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How Can I Handle My Wife's Sexual Past?

Just over a year ago I married a sweet, pretty religious girl. She was always dressed well, usually in an elegant skirt. She was well-educated, polite and soft-spoken. She didn't drink or smoke or swear, and looked offended if anyone swore around her. She was well-behaved and we never had sex before marriage. I didn't really expect her to be a virgin at 27, but didn't inquire about her past.

One night something just came over me and I impulsively asked her if she would perform oral sex. I don't know why I asked that. Then I recoiled, thinking that she would be horrified. But she wasn't horrified. To my utter shock she looked delighted and went right down on me with her mouth.

I just don't know what to think or do. My wife is clearly very experienced at performing oral sex. She deep throats me while maintaining eye contact. She teases my penis with her tongue before taking it in her mouth. She nuzzles her face right into my crotch and licks my balls. She smiles at me with cum all over her mouth.

Where has she been to learn how to do this? I have no doubt that she is extremely experienced at doing this.

She came up with the idea of giving me a blowjob in the car. She knows how to position herself just right to give a blowjob in a car. Obviously she has had a lot of practice. I get the impression that giving a blowjob in a car brings back memories for her. Sometimes if we are driving at night she will ask me if I want to find a quiet parking lot or wait until we get home.

I just don't know what to do or how to deal with this. There is the woman that I married and then there is this woman in my bedroom. She didn't deceive me because I didn't ask about her past. My wife has a way of understating things and she once looked directly at me and told me that she wasn't always into her religion. I now realize that was her way of telling me that she has a past.
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  • Maybe she's just confident. Beauty can help a girl's confidence even if she is inexperienced.
    Either way, maybe it's better that she wasn't always religious because this means that she wasn't drawn to religion by her family and in a way pressured to follow it. It was her choice and is a conscious choice.

    • Lickin balls? Even some bitchs don't do that or do it badly.

    • She suck it before and i think that ok.

Most Helpful Girl

  • To be honest I’m 27 and religious. I the last 3 years I have changed a lot. I gave a guy I have dating 4 months a few blowjobs then another guy I was seeing after second date blowjob and he fingered me. And another guy jerked him off after a few dates and last guy He actually dry humped me in the car and started licking my breasts.

    no one more would ever expect that from me and I’m not planning on telling my future husband bc there is a stigma in our culture.
    I have been so good for so many years and the last phase of my life I was starting to crave it more. Never had actual sex but it’s not easy for us virgins. Don’t overthink it too much and just enjoy your wife and time together!

    • I have to wonder how much of a stigma it is, since you and the guys have no problem doing it.

    • @Red_Arrow I don’t live the the middle east I’m originally from there!

Most Helpful Guys

  • 'sweet, pretty religious girl'

    No such thing as above... or at least as rare as Gold. Always inquire into the past of a woman you plan to invest your life into. Your choice is to divorce, or continue, but the resentment will likely build up. I'm always surprised when any man gets married in this culture... only those that don't know the truth will do such a thing.

  • Two ways I can answer: You're devaluing her because of her sex past

    Orrr you suffer the same problem as me. Retroactive jealousy. OCD issue. Your wife's past sex history doesn't make you devalue her, but you torment yourself with the thought of other guys experiencing her and can't stop

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • I pay mine $20.00 for that favor but I had to train her... Yours comes broken in SO you should be sliding her $40-$50 along with a THANK YOU, Princess. And, you should have one long ass thank you Christmas card List Really now...

  • If you love her that is what should matter the most and she loves you too. Be honest and open with your relationship. Communication is key to any relationship. Ask her about kindly but don't judge her and let it mess up the love y'all have together. If you think it will then forget about it and move on. Love her for her as she loves you for you.

  • She had sex before you met. Ok. It's she doing it now? Or are you just complaining about how good she is in bed? She's with you and wants to have fun WITH YOU. Just love that and enjoy it.

  • Do you have a sexual past?

  • its the past... why does it matter? if you really want to know, i think you need to ask. sounds like you have a very closed relationship when it comes to sex talk.
    talk and you will find out. my fiancee and i aren't embarrassed about that stuff, we talk about sex... i think it makes for better sex i think

  • What about you bud? Are you a virgin?

  • Once a ho, always a ho.

  • What is there to deal with, it's in the past, she is with you now, nobody else. Just sit back and enjoy the fruits if her laborious past.

  • Forget about it, consider yourself fortunate. Whatever is in her past, if anything, it's over. Besides, maybe she is simply well-read.

  • Okay, thanks for sharing the details. This seemed like more about the details and what she can do, if anything else...

  • You benefit from her experience

  • I would not worry about it. You are her one and only now. Just relax and enjoy her company. Never overthink a relationship, or you could start down a dangerous road to destruction. Best wishes and be happy tht you have a wife who enjoys these things.

  • If you and your wife have a solid relationship (it sounds like you do), is her sexual past really that important? You have her now, and she has you... isn't that enough. Enjoy your time together, including the intimacy. Many men would love to have a wife who does what she does.

  • Everyone has a past. It was not something that you thought about before you were married. You should not be concerned about it now. Just enjoy the fact that she loves to please you.

  • it matterd little. she chose to be with you and you her. just enjoy it.

  • You have a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets. It's rare, but it happens. It's also the goddamn dream for most men.
    Congrats.

  • If you love HER... then nothing else matters.
    Only a stupid fuck head would come up with reasons not to enjoy an expert blowjob.

    Her past is of no concern if she isn't a criminal or did didn't give you any STDs.

    Shut up and enjoy it.

  • Write stories about it and mail it to me. That might help you get it out and deal with it.

  • 😕... Did she say she was virgin or something? Who cares, man; she's with you and she had a life before you. Get over it.

  • It seems her past makes the sex better

    • …but also less desirable. It’s a turn off.

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