How do I stop myself from sending nudes?

I always do this with guys (18+) I meet online.
I really need to stop. I'm so disgusted of myself.

This started when I did this for my first boyfriend. During that time, I discovered that i really like taking nude photos of myself. It turns me on. But then, we broke up.

It's like I was so used to it that I did it for other guys (strangers) too. Then afterwards, I feel used. It felt good when I did it for my boyfriend before. But for strangers, I don't know. I feel so dirty.
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  • It’s all about willpower. Also, remembering the negative consequences of sending nudes will probably help you to stop sending them. Don’t think about the satisfaction you get from doing it, think of the consequences.

    • yes, I'll bear that in mind. thank you ❤️

    • No worries, all the best. Identifying the problem is the first step, so you’re already halfway there. The second step is to make it happen :)

    • yes yess, i'll do my best to get rid of it. thank you again.

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  • It's cool, if you really want to stop send one for me lol... but in a nutshell just try avoiding questions or chat that turns you on and that leads to you sending them... but by the way I still want mine lmao

    • lol yes, avoid everything that turns me on. copy that.

    • Lol how about mine😂🤣

    • hey I'm quitting that already

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  • Good for you, girl. I'm proud of you for asking this.

    Here, I just answered this q. Think about this girl:
    I sent him naked photo and he is ignoring me, what should I do?

  • Your update made me laugh 😂

  • It is just a turn-on for you, or has it gone beyond that, becoming part of your self-image? What is it that you seek in sending nudes? What keeps you doing it? Here are some thoughts, off the top of my head:

    -If you were to, say, bake cookies for a sad stranger, you'd make them feel better, and you'd feel better about yourself as the kind of person who'd do that; who'd see someone and want to make them happier. A sexy picture could fulfill the same function- but you risk feeling dejected afterwards. A human's relationship with his or her brain is weird that way. There have been times when something as simple as a smile from a pretty girl has made my day- do you think the smiling girl felt lousy afterwards? I hope not. If this is part of your motivation, consider experimenting to see where your lines are, and how doing different things makes you feel.

    -It could be that you're just enjoying some attention, perhaps specifically male attention, perhaps not, and sexual stuff is a great way to get that attention. There's nothing wrong with that, but if the cost, or concerns about the quality of what you're getting ("is s/he actually interested in what I'm saying, or just in seeing me naked?" [do note the importance of that 'just'; friendliness and lust are by no means mutually exclusive]), then perhaps it's time to either try striking up conversations on other topics, or talking to new people (or both).

    -If it's isolation and/or sexual frustration getting to you, well, that's tricky. I don't know where you are, but here in US, a lot of places are still (at least partially) locked down, and a fog of fear, depression, and malaise permeates the very air. I suspect sex would be fantastic at lifting that fog, at least for a little while. But whether it's sexual or Platonic, connection with another person is two-way; ask yourself what you're getting out of your interactions, and if you're not satisfied, ask for more or stop.

    Like I said, these are just some thoughts. I hope it helps.

  • Figure out why you need to exploit your body to strangers. Do you get a self-esteem boost out of it?

    • I don't need it but as I said I was so used to it that whenever someone asks even strangers and out of impulse, I just send em some from my gallery

  • See there's something that goes with thst tho i know if im chatting with a girl and she sends a photo i look at it on how it was taken and the message that it is saying i send one back ,, and I hear what your saying but do you think it's more than just the photo that you are sending I mean for me it's about when u said in turns me on that right there is so hot because for me I would feel that in your pictures but it woukd make me so hot that I would want to sext with u and then see the next picture you send and what you say with It. For me that's the hot hot HOT PART if your taking a hot sexy picture with a story for me ,, I mean if I wss you that's the part that would be the part that would be hard to stop,, I mean for me I love that and for me I like when that happens because that means she wants to feel something and then that makes me want to give her that feeling plus the one I want to let her feel from me so I don't know if I could answer this except to say is it just your pictures or is it all the above that you have to look at and ask

  • Start by deleting all your nudes so you have none handy. It’s not convenient to strip at work or a moments notice and take a nude pic. Next, make a rule you won’t send nudes till after you meet in person. Finally, don’t accept nudes and you’ll be less likely bro reciprocate. If you have to send nudes, send them someone else’s. Lol

    • you're good lol thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️ I'll do that

  • Its hardly something you slip up and end up doing.
    I mean taking nudes requires you to strip and find good lighting and take the pictures then send them to a guy if it's something you're trying to do you have plenty of chances to rethink what you're doing.

  • Well dont do it for strangers, and what I mean is just wait a while, you dont have to wait till they are full on boyfriend but maybe weight till you know them pretty good.

    Maybe try to trade them for something from him? What is something you want to know about guys that they dont like to share?

    I dont like that you are disgusted with yourself, you like to take them and its sounds like usually like to show them so long as you dont end up feeling like you got used.
    So I think making them wait longer and work harder to get them would help you avoid that used feeling.

    Or like really if I guy asks for them, just say "what's in it for me" put it on him to come up with something you find interesting or worth while to trade for.

    It kind of sounds like you enjoy showing off your body and that's perfectly fine, nothing wrong with it, people may react poorly to it but that's cause they are shitty people, poor reaction dosent mean you made a poor choice.
    it does unfortunately attract the horny inconsiderate guys and I dont know how to avoid that, sorry.

  • That's a difficult answer but the only way I can see to stop is to talk about this to a professional who will most probably specialist in this area is Although there is help available you need to recognise what triggers this behavior I would say it's a type of sexual abuse certainly in the first case You had analysed what you had done and why but you felt discussed Your telling yourself it's bad I would say maybe this almost a domination situation You know it isn't you but it's to late to stop what you have done but concentrate on what you can from here on Any other help just just give me a shout x

    • yes! domination!

    • This did happen with him. I'm trynna giving lots of reasons for me before to pass on sending stuff but he would insist. He sometimes use his depression from his past girls, and how nudes are really needed in a relationship. Until I just do it, upon his request.

    • is that a form of sexual abuse?

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  • You probably do so because the conversation gets steered in that direction, try to deviate from that, it's going to take a little bit of self control, you can get intimate and even sexst, but try to steer clear from conversations about seeing your body or theirs
    Good luck

    • thanks

  • simple anyone decent won't ask you for nudes, if you ended up offering them once you've gotten to know them better then fine... but just dont send anyone any unless you have passed a threshold in the get to know them process, and many people tend to seek nudes and then once they have them ghost the sender...
    anyone who is truly interested in you or anyone for that matter will want to get to know who you are... and learn as much about you as possible and actually want to continue to know you... even want a relationship of whatever form you are both ok with

  • Pick someone you trust and write up a contract. The contract will be


    “I hereby promise to not send nudes to anyone for any given reason. If I break this contract I am to forfeit $100 dollars for every picture sent to the witness that signs this contract with me.”


    Sign it. Give it to them. Either go broke or stop sending nudes.

  • Don't get naked in the front of the camera already. C'mon! You can do this.

    • Yes! Thank you! 😊❤️

  • You start sending them too me, instead.

  • Focus on how awful it makes you feel

  • If this is a genuine question then I appreciate your honesty, I know it not exactly easy to come out with this problem due to the potential criticism.

    Anyways, the most efficient way is to simply abstain from takimg nudes all together. Gotta stop it from the source, just like all other bad habits.

  • Remember that anything you put out there is out there forever. If you truly want to stop, then delete all of the ones you have. If you don't want to, then be smart about it. Never show your face in nudes unless you're in a stable relationshio with the receiver.

  • I just remember that the pics can end up on the internet and everyone could see them

  • Did anyone actually fell for this?

  • They probably collect your nudes and share it with all of their friends. And brag about how much of a man they are... Happened to me, happened to other girls, probably happening to you.

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