How do I give oral sex without looking like a whore?

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I am 38 and newly divorced. I have done all I can to make myself trim and attractive and have often been told that I have done very well. My ex-husband is the only man I have ever had sex with and I have never performed oral sex.

I just crave to get into giving oral. I don't want to do it to a bunch of guys. I just want to get one guy that really enjoys it. I have watched about a thousand blowjob videos. I really want to do it but don't want to come across as a whore. How do I get a guy to ask me to suck his cock? Maybe I will ask him to do it to me then he will ask if I will do it in return.

All I want is a mouthful of cock. I want to just devour it until it bursts in my mouth. I once tasted a bit of my husband's cum when he didn't see me and I love the taste of it. I want a mouthful of it.

How do guys feel about having their balls licked? How long do you like it for?

Just how do I get it started without looking like a whore? I welcome tips from anyone and may be interested in guys as young as 18.

RavVid · Accepted Answer

You are worrying too much. More the crux point is when you have sex with the guy in terms of not looking like a whore. If it seems to us, that sex to you is like a goodnight kiss and just as significant then you can't blame us for thinking you will have done the same with a lot of guys. You might think cock sucking is whorish - not having yet done it - but we won't.

Now what and how to do it.

I think every guy wants a girl to give his cock a LOT of attention and to really enjoy it in a similar way to how we enjoy your body. IRL we might only get as much as it takes to get us revved up (probably taking our trousers of has done that already) and then the center of attention flips to the girl. I would greatly like a girl who gives my cock a lot of attention.

I like it being touched and held - a bit more touch than basic stroking. One girl wowed me by tapping her fingers on my cock like she would a piano. No greater compliment can I pay then I have made every girl do this since her. You don't need permission or to be asked to touch or suck. I like to anticipate myself so maybe migrate your hand down slowly and pick his cock up curling your fingers around it.

I really like the tip of my cock being kissed. It just excites me. And I would like the girl to start penetrating her mouth gradually with a lot of lip i. e. pushing your lips over our head. Our sensitive spot is the frenulum. So give that a lot of attention with your tongue.

Don't forget your fingers! Stroke but also squeeze. Some guys (myself) find it so frictionless that it is difficult to cum in a girls mouth. And I can't thrust as I would in your vagina so you need to provide the friction that enables me to ejaculate. You could just curl your fingers around so I get friction from that.

And yes deep throat is magic so be prepared to work on your gag reflex!

Pay a lot of attention to his reactions. Most girls seem to do it by rote e. g. stroke up and down and a precious select few seem to know intuitively what to do. I think that attunement comes from attention to the guys reactions.

Above all have fun. How many girls have pretended my cock is a stick shift and made gear changing noises as they went from 1st to 5th? Well that would be one. Above all have good teasing fun with the guys cock. No harm in telling the guy you are on your sucking learners plates.

I'm sure you'll be a great cock teasing cock sucker Wannadoit!

Lliam · Accepted Answer

Being eager and enthusiastic about sex does not make you a whore. Embrace your sexuality. Revel in the sheer pleasure.
Don't let time pass you by or you'll regret it.

I don't have any advice about finding the kind of guy you want. But most guy would welcome a BJ.
You could start out be wearing something a bit revealing and that would give easy access to your tits.

Go on a date or get into an intimate conversation someplace where you are alone with a guy. At some point, stand close so that your bodies are touching, look up searchingly into his eyes, then put your hands on top of his shoulders, lift up onto your tip toes and give him a soft lingering kiss. See how he responds. If he puts his arms around you and kisses back, surrender to him and let him squeeze your tits and ass and run his hands over your body while you hungrily French kiss. Rub and squeeze his cock through his trousers. That should get him hard.

At some point, there are any number of ways you could initiate a BJ.
One way would be so simply sink to your knees and gaze up into his eyes while unfastening his trousers.
Or, when you are kissing, you could shyly explain that the only man you've ever been with was your ex husband who never wanted oral sex and it's something you always wanted to do. You want to feel a man cum in your mouth. You want to taste and swallow it.
A lot of guys would be turned on by your innocence.

The only thing to beware of is that he is disease free.

Yes, it feels great for a guy to get his balls licked. You have to be careful not to suck too hard or pull on them because that can hurt. But taking them into your mouth and licking all over feels wonderful. Burying your nose between them while you lick is hot. Lifting them and licking the tender backside of the scrotum and perineum is amazing, too.

Here is an excellent guide (parts 1 and 2) on how to give a perfect BJ.

chrissykerdock · Accepted Answer

if you want to be asked without asking... wear a short minidress or skirt... if and when you make out with him touch his crotch... either gently rub it or just touch he may want it then... worst case scanario you can always say do you like blowjobs... but i'm certain if you make out with him your there... if it's 1st date you may not get to that but i'm sure showing a lot of skin will get him horny enough to ask you... for me a lot of men ask... they'll say do you give head or blowjobs... can you suck my cock... things of that nature and elk... giving oral sex without looking like a whore... interesting concept... but guys don't care as they love it too much to judge in that case.

Bachorellete25 · Accepted Answer

My go to advice. Get dolled up and look really nice and then find a guy u like and make out somewhere private like your house, car etc. Make it a good hot and heavy make out. Maybe "accidentally " touch his dick. Act like ur surprised he hard. Say u don't want to be a tease but ur not ready to have sex yet. Ask. if they be okay with just a blow job. Works 100% of the time

RespectfulGuy · Answer

Oh come on! It's 2023 lady, not 1923. And you yourself wrote that you watched oral sex on videos.

Yes, good lady, oral sex is so common that it's what couples do during initial few dates.

Hence if you don't get material items or money from it, you're not a whore.

And oral sex is all about enthusiasm. Show him that you enjoy doing it. Have a little slurp (not too much), learn to deep throat, and yes, swallow.

And I think you have the qualities to be good at it.

And yes, watch the TV series Sex and the City. Samantha uttered "I give head to get head". That statement is arousing to me. Perhaps it will to your new guy also.

Anyway, you're an experienced lady. You'll be prized in today's society. Have fun. 😜

kylee2437 · Answer

Honestly if you are interested in sex, just stop caring what others think. You don’t receive brownie points for staying pure especially if it’s something you don’t want to do. I’m willing to bet the older women that stood pure regret doing so and wish they had better sex experiences. Put the ego to the side and enjoy yourself.

Leapfrog00 · Answer

You won't look like a whore. Oral sex is common among couples or even just people who just like to hook up to do it. Honestly, it's best if you give oral sex like a hooker. Guys find that a major turn on, and no decent guy will say it makes you look like a whore.

I had a friend that sucked me off before and she sucked me off like a pro and I busted in her mouth in like 3 minutes, and I never thought she was a whore just because she was good at it. I think it's stupid that girls earn titles of whores because guys have just as much sex as girls!

Having the balls licked adds to the excitement. They are really sensitive and when a girl licks and sucks on mine, I cum really quick. When you go to suck on the guy's dick, just make sure there's lots of saliva for lubrication and milk him while doing it, or you can even try it hands free to switch it up where you massage his dick with your lips and tongue.

No matter what way you do it, if you have lots of saliva and make sucking noises, the guy will cum a lot harder. One girl I hooked up with used to moan when I came and it used to make me shoot loads of cum in her mouth. Every guy is probably different though. Either way, I'm sure he will enjoy it.

ohsheeT · Answer

First of all just be yourself there is a difference you know from a girl that likes doing what she does because she wants to versus the girl that's doing what she's doing because she wants money two completely different worlds you deserve that right to do anything you want it's nobody else's business it's your right to do it the best way you possibly can do it the way that it gets you up I like to become one with the person that I'm having sex with because if I can get her to become one with me that I'm going to take her to the Moon same thing with you enjoy yourself have fun you only have so much time left in this world enjoy it no matter what you do in life there's always going to be somebody that judges you it's because they hate themselves usually or they want to be like you or you're better than them whatever is in their head they're going to judge you and you if they call you a name just say I am too then they don't know what to say have fun that's what it's all about experience something new experience Something Beautiful experience something to take you to a different level in life

chloeaimeejensen · Answer

I’m sorry babes but if you want to suck a dick to get creampied in your mouth then you’re gonna look like a slut no matter what, we all do. Embrace you’re inner slut and have a good time is what my advice to you is.

katiesmuff · Answer

Could be wrong but this story sounds just a bit on the hokey side to me.

purplepoppy · Answer

Don't gargle with it.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

When you have feelings for someone, you grow fond of everything about their body.

You want to do your best to make them feel great, you feel like everything about their body is worth loving and their body is a temple through which you pray to the God of love.

When you do it with someone you have feelings for, you don’t feel like a whore.

Anemone978 · Answer

Sucking dick is actually pretty shit, and when he cum's that might be it for action lol

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

First, ask why your marriage didn't work out, and what you need to do about it. Then, when some time has gone by and you are clearly separated from the circumstances that led to the divorce, check yourself that you aren't making the same mistakes. When you find a new man to serve as a worthy husband, seek to be a worthy wife.

Next, limit it to the shower. Keep mouthwash handy. Communicate. Know your limits and his. And keep the focus on each other, with little to nothing to distract.

Work within your range and his.

But most of all, don't be so desperate as to come off looking like you're ready to blow the first guy that looks willing. It will end badly, and your association with him - even if brief, WILL make you seem like a whore. The more you rush to course-correct, the faster you rush it, the worse it will backfire.

rachel776 · Answer

just find an amateur porn video with a girl sucking cock the way you want to and do it like her

abc3643 · Answer

I'm sorry but I have to ask: Why didn't you give your ex-husband oral when you were married? He might have still been your husband now had you done that... ;)

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I mean it's not exactly a taboo act. i'm not sure how you'd look like a whore unless you hold your hand out afterwards and say "that'll be x dollars now"

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

I can’t imagine it’s hard to get asked for a blowjob. If you flirt with a guy and escalate, it WILL go there.  As far as seeming like a whore, don’t worry about it. Just enjoy yourself.

slatyb · Answer

Forget the haters and do what you want. Any man who would judge you for engaging in sexual activity with them or anyone is not someone you want to be around.

MementoMori777 · Answer

you'll have to find someone that won't just use your for busting a nut tho cause realistically all you need is for them to brag about it and that might give you the title, its somewhat delicate tbh, jist cause you got urges doesn't mean you should always follow those urges cause that can end up backfiring on you, that all depends if you really care tho

AviatorTom · Answer

Follow @chrissykerdock advice... don't just suck his cock, play with it, make love to it. Use your lips, tongue and hands. Kiss it, lick it, suck just the tip, stroke it, tickle his balls, and take as much of his cock in your mouth as you want. And most important... enjoy!

Bricealan · Answer

Honestly, I have never considered what you have said, regarding 'feeling like a whore'. I have been sucked on a first date by several girls/women, and honest to god, never gave it a thought as to it making them look bad. Next opportunity, if you are both nude, or he has his penis out, just drop down and put your lips on it and go from there.

The only thing I thought was afterward, that I did not, or maybe did not eat their pussy before or after.

As an afterthought, I have, at times, felt like a 'male whore' for performing oral/anal sex on my girlfriend and wonder if it had lowered her level of respect for me... so you see the sword cuts both ways...

Dargil · Answer

How do I get a guy to ask me to suck his cock? Maybe I will ask him to do it to me then he will ask if I will do it in return? Initiate 69. Once you are undressed, reverse-straddle him and then slide into 69 position with your V where he can see and reach it. If you need a road map, AV and even Hentai stills can help make it "neat". And just start suckin'. You won't look like anything except an expectant V. And the more aroused he gets, the more "thirsty" he will become.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

By not charging money for it.

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