How do you feel about people using sex as a weapon to get what they want?

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Whether its withholding as punishment, using it as reward or blackmailing which can verge on dangerous grounds. Both men and women do it.
Of course these are all different circumstances but either way 'sex ' is the main component.

What are your thoughts?

How do you feel about people using sex as a weapon to get what they want?

torgor67 · Accepted Answer

Well I don't feel any particular way but is obviously not good unlike even if those types of women can be viewed as sexy and if its for punishment then its not so bad I guess. But the main reason I wanted to write this opinion is I wanted to say that sometimes the deadliest words aren't spears and swords but rather the things we least expect such as sex or money or even friendship can be used as a weapon. Honestly literally nearly every emotion and mental trick can be used as a weapon if your skilled enough which is why it can be scarier than physical weapons which you normally see coming unless its a surprise attack.

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

When I was dating and we got to the point that sex was on the table, we had what I call The Talk. One critical element of that was striking an agreement that we would never weaponize two things: communication (not talking to the other) and sex. It worked great. Even if she doesn't want to talk to you, she's agreed and, being a Dom into S&M, I'd "beat" it out of her over my knee.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Some people truly dont deserve sex if they fcked up... so i think its okay for both guys/girls to withhold it under certain circumstances... mainly when unmarried. Once married, i dont care how mad i am at you, unless you cheated or sumn, we still bangin at the end of the week

elizamichale1 · Accepted Answer

Well if that worksout fine for them then why not You would use all your skills to get something done so why not sex

AmanoYin · Answer

It's fucked up cuz its hot... but also can be actually fucked up... So it's a really weird grey area

Lliam · Answer

Such behavior would be extremely toxic in a relationship.

QooLipBite · Answer

Well as long as consent is given by both sides, it’s really up to the person being manipulated whether they’ll allow themselves to succumb or not. It’s their choice.

nonratracereality · Answer

Simple I am a real person so everything is in the open nothing to hide no game playing. If you have to resort to that then you're out of your league if it's not natural its not

ohshee · Answer

If it's one of those things that come up in a flasvas a joke and tease I like it because its a form of 4 play. But if it's a power play to get some thing I would look her deep in the eyes and say ok. Um hold on a min I have some thing for u in my car walk out get in to I it and drive away

TJFreshman22 · Answer

Honestly for punishment or reward I find the idea fantastic. If you crush your deadlift goal or bench goal, coming home with your girlfriend super proud of you and having her fuck the hell out of you would be the icing on the cake to a perfect day. And if you've not gotten off your ass into the gym, or been eating like a slob all week, having her withhold it from you until you step your game up and win her back over would be excellent motivation to get off you butt, out of a rut, and kick some ass.

abc3643 · Answer

It's not very effective otherwise the US Military would be using it.

Jjpayne · Answer

It's sad to use it that way. I'd feel like relationships and marriages can have that happen too but it's more, if you go do this favor for me, I'll do a little something for you...

Agape93 · Answer

Support it in some cases.

DJB72 · Answer

Men can't possibly use sex to get what they want... Sex IS what they want!

KingdomForAKiss · Answer

It's manipulative to use sex as a weapon.  I can see that it could be considered a "reward" in a way but it shouldn't be treated as such.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

That's why I always say do a background check on people you meet whether it's a date or going into a relationship, find out who you're with isn't a dangerous person.