How many sexual partners did you have?

[Anonymous]

And have you regretted having any of them?

[violentwalk]

One till now. Don't know about future

[Cubus]

None.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Enough that most guys will get this look and then decide they'd rather just be friends.

[Asker]

Why do you think so? Your sexual partners do not define you. Maybe you chose the wrong guys who do not have respect?

[Aerissa_Jade]

It is more that someone who thinks sex is the most special sacred thing on the planet and the more partners you have, the less value it has. That doesn't work out well with someone who has a lot of partners. Which is why it comes up by the 6th date or so, before things get too seriously going. Some guys have even said, it is like being married a bunch and divorced, it has no value after so many times. This is how the vast majority of guys are around here are who want a long term relationship. The ones that don't just want another number to rack up. Seems like my choice is bad boy who just wants sex or decent guy who is saving himself for marriage.

[Asker]

You devalue yourself. Everyone says everything. ‘’ Some guys have even said, it is like being married a bunch and divorced, it has no value after so many times.‘’ How can someone can see having sex and divorcing same thing? So they see marriage as a sex. I can understand. I do not know where you live and the guys around you but there are many guys who thinks that past is past when really loves someone. Maybe you choose the guys who are religious and i can understand them if they do not want. Or either the guys who do not even love you in the first place. If you did not cheat anyone just having sex does not make you bad person. Be confident and do not devalue yourself. You will find someone who will love you as you are.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Thank you for your kind words. Value is in the eye of the beholder, which is pretty much the mytake I wrote on number of sexual partners last week. No one will ever be able to change someone else values. Some people think of sex and marriage as the same thing, it is actually very common, both men and women do this. Who am I or anyone else to say their values are wrong? Others will say, history doesn't matter at all but then turn around and say it does if someone has a criminal history. They pick and choose what history does matter. Everyone is different, doesn't really matter. No one is going to change anyone's mind about anything. No one should even bother trying. I can see all sides of the situation, it seems to be a unique gift I have. No matter what my personal feelings or beliefs are I can see and sympathize/empathize with the others point of view and how and why they feel/believe that way and why it hurts or doesn't hurt them. I'm never going to convince a guy who thinks sex is sacred that I do too, just isn't going to happen. I also don't want to destroy or tear down his values, because then he would not be the same person anymore. I know I am who I am now because of my sexual past. I never would of done what I did, if I had not been assaulted. A lot of my sexual partners, I was just using guys, strictly for my own self pleasure while trying to regain some sense of control in my life. My regrets are hurting people in the process while doing so. Turns out when I wanted a relationship guys just couldn't get past what I had done. Not all sex is innocent adult fun, some is very damaging mentally, emotionally and has a wide ranging effect to other innocence's who weren't even part of it.

[Asker]

I am so sorry for your assault firstly. I hope you are better now. I strongly suggest you to go therapist it will help you a lot. ( i do not know whether you went or not) of course everything you live makes you who you are now. Men who you were with either religious or conservative i think that’s why it can be hard for them so it is not your fault. Of course everyone can have values and i respect them too. I think when you find who you are compatible with you will be happy. I did read your my take and there are some ‘’sexist’’ comments written by some people who hates feminists because they think they are ‘’sexist’’ hah. 😂 Do not care what people say or think the ones who give right to man to sleep around and do not give women right to do that will be the ones who will marry with the girls who were sleeping around but they would be the ones who would never say their sexual Body count. Because life is like that. Nobody is completely HONEST like you are. You lived something and you are honest about it even though you can lose the man you love. So do not be ashamed of what you live and try to heal your trauma by getting some professional help, i am so sure that you will be happier and find the man who really loves you completely.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Thanks, yeah I've been in a lot of therapy, the joke is... I'm on my 2nd guardian angel, my first one is in therapy with me. I will be okay, no matter what happens.

[DaveJord]

6 with 20 year marriage in between from 22 to 44, no I never cheated on her.

And yes one I did regret. I was 20 and apparently she started her period and didn't know, and I was too dumb not to realize she wasn't that wet from just me. It was dark, and when lights came on there was blood every where.

I actually liked the girl, but she never looked me in the eyes again and avoided me.

[Asker]

Was it like a rape?

[DaveJord]

Of course not

[Jasmine2121]

I only have 2. I only regret the first one.

[MrHopper]

I can't really remember but about a dozen i guess... none to regret really, it happened for a reason

[TheorionMage]

I'm 70, first experience at 16, and to best of recollection '43'
and PROUD to say, NEVER just a one night stand!

"Regale me not with 'how many' had you taken to bed but instead,
HOW MANY invited you return for an 'encore'!"

"Fool me ONCE shame on you; ... fool me TWICE, shame on ME!"

[ChrisMaster69]

I don’t know and I try not to regret stuff.

it’s the past I can’t change it

[Lionman95]

Actually none if we talk about penetrative sex. One talking about petting and oral.
The reasons are: I have a small dick, I´m secure about it. Plus I come a rather conservative-religious family. I became a Christian some years after my first time. Also because I´m single I haven´t had sex since then.

[AndyOh]

A lot... too many really.
No regrets for any of them.
I do regret not keeping the good ones, especially when I was younger.

[AviatorTom]

Considering my age, I haven't had that many. There's only one I sort of regret... it was a one-day stand with a woman who apparently wanted more... I was just looking for the sex.

[DonRollins]

I'd have 16, and I can say 14 of them were 9/10s to 10/10s and I don't regret anyof those, beautiful pretty bodies, sweet girls, good people, still friends with them today and talk to them occasionally.

Only two I regret but they lasted less than a month.

[boishorts]

I’ve only had 3 so far.

[exitseven]

four. I only regret the first one. It was my first time and she was practically a total stranger.

[FunkyMonkee]

3, so far, unless you wanna count the time I dry-humped a girl because, as a premie, she wasn't able to take my dick.
In a way, yes, but not for sexual reasons. The first one used me to make another guy jealous, the second was on the verge of a nervous breakdown and I didn't know it until a week or so later and the third, basically, wasted 10 years of my life and then ended up cheating on me when I COULD'VE gone after the other two offers I had when I started seeing her, or spent my time looking for someone worth while!

[KaminiHoney]

I won't tell you here in the public

[LegendaryIcon]

could have gone anon.

[KaminiHoney]

@LegendaryIcon mean?

[LegendaryIcon]

there is an option for you to go anonymous on here. just click it

[Slotbot]

I’m 37yrs old
Virgin till 20
3 sex partners
1 for 13.5 years ( my first ever mrs the skinny little minx)
1 x 1 night
2 x 3 months


I wish I could meet n fuck 30-50 shielas big small old n young.
I feel like I’ve missed out on so much

[randomize8]

A gentleman doesn’t kiss and tell, but I’d say between 50-80

[RebeccaBI2000]

8 guys and 5 females

[RebeccaBI2000]

No regrets

[kellytheman]

Between 20 to 50. i don't really regret any of them excepet of a couple one night stands.

[jahaims]

One and no

[Neko_Nya]

43 and no regrets, just lots of fun xP