Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health How often do y'all have sex in your relationship? Is there a "normal"?
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IT IS NOT ALL ABOUT SEX. I get that but is it normal to be lucky if I get it once a month? He's stopped me from getting on he really only wants oral but won't give it. Cuz he's "waiting for a special day. " he almost is never instigator. I think the last time he was the instigator it was about 5 months ago... also I only remember him being sober 2 of the 12 times we have had sex within the length of our relationship. (Been together 10 months)... I just wanna feel wanted physically by him...
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37 58If you're unhappy do something about it. He's not worth the effort if he only cares about himself.
Lol ofc there is not a base normal yet equally its crazy how many women are suprised that some guys are not that sexual
I really don't care if it's only once a month the point being I don't feel wanted. I feel that he needs to be drunk to want sex. There isn't a normal number to be able to judge it on but it shouldn't be one sided. Normal should be both partners want each other. And I get my boyfriend is more talk then anything I've known that since before we got together but it shouldn't matter. If I try to talk to him about it I get met with anger from him
Then clearly he dont care about you wants or needs in the relationship if u can't talk to him about the issue
He says that he is working on trying listen better when we talk. I have to see change some time if its true. However on the flip side I know what I can work on and am doing so.
Maybe you need to switch things up and actually listen to his problems, rather than airing out your own, and killing the mood?
Hello misogynist 🥱
Stop giving him oral and you'll start getting sex. It's a give and take kind of thing, you get what you want if I get what I want.
Before kids? It was like 3 times a day. After kids? LOL. Maybe once a week tops. I wouldn't say the "fire" burned out or that my wife is no longer attractive. It's just that priorities become different. After kids, it's no longer about your needs. I've learned I don't care for sex as much as I used to. I find fulfillment with my son and daughter in each arm and reading them a book for bedtime.
Less than once a month... I'm lucky if it's once a year. Almost no sex anymore in our relationship, even though I love it. I don't ask for much, but every couple of months would be nice and would make me more happy.
Damn sexless marriage... Find a side piece
First of all, he is using you and has absolutely no feelings for you.
Secondly, he is a complete douchebag and your an idiot for staying with him.
Lvl up and dump his sorry ass.
If I can get it before work and before bed and maybe also around lunch time one the weekends that's 16 times a week. My girl has a higher libido than me too! 🥰
That sounds awful. I go through phases but generally it's about 3x a week sometimes more sometimes less. But who often it happens or doesn't happen isn't the issue in your relationship it seems. You deserve better.
Me and my wife still has sex daily after 9 years. But at our peak we had it two or three times daily. With my first wife it was a once a week treat. With my first girlfriend three to four times a week. There is no average for one person.
My situation is the same. I'm the only initiator and sex is never desired by my partner. Less than once a month. As someone who is very sexual, it drives me crazy sometimes thinking I'm undesirable or she's not into me or my performance.
Bro, talk with her. If even after a long talk, it continues, trust me, you'll be better off by yourself.
@DiegoO thanks. I've tried but usually initiating talks about sex gets me labeled at overly sexual. And I feel like I have to be overly sexual in order to get attention to the topic of sex or to try to feel something in terms of being desired sexually. I know I have to change the communication to a healthier solution.
It reminds me of my past relationship. I don't know your partner, I can only explain the similar experience I lived. The only thing I can tell you, is to carefully meditate on your feelings and the future of the relationship. Your partner is probably not going to change, and you need to figure out what you really want, in the middle of your discomfort with what's taking place in the relationship.
If you wish you can PM.
Once or twice a day, she loves the dick.
Try twice a year.
Ouch, and I thought I did not have sex often. Sorry to hear that.
Once or twice a week.
same here
I am joking I am a virgin but I think I would probably do it twice a week if I was really in love
Once a month ish for me
My partner and I usually do it a couple times a week. My previous partner didn't have any physical desire or passion which was sad.
Once a week is good for my husband and I, we express intimacy in other ways and sex isn't that important to either of us and not that essential
I wish I had more. It's my birthday coming soon.
When we first started, literally everyday. Switched from condoms to pills cause it was relatively cheaper
My neighbors used to have sex 5-8 times a day, everyday at all possible times in a day. Even in the middle of the night, every night.
They were so loud so it was easy to count.