How important is sex to an intimate relationship, and when do partners usually start having it together?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

Sex is essential to an intimate relationship, otherwise it's just friendship.

I don't think there is a typical amount of time before a couple begins having sex. It's an individual thing.

I would say it's when they become infatuated, decide to date exclusively, and develop a certain degree of trust. It could be after the second or third date, or after several months.

I prefer it soon. After the second or third date is not unusual, but at least after a few dates. Consummating a relationship is how you bond.

I think it's immature and unrealistic to require a pledge of love or lifelong commitment before having a boyfriend/girlfriend (sexual) relationship. You don't start out with guarantees. The relationship is how you discover if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone. And so what if the relationship doesn't last. At least you had a lot of fun and gained life experience.

I would never date someone who was saving sex for marriage. I place zero value on virginity or "purity". And I wouldn't even consider marrying someone unless I knew we were sexually compatible.

I prefer heterosexual women with strong libidos, who love sex, and are not afraid to engage fully in life, but also have dignity, self regard, self respect, and healthy values. In other words, they are picky about who they have sex with and are seeking exclusive, committed relationships. They want me, not just any guy.

Billlewis · Accepted Answer

When I'm in a relationship with a woman, the most important aspect of the relationship is my ability to please her and satisfy her sexually, which I do by providing oral service for her. Aside from sex, I experience intimacy by cuddling and snuggling with her most of the time.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Its not important to me early on in the relationship. But being a bit touchy feely is important starting around the first date. Physical touch is not my love language though. I put words of affirmation and quality time first. But I’m big on kissing, sitting in his lap, and being hugged from behind. Not too crazy about cuddling.

Anemone978 · Accepted Answer

It is very important.. I tend to jump into sexual things pretty fast but only if I seriously like them.

DaveJord · Answer

Very important. To mean you don't even truly and seriously start to test the strength of the emotional bond until you are in a truly intimate relationship. It one thing to have a strong connection with a person, to me the emotion bond is not really until it is consummated. Because for me, you have to have some degree of trust or willingness to want to trust the other person you have to open yourself up to being vulnerable.

So, sex can validate that trust or destroy it.

Qwertsy · Answer

Sex is very important in an intimate relationship. It’s one of the few things that a couple in a monogamous relationship can do with each other but nobody else. To share your body with someone you love while simultaneously giving each other possibly the most intense pleasure a person can feel is a very intimate. And intimacy is important in an intimate relationship.

Lowiu · Answer

For me its very important and like Id say normal is 3 to 5 dates

rachel776 · Answer

it's 1/2 of the relationship and it happens from the first date to 6 months

mandyfire98 · Answer

Sex for me personally is very important to a relationship.

SnowedIn · Answer

Very important. It differs from couple to couple.

asphaltrhymes · Answer

Even as a single hopeless romantic here, lol, I'm not lowering my self esteem lol, I for one say it's very important and I'd say I'd wait at least a month or two. Lol. 😁😀😄😁

slatyb · Answer

Very important to me. In my experience, women I dated were ready for bed after three dates. My wife and I waited a bit longer. I wasn't in a hurry as the chemistry was very strong.

AviatorTom · Answer

In most guy-girl relationships, with a few exceptions, sex is very important... for intimacy, which strengthens the relationship. It can start early in the relationship or much later, it depends on the couple.

Molly1997 · Answer

Incredibly important. Whenever they feel comfortable with each other to do it. I did on the 3rd or 4th date

megabamse · Answer

It all depends from person to person. Everything from first date to 3 months in. But sex is important in a relationship, how ever its not THE most important thing in a relationship

runnerboy · Answer

I think it must vary from one couple to another and it also depends on their age and maturity. I am kinda new to sex so there really was no intimate relationship at the time.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Somewhat important and when both agree to.

gothbxtch · Answer

it’s different for everyone! some people are asexual and in an intimate relationship regardless. it’s best to just take things by your own boundaries and timelines.

kellytheman · Answer

It's quite important maybe more for the guy than the girl but usually a guy and girl might start having within 6 months to. a year. Also I might be awhile if a person want to marry before sex.