How common is it, in reality, for a man to only desire to have sex if he's emotionally connected?

How common is it, in reality, for a man to only desire to have sex if hes emotionally connected?
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  • We are sexual beings we exist because we have sex. You can't make babies with only love. People believe love does increase the chances of ofspring. So its possible for a guy to only want sex its in our genetic code. Right there with eating drinking breathing. Its necessary for survival as a species. We are ever evolving and my evolved brain thinks that its more common in a sexually inexperienced male. The more experience I've become the more I realize that the odds of me having a more gratifying sex life. A better all around experience us going to be with someone I care about and love. So I don't put myself in situations where my appetite for sex for the sake of sex would come before maintaining a sexual relationship with someone I care about. Because I know where the good sex is. I have been in relationships where me and someone I care about brought another women into the bedroom as a couple for nothing more than sex

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  • The best sex is when you are emotionally connected. Most of the sex I ever had was with girlfriends. We were deeply infatuated. But there's a difference between that and love. I never thought about settling down or getting married until I was in my mid-30s.

    • I have to agree with you there. Having a connection is one thing but being in love is totally different

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  • I dated maybe only 3 guys who felt that way. And That was not even 25% of the guys i talked to

  • Mmmmm..
    I think if a man is emotionally connected, also he desires to have sex.

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  • I'm one such man. No connection means empty sex. Not for me, thank you very much.

    • beautiful and encouraging to hear 🌹

  • I'd say it's very common to prefer an emotional connection. Probably the norm. But when you ask if he ONLY wants sex if there is a connection, that is probably a minority of men.

  • I'd say unlikely but I'm only guessing. It doesn't make sense to only want sex if you are emotionally connected. When you say "only want sex" you mean he doesn't want to commit to a relationship with that person? I mean there might be some that for some reason really don't want to settle down and those might go against what they feel for someone but I believe it's rare but again I'm only guessing.

    • Thanks Simon

  • It's probably rare, although that describes me to a T. I'm definitely not a "pump and dump" guy, like most men are. I hate admitting this, but I'm similar to a woman in that I can't be aroused (at least, to climaxing level) without mental stimulation. I think the amount of sex all throughout society and pop culture has desensitized me to just a pretty face and nice body alone.

  • Less than 1%

  • No I need anemoilonally connect 100 % IF I don't then we are not goingbto have sex make love or fuck

  • I'd say very uncommon most men can separate emotional attachment from sex and use it for pleasure alone

  • I'd say sex is attraction. Many men have paid for sex and left without feeling attachment to girls. I think an emotional connection is deeper than sex. To me, it's treating them like family. Like a brother. Thats a deep emotional connection that does not involve sex yet has strong emotional closeness.

    I'm not saying sex can't make emotional closeness happen, I just don't think that every time sex is desired that emotional closeness is behind that

    • Very realistic answer I would say

    • Thank you ☺

  • Cuddling is on equal footing with sex with me.

  • No idea. I'm that way but I think it's a bit immature. If the other person is willing why not enjoy an NSA liaison?

  • That's not common at all, at least I would assume that it's not.

    A man that's emotionally connected to you is going to want more from just sex from you.

    • *is going to want more than just sex from you*

  • I have no idea. I would prefer it that way, and I mainly feel that way, but not always.

  • well personally i dont like to sleep around if thats what you mean, its pretty rare tbh

  • We all long for a connection with someone which includes great sex and physical intimacy.
    Casual sex can be fun with no strings attached however it's more transactional without the emotional connection.

    • I've had casual sex and you do notice the difference.

  • That is what being demi sexual is all about

  • Since your question says "to ONLY desire sex IF emotionally connected...", then I have to say it's extremely rare among young men and somewhat rare among middle aged men. Guys will have sex with anything that turns them on about 95% of the time, I believe, especially if they're single and under 30. A mental connection is not necessary, it's a bonus.

  • Hmm- I don't know. It's a reality for me, but I've heard that other guys don't think the same way as I do.

    • You are unique

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  • If a man emotionally wants a women then he will only truly want her. But men have the ability to block out emotions completely and thats when they start doing other things while women from what i have seen, some of y'all have a hard time doing it. So in short yes if a man truly wants someone he will only want sex with that one person maybe, honestly fanasties and wanting to make some of your wishes come true doesn't mean he won't still love you afterwards

  • Very uncommon imho,,,

  • Uh... I’m not going to say an emotional connection isn’t nice an all, but I’ve wanted to hookup with plenty of girls I who were annoying af or who I couldn’t stand.

    Being with a girl is way different than wanting to fuck her.

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