Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health How long should you wait to have sex so that a guy won’t use you or consider you easy?
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should it be after dating for 5 months?
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It’s scary because I don’t want to seem easy but i also don’t want to lose anyone
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There are a lot of great answers on here thank you everyone
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31 89Five months? Try five hours... 😎😎
Stop using sex a currency to influence people to do what you want. If you want to have sex with someone then do it and enjoy it in the moment. Don’t act like you are being used for sex when you chose to participate. If a guy likes the rest of you he will stick around. If he doesn’t no arbitrary time limit will make him stay with you any longer. Improve who you are, and more people will want to stick around longer. Eventually you’ll be the one that doesn’t want to stick around because other people need to improve themselves as well.
If nobody broke up with me I would stay with them for years because when i love somebody it is only them and I usually see the good in people unless they behave like an asshole
Everyone sees the good in someone they like until they see the bad. It’s called wearing rose colored glasses. When we get that loving feeling, many of us have unrealistic expectations, we’re optimistic for the future, and tend to ignore some bad behavior for a little while. After several weeks to several months (depending on how much time you spend together) it’s pretty much worn off and you beginning seeing repeated bad behaviors and start to measure the person more rationally and decide if you can live with their idiosyncrasies. It still takes a lot longer to really get to know them, but if there is too much bad people often walk away. That’s not because they “got what they want” or “they were using you for sex”, it’s because they were optimistic in the beginning and over time things wore thin. When there’s not enough substance and chemistry to make it relationship worthy most people are going to leave. They weren’t there just to ‘take’ sex from you, they were sharing a moment with you while getting to know you and letting you get to know them. Most of the time people aren’t really compatible, but every once in a white it works out for a white or maybe a long while. You just have to keep your head up.
5 months? That's half a lifetime!
@Madison2628 Sure
Ahh wait until you are ready
No guy worth having will n dump you because you had sex too soon. But most relationships are short. Is you have sex soon then you will have sex with a lot of guys who don't stick around. Bottom line: you can't tease sex for love. Have sex because you want to have sex, and don't regret it. Don't have sex because you think it will make a guy stuck around. Don't about sex because you are afraid a guy will think you are too easy.
When you are both full blown in love, exclusive and committed... or marriage.
I think it doesn't have an specific time at all. I think it will happen itself🤔
Once he commits to having an exclusive relationship with you.
Till you get married? Haha
I support a 10 date rule. 10 real public dates he plans (or you plan together) and he pays for before The Deed happens. The first two are talk and entertainment only. A paced walking the bases comes after that. 10 dates can be fewer or more or never. The purpose of this is to filter out players, predators and hit and runs. They will not invest much time and treasure in you. They think you are in it for sex as much as they are and will bail out when they realize they have to earn it. For thousands of years, culture knew sex is something women possess and men want. Feminism, government schools and pop culture have told women they are the same as men except boobs and a vagina. In your heart, you know you are more than that and have nothing to gain by jumping into sex. Girls do that because they feel they have to, to be modern and not be left out. Better to stay home than build a big number.
Better to stay home than build a big number! 🙌🏻
There are no rules
My family raised me to wait a LONGGGG time and i still don’t feel ready
Then don’t. It’s when YOU’RE ready
It's not about time. It's about investment, effort and how attention seeking you appear to be. If a girl wants the attention of just any guy, she's generally viewed as easy because it's perceived as her being open to sleeping with just about anyone.
If she only cares about the attention of certain guys she considers of quality she may still be seen as easy to some guys (losers you don't want to deal with anyways), but is more selective.
If she doesn't really care about anyone's attention until she gets to know and like you, then no guy will see her as easy. Even if sex happens relatively quickly. If a guy sees you're just an open fun loving person, but there's no neediness in there for his approval. Then only after you decided you like him that you care some about his attention. He'll feel that it's more "earned" or deserved so to speak.
He had to invest his energy and put in some effort rather than just waiting a set amount of time. I've seen guys call a girl a whore because they slept with him in a 3 date period. Some guys you just have to realize are trash individual.
Don't do it until or unless you are ready.
Respect yourself first and then the guy will also respect you.
A few months after dating. Maybe five or four?
You should wait until he's aleady in love with you.
Also, why would you want to have sex with someone you aren't in love with? I never had to worry about being considered easy because I wouldn't sleep with someone I have no feelings for and obviously that can't be a stranger. Sex should be intimate, otherwise the whole cheating drama wouldn't make sense, right?
I’ve never slept with anyone and I don’t think I’ll want to unless they’re really special to me and i really know them i am definitely not ready though i’m like a little kid lol
If the guy is already in love with you when you decide to have sex you won't have to deal with almost any of the worries that could come up with that. He won't use you for sex, think you are easy or anything like that
But how do you know if he is in love with you?
Easy would be after the first couple of dates. However, some people hit it off immediately, and the first date sex lasts a lifetime.
Putting out early or not won't change if a person is going to use you or not. If word gets around that you're easy, then sure, you're likely to pick up more scum bags.
Your best bet is to make a list of things you're looking for, and make sure the person you sleep with fits most or all of that list if you're looking for something serious.
There are a lot of red flags people ignore because of their other qualities. Don't fool yourself into thinking you can change those about someone.
Short version, make sure the person seems safe, wear a condom, and have sex when you're comfortable. (The amount of dates don't really matter)
That's really dumb. 1 2 3 or 5 months doesn't mean anything lol. You can fuck on second date and end up married or it can be the other way around. Simply you waiting 5 months won't even come close to guaranteeing your relationship will work. It's all a matter of understanding and communicating. I'd say go on dates talk have some convos give it a few weeks see if the person genuinely cares about you then have sex.
You can’t blame me for not knowing. I have never had a real relationship before
Nor did i but now I do. Ofc it's us to blame i mean we're supposed to know it and not someone else. But it's okay I'm not being mean to you it's just that the truth can sound harsh. Don't take it to your heart 👍👍🙃
Well, you know condoms are not going to protect you cause
only about 10 % Men including myself can keep a rubber on
my Cock. So my advice make sure you been on the birth control
shot or get the best birth control out there. I always believe in
waiting to after marriage to have sex. If you feel or get feelings
that a guy is using or wanting sex from you than you want move on
never take that chance and the pull out method does not work once
he sticks it in you that pre-cum contains hundreds of live sperm .
5 months? Seems a long time.
Thete's no right answer. Whenever it feels comfortable for you both
Time shouldn't be a consideration. It will happen naturally when it feels right for you.