How to get boyfriend to perform oral on me more often and more gently?

Question

I don’t want to hurt his feelings by bluntly saying do this instead. I really love him. In case anyone wonders, I do blow him a lot and he loves it.

NamerOfStars · Accepted Answer

First: good on you for remembering to take his feelings into account; a lot of people get frustrated with difficulties and let that slip. I'd suggest making a specific mental plan of what you'd like him to try, and think of how it diverges from what he's been doing, and how you might clearly instruct him to change course. Then approach him with it as "something I'd like to try". Coming at it from the angle of "here's something new I want to experiment with" lets you put the idea out there without making it seem like an attack. That way, he doesn't get defensive, and it's better for everyone.

As to doing it more, well, the general rule is, when it works, to lay your responses on kind of thick: don't fake anything, but don't hold back on the moans and the "oh, yes"es (or whatever your equivalent is). Show him, rather than just telling him, that it's getting results, and he'll be all the more eager to do it again.

Bricealan · Accepted Answer

If you don't tell, him he will just keep doing it the same way. Remember, eating pussy is something that a guy likes to do, or just does it because he feels he needs to do it. If you suck him a lot, remind him of that.
He has to LOVE his face between your thighs !

PrettyPriya · Accepted Answer

More often is tough other than hinting you can would like it more. As for rough, get in the 69 position or straddle his face to have way more control. If you lie him down and get on your knees above his face you can even put a hand on his forehead while you move about in ecstasy. This will “teach” him what to do. He should realize what pushes your buttons when he sees the heightened pleasure.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

"That feels good but it would feel even better if you. . ."

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

How does a woman hold her Liquor? By his ears  basically if lying your back grip his hear or ears and steer him. or face sit him and control him

Red_Arrow · Answer

If a guy really cares, he will welcome the help in learning what she appreciates the most. If my gal gave me that kind of help I would be in a hurry to try it all out on her!

spartan55 · Answer

How is he doing too hard? Sucking on your clit too hard?

slatyb · Answer

Have you spoken to him about it? How did her reply?

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Send him video instructions. Most guys are better at handling criticism indirectly. Look online, relationships take work. Make him a sandwich too while he watches it

Fireguy17 · Answer

You will have to let him know what want, and how you like it.
We are not mind readers, so if you would like something specific, or done in a certain way, just ask.
You will enjoy it more, and so will your partner.
Win win.

exitseven · Answer

communication is important and you should just tell him what you would like. He wants to make you happy.

Nikki6t6 · Answer

You just have to be honest with him and tell him that you want it more and to be more gentle.

Wise4myage · Answer

Ask him if he's ever tried the 69 position and that you really want to find out what its like.

Caliguy88 · Answer

I like being told what you want. And I ask. Girls like different shit. Some hard some softer. I’d never be insulted be you telling me how you like it. I’m here to please!

In_Trance · Answer

guide him

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Say it talk to them

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Hit him in the head with a newspaper and tell him to be a good boy and settle down

Scotte1us · Answer

Just tell him its your turn :)

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

tell him you'd like it more often and more gently. if he says no, you need a new boyfriend getting someone to do something they dont want to do, sexually, is rape

CubaPirate · Answer

Strawberry 🍓 lube downstairs could help

Anonymous · Answer

either tell him when he's going down on you or throw him a couple of sex ed books or karma sutra books or tell him to go to a few online links you give him and tell him to study up on how to eat pussy because he sucks at it.