Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Been getting to know a guy since a few weeks, we will meet soon. We mostly communicate through messaging and phonecalls. He is a very serious guy and always tells me he wants to find a wife and build a family and stuff like that. He talks about those things a lot.
the thing i noticed is, he is very very careful when it comes to sexual stuff. We do talk about things like that but he is like i said very cautious.
is this a bad sign? Does it mean he has a small dick?
I am dating a guy and he is not sexual at all - is this a bad sign?
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I asked him directly. He said he doesn't wanna scare me away and that i shouldn't have to be worried about him being able to please me in the future. He is definitely a polite man with manners, you can sense that. But I still think he has a tiny penis. Cause I made a joke about size (to see how he reacts) and he immediately changed the topic lol Im probably not used to men not being crazy about sex from the first second. It has influenced me too, in a negative way, obviously...
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24 39Well there is the possibility of having a small penis but at the same time I am the same way about sex I'm not in a relationship for sex I'm in it for connection. So maybe he is in it for connection as well.
Depends on you, if you are into that
Then you should leave him
Probably just shy how long you’s been together?
He doesn't seem shy at all. Since one month.
He can have a small penisses.. soo What?
He can be demisexual, asexual, shy, introvert... why you dont way to him honestly what you are thinking about this situation and listen his answer?
Honestly I'm disappointed in some of these responses. DO PEOPLE NOT KNOW CONSTANTLY THINKING ABOUT SEX IS NOT NORMAL.
Honestly the guy is just being polite. He isn't trying to be rude and vulgar and is trying to actually provide something to the conversation that isn't about sex. Most likely thing is he us interested in you but is asexual, was raised very Christian and thinks sex is only for reproduction, or will become more open about it with time.
Or none of the above and he just has manners.
@Jamie05rhs ㅋㅋㅋ lol
Just shy and curtious
It’s kind of rude to just assume something like he has a small penis. There are also numerous other possibilities, and some of the other guys brought that up. One that I didn’t see brought up though is medication. There are some medications for mental health that can have side effects like decreased sex drive and delayed sexual response (e. g., escitalopram (aka Lexapro))
TL;DR not everyone is into you joking about their dick and there are also other possibilities. Maybe he is on medications that also affect him with respect to sexual response.
To clarify, I get uncomfortable when people joke about my penis, and I’m on the large end of the spectrum. Sometimes it’s really annoying to get with someone and then you meet her friends a few days later and they’re furtively glancing at your crotch. Or to meet up again and be told “yeah, you know that pic I asked for? I showed a friend because she didn’t believe me”. So yeah, like I said earlier, not everyone is into you joking about their “best leg of three”
This could be the case or maybe he is serious about God and finding a wife. You know not opening spiritual doors with unholy soul ties
No he is just being careful because of how a lot of women are bad with that when a guy starts talking about sex but if you start talking sexual then maybe he will know it’s ok to talk like that
No more jokes. You either Accept him or Move on. He sounds classy or maybe gay.
It's a good sign dude
It's called respecting a girl and treating her like potential wife instead of slut
You've been brainwashed by porn
Too bad
Maybe he is self-conscious about it or not very experienced. As you are still in the size game at age 25+, I suggest you spare him the experience of having sex with you!
"Does it mean he has a small dick?" - WHAT? LOL
It's one of two things, maybe he's just not, some people are like that. It's a "bad sign" if you are the opposite yes, because you're not compatible.
It also could be he's purposely not being sexual so that it doesn't "scare you off". A lot of women get offended very easily if a guy gets sexual too soon. And you women are all so different that way, "too soon" can vary greatly between women.
My advice is bring it up and talk to him. Ask him. If you are the one to bring it up, then he might be more comfortable to talk about it?
You haven't met in person. Maybe he doesn't want to involve those feelings until you have. Maybe he is fearful you are not who you say you are. Maybe he is trying to be a gentleman.
Thank you!
Of course men can never win with women, we are either only thinking about sex or not enough.
Exactly
My boyfriend is the exact same. He really seriously is committed to his morals... but also yes he has a small dick lol and he got burned in the past really bad by his ex. Maybe your guy has baggage. Maybe he has a small dick. Maybe he has strong upright convictions. Maybe a combination of all 3. I would be concerned though if he didn't even seem to be attracted to you / turned on by you. He should at least seem like he WANTS some sort of physical attention, maybe his heart rate goes up when you hug or maybe he likes to cuddle or maybe he kisses you really well or maybe he gets hard around you... you get the idea. Things he can't help. Imho.
He is attracted to me, i know it. But i have a feeling that he does have a small penis...
yeah its kinda weird he should be trying to get you to send nudes or sext. He probably doesn't have much success with women. You might have to go back to the drawing board to find a real man
he's actually an attractive man.
Maybe maybe not, still not successful with women though