Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health How do you feel about hookup culture?
clare25 Xper 3
recently, i received messages from a person whom i had previously seen in passing but had never actually spoken to at length after him seeing me on a social media site. the conversation started out fun and innocent, which turned to him complimenting me on my physical features, which quickly switched to him asking if i was into “sexual stuff”. i responded with an answer that made it clear that i only would if we were in a relationship, and i was not into hooking up. this made me wonder what others’ opinions on this hookup culture is. personally, i’m indifferent, but i would not participate.
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What Girls & Guys Said
49 100Nope.
They just want sex and that is it
I rather have ( which I already am in ) a fantastic relationship and make love with my man whenever we want to do it then to be with someone and just have sex and probably get diseases which I dont want
And u also need to think how many people has he has sex with
Anyone pregant
U gonna get pregant
And etc
I’m indifferent.
I do not care what grown adults choose to do in their own bed. It’s none of my business. I don’t believe it is harmful to society, as it does not threaten any lives outside of the consenting participants.
I don’t participate. I do my best to keep my judgements to myself though.
Disinterested
This has been going on since at least the 1960's. I don't think that's it.
Gross and nasty. Why the hell would you want to sleep with a romdom person you hardly know especially if they usually do hook ups with people. God knows what kind of STDs you could get. I have to much respect for myself to sleep with someone I wasn't in a relationship with. Not but I judge people who do, I just keep my opinions to myself when someone tells me they hooked up with someone.
I don't really care what other people do but just not my thing
Why is the sight all about hook ups.
My god people get a life. Find someone you like, and stay true too your self and your partners.
It’s not all about sex or how many people you want to sleep with. Or how many you had. Seems like a lot of cheapers on here, giving opinion.
Indifferent also. But everyone has needs so if it’s been some time in between relationships, I’m good with a hookup or friends with benefits. I prefer live flesh to plastic 😉
I used to hookup pretty regularly with random guys before I met my current boyfriend. We've been together several years and we're having a baby. Personally I think that's an individual's business and I don't have the right to judge how many people they hookup with. It's quite a lonely lifestyle in my opinion. At least I wasn't fully fulfilled until I actually met the love of my life lol
I think a person that sleeps around a lot should tell the boyfriend how many there were before him on health concerns basis. I can tell you that if I were told about many previous guys, it would be a deal breaker and I would want to move on for my search for a decent person.
So someone that has a promiscuous past is automatically unworthy of a real relationship? And I assure you I'm clean.
Yep, that would how I see it. I would have to question someone's standards and decision making. I sure wouldn't want someone like that to be the mother of my children.
What if you got such a woman pregnant?
I would never have sex with a woman like that in the first place. I know from how she acts , she is slutty and I would head for the other direction.
If you say so lol
Oh I know so, I have had women like that come on to me. Usually where I worked. I could have had sex with at least 30 of these type women. I dont have respect for them and can't even be friends.
So every woman who wants to have sex with a man who's not in a relationship is a bad person and deserves to be forever alone and childless? What about men who are promiscuous? Do they also not deserve loving lasting relationships?
I think it depends on what stage of life you are at. If you work and travel a lot, hookups are perfect for this scenario. If you have been single for a while and just need a good fukk and not a boyfriend then hookups is the way to go. I went through the hook up stage... most men called me a "cock tease" because they had to wait 60 before I would fukk them. Oh well, there loss, my gain 😊✌
an old slut
Well 60 minutes is a long time... jk 60 days isn't too bad I guess. Especially if you're testing him for a relationship
"Hookup culture" has always been in society and was mostly exclusive to the rich in the past. I'm neutral on this. Most people will choose a relationship instead if they met the right one. For some, they don't know what the right one looks like. Some hookups eventually turn into real relationships
What do you mean if was "exclusive to the rich in the past"? I didn't know your wealth prevented you from having sex whenever you wanted to...
@Raven_76 It was frown on (and still is to different extents) or even punished by society even though the rich did it.
Hookup culture isn't a new phenomenon. Younger people are just way more vulgar & outspoken about it.
That said, I don't do ONS but I don't really feel like committing to a relationship until a person that's really worth that comes along and I think more and more people feel the same, thats why there's more people just getting into fwb-relationships.
Oh I see, you’re just riding the cock carousel until you find a beta male provider by the time you hit the wall. Correct? And no, “more” people aren’t getting into it. Most people would prefer a committed relationship but people like you made it so toxic no one wants to bother looking for one.
@BraveHeart97 I can very well provide for myself but thanks for making such lovely assumptions you sad little incel :)
It makes the dating world a hard place. I personally dislike it because I'm usually the kind of person that needs a connection beforehand and thus like relationships better.
SAVE THE WORLD from hookup culture
I have mixed opinions. On the one hand, I would never engage in a romantic or meaningful relationship with someone who handled sex it sports or something like that. I consider it frivolous to do so. On the other hand though, human curiosity and experimentation through sex is very natural and I would not wish to persecute consenting adults for engaging in it. I have had sex with people I had not yet loved, and its inferior sex to me, but its still better than nothing or at least it felt that way at the time. The culture of making a body count to distinguish yourself sounds very risky, the idea of sex as like practice for more meaningful sex in the future sounds profane, and I think most of the time hookup culture amounts to scratching an itch in a way that fucks with how you value yourself & others.
I don't honestly think it is that popular though. Like most people engage in it, but I don't think they do for too long, and some people become repulsed by it let alone feeling a lack of particular interest.
I definitely blame hookup culture for some of these drug resistant strains of diseases like ghonnorhea. That's partly a lack of education, partly the primalistic inhibitions of hookup culture, and partly a poverty issue.
The idea of waiting until sex before marriage is atrociously silly for Me personally. I think its a holdover of religion & have no intent of getting married unless its like a thing that would make my partner happy, but there's a fine line between never having sex or intimacy without being totally invested vs having zero investment, care, or even interest for the many people you will have sex with.
Not for me and I wouldn't want to date someone who does it.
How would sex be special anymore when you do it with anyone? If it's so easy to get into your pants then it would be easier and more likely for you to cheat when something is wrong in the relationship. You also have higher chances of getting STDs.
emmily2396, good answer!!✌
While from a legal perspective i support the right for individuals to sleep with whoever they want as long as it's mutual. But morally and rationally, I have qaulms with it because we as individuals have reportedly been feeling less and less happy with our love lives on average and I can only assume hook up culture is at least partly to blame.
While I'm not conservative in any way, I don't think valuing family, companionship and strength through uniting bonds should have anything to do with politics. But sadly, it seems to have found itself on politcal lines.
I think it is absolutely disgusting and I have never participated in it. I believe in monogamy and only having sexual intimacy with the person that I want to spend a long time with/marry.
Its really bad in the long run, as less and less people are actually commiting to a real relationship or marriage.
It only leads to more and more people staying alone for the rest of their lifes and not starting a family and get offspring.
A very frightening thought for the future of western culture.