites on him.

[Jude_Wills]

Who are you Angel?

[meetkitty123]

Get help
Totally disfuncional

[chrissykerdock]

forget that kink it's not as hot as it may seem it's actually gross... also you don't want to be slapped... i've been all those but only 1 time or 2... i've never been choked but slapped and spit on my face... it's not hot at all or even pleasant... being slapped hurts and being spit in the face is just gross and degrading.

[g0th_weeb]

i mean, thats just your personal opinion, it might be very arousing for her.. everyone has different kinks

[AustinMan]

I how this helps:

https://www. girlsaskguys. com/sexual-behavior/a7250-safe-words-how-do-i-get-my-partner-to-dominate-me-in-bed
https://www. girlsaskguys. com/sexual-behavior/a7025-why-are-men-reluctant-to-dominate-women-sexually

[g0th_weeb]

just try to have a conversation with him and explain that it turns you on, if he still refuses just dont force him, maybe one day someone will pleasure you.

also, im so sorry for the comments here, dont feel ashamed for having a kink, its totally normal. these people are just really narrow minded.

[Daniela1982]

Seems like you love POS guys. Oh well.

[comberchick]

Wtf...

[Madhatter920]

Some people just aren't comfortable with it. You can explain you enjoy it and encourage him, but ultimately, if he doesn't want to do it, that's that.

[Aliceinwonderland22]

Talk to him about why you want this, why he doesn't and discuss boundaries related to sexual experiences

[Berethor]

So you are masochist? it's quite normal for a guy to be unwilling to hit a girl.

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/main/wouldnthitagirl

[Asker]

but my boyfriend is a muslim guy and im his 3rd girlfriend?

[Berethor]

A muslim guy with 3 girlfriends? well in that case he should be learning from that guy. :)

[Asker]

hhahhaha im just one of his girlfriends, he also has 10 wives

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

dude I pissed myself at that picture xD amazing

[PiffDust]

It's really hard to force this if he's not into, to him, it's basically hurting/humiliating you, regardless of what you actually feel about it, maybe not everything at once and not at peak intensity, try maybe starting with each one at a time, and take it slow, so not as hard as you'd prefer it at first, but just so he gets somewhat familiar with it, baby steps takes you where you need to go.

[Asker]

thank you (: i'll try

[Asker]

its because he wants to be the submissive one i think. He is always focused on his own anus. He want me to finger him near orgasm

[PiffDust]

That doesn't really change anything, you could take turns, you don't necessarily have to get what you want everytime, maybe if you have enough time you could do it both ways everytime. if it's really important to you to satisfy those kinks every single time you get in bed and you can't go on living without that (which i highly doubt), either take the time to satisfy both ends, or look for a dom that would satisfy those needs for you everytime

[Dongtai]

Well. I have an idea.


Have him use a spray bottle and put it on squirt not spray. Close your eyes when you guys are doing it and tell him to spit on you. Then he’ll spray you. You can slap yourself in the face and pretend it’s him. If you don’t like being able to tell it’s you just sit on your arm for 5-10 minutes before you guys do it.


I’ve never done this I literally just thought of it.


Credentials: Published two books. Wrote countless others.

[TadCurious]

He sounds like a decent human being.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

smells like troll in here :/

[TraceyByrd]

Your a pathetic stupid whore 🤣🤦

[g0th_weeb]

wtf is wrong with you? you're 14, shouldn't even be here. its not really funny to bring people down like that..

[nodnol32]

Interesting kink for sure.

[elizamichale1]

I can understand him tbh its not always so easy to do such things coz i also get some clients who ask me to slap them bite them spit on them etc

[_SOARER]

God forbid he smacks his girl for being disrespectful though lmao
Women are sick in the head these days. They worship abuse

[Roberto5643]

You want to have your boyfriend slap you around wow that’s so friggin hot 🥵

[Asker]

but he doesn't want that

[Roberto5643]

He sounds so boring

[Asker]

he is sissy

[Roberto5643]

Do you think being with him might toughen him up

[loginfailed]

Slap him, spit him and kick him and make him angry and he might do it back 🤔

Not sure he'll do it sexually tho

[loginfailed]

And aw man where did that nice profile pic of you go ( )( )

[AmeerX]

I love submissive girls. Tell him you want to be treated like a humiliated girl or you will leave him