Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health When I have sex with my girlfriend, I feel like I am having sex with all the guys she had sex with in the past.
- all diseases of other guys
-all saliva of other guys
-all hormones of other guys.
She told me she had 3 guys in her life and I am her 4th, but I know women tend to hide their past partners.
I don't know what to do, I don't enjoy sex with her anymore, and I can't even tell her that I'm losing interest in her because of her past.
Also, I'm slowly losing respect for her too.
I can no longer continue this, i just can't get over her past.
I can't get over her past, is it time to break up?
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84 104Lol, this is actually kind of sickening. At least she’s honest with you. If you can’t get over it, she deserves someone better. So break up with her and let her find someone decent.
he is not decent?
not if he’s judging her by her past. It’s the past for the reason. She deserves someone who’s gonna stand by her and if he can’t than he needs to let her find someone who can.
just curious if she was the boy what would you say
You cannot change how many times you have had sex and with how many people It’s just a fact. You either get over it or you don’t waste their time.
Well if you break up with her your going to have a past too, what then? That's not to say a womans past doesn't matter but 3? I don't think that's so bad, especially if they where within a relationship. Your over thinking it I think.
I have a question for you, how many girls are in your history?
I just read this question to my boyfriend and he was like "uhm... didn't she washed herself at all after sex with this guys? Otherwise that reaction doesn't make any sense to me." XD
Three guys... really? I would understand it if it would have been 20 or 50 ... but three? You two aren't teens anymore, just saying.
Please, please break up with her to give her a chance to get a guy with less issues.
i think if you can't get over it then yes you should break up with her. but i think you should really work to get over these mental hang-ups rather than succumb to them.
Look dude, when you were born you popped out of a vagina that had some other man’s juices all over it before. You survived. Get over it or get professional help from a licensed professional.
Buddy, this is a personal problem. Three partners? Are you kidding? Good luck finding a girl that has only had two partners. The disease thing can be dealt with by having tests. But those other concerns are very petty. You are going to end up in a lonely life. I'd say this is cry for talking to a counselor and working this out.
For perspective, at my age, I don't even ask. I would expect that number to be in double digits for any potential partner. Think about that for a moment. And you are hung up on THREE? Talk to someone and get this handled before you lose a quality lady.
Get over it, we all have a past. And news flash, women are allowed to enjoy sex and have sex with who ever they want. And being number 4 isn't even a big number. What exactly are you paranoid of? That she's experienced and knows what she wants, cause that doeant sound bad to me. The guys that want virgins just want a girl who won't know how bad they are in bed
" The guys that want virgins just want a girl who won't know how bad they are in bed" THIS!
@Juxtapose I feel bad for guys who want to date virgin women too. Virgin women suck... my last girlfriend was a virgin (unbeknownst to me) and it was fucking torture
@10dsw A cunning, adaptable woman would probably be a great lay even if she was a virgin. A lot of people are plain and inventive unfortunately.
@Juxtapose Yea well I don't want to paint all women with the same brush... but let's be honest... most fall far from cunning and adaptable lol...
@10dsw "Yea well I don't want to paint all JEWS with the same brush... but let's be honest... most fall far from cunning and adaptable lol..." I edited a single word in your sentence to illustrate a point. To be fair however, most PEOPLE aren't cunning or adaptable so you're technically right.
@Juxtapose Yes I know I'm right
And experienced girls don't want 32 year old virgin too that are wild cards and don't know how they will be but that is that...
As other people have also mentioned already: if you break up with her, you're no longer a virgin yourself for your next partner... How do you intend to deal with that fact?
This is ridiculous. She is the one who need to break up with you. ALSO, I’m SLOWLY LOSING RESPECT FOR HER TOO. are you kidding? Are you sure you know what respect is? She will be happier witout you. Go find a virgin you definitely would be happy 😂👎🏻
Why did you have sex with someone who you SCARED alot? You took your advantage and now it’s the time to loose the respect? You are an asshole.
I think that you should be straight forward. And if your just not feeling it anymore then move on dude. Dont waste her time or yours.
She should break up with you. I have had sex with more guys then your girlfriend. 3 other guys is not a lot, hell 10 is not a lot. She doesn't have disease, you would already know. You care more about who she might have been then who she is. She could do better.
I assume you were a virgin? I would suggest you break up with her to allow her to be with a real man but you are going to face these insecurities with nearly every other woman you become attracted to. SO, I think you need to get your insecurities in check. Starting with a trip to your doctor to test you for std’s and educate you regarding your two other ridiculous phobias.
saliva, hormones? Please.
On the contrary, a real man does not settle for the leftovers of another man. I for one support the OP. He is standing firm with his principles and not budging. Do not settle for damaged goods. Just because women can sleep around does not mean that we have to accept it. They always tell us to accept the consequences of our actions like not being attractive to women. Well, why don't they do the same?
@The_Underground_Man I agree completely well almost. Nobody should settle. He should go on his merry way and she should wait for a real man to arrive. One who is confident in who he is and not petrified of being compared to a previous lover. a man smart enough to know any woman he’s interested in was surely considered attractive to others as well, before he met her. A real man smart enough to know what matters is the here and now. Virgin hunters can meanwhile get older and older making love to their fists as their target virgin pool gets fewer and fewer
Well what matters here and now to me is my pride and my pride alone. I do not see why I should have to sacrifice that just to be happy. I could never be with a woman knowing that another man has dumped his load inside of her. That I am settling for leftovers. Every year a new generation of virginal high school girls turn 18. Sure the amount is small, but they are always there.
@The_Underground_Man cool, you went from sad and lonely insecure boy to full on creepy dude in one sentence. Cheers.
To many of these girls wanna act like hoes them expect men to accept it.
@yourmad101338 Not at you specifically. Almost all guys prefer a girl with less of a history. Women aren't stupid and know this, why would would they feel so compelled to lie about it then? Its getting to the point where nobody really marries a ho. I'm 30, my actual good relationship imploded to the whims of the dating around world and to be totally honest with you I see no point doing anything other than smashing bar girls I have no intention of marrying. At least they can pretend they're trying to find the one, lol. I wish it weren't this way, but it is. Its like a switch, one way or the other. I preferred quality relationships and seeing ho by 30 it is a barren wasteland of quality, then screw it, fake interest until the relationship implodes.
@Boredguy112 st first I was pretty disgusted at your attitude but now I just feel really bad for you.
What about your past?
She is my first girlfriend
Ohhhh. That's really sweet! Just remember. We can't really help our past mistakes except learn from them!
I can feel you, but you should had break up with her earlier, so I go with other.
tvtropes.org/.../NatureAdoresAVirgin
"She told me she had 3 guys in her life"
How old is she?
That does not sound like a high number.
If only you had any idea what it is like to be an average male. 3 or 4 women is more than I would ever have in my lifetime.
Go back underground boy
@OU812DADDY Lol all the virgin hunters down voting anyone who says that 3 isn't a high number.
im dont want virgins but what number is consider high😉
😂😂
It is a high number, and it is disgusting along with all forms of degeneracy and sex before marriage. Men are entitled to have their own standards as well and if someone wants a virgin, then there is nothing unreasonable or wrong with that. Women do not realize Bateman's Principle and the fact that a low number for women is in fact a high number for men.
@The_Underground_Man You're either a troll or living under a rock.
Do you not realize just how much more difficult it is for a man to get sex than it is for a woman?
@The_Underground_Man Some men can get sex anytime they want lol. but certain guys have trouble sure.. and i can genuinely see why.
Only the top percentile of men can sleep around whenever they want whereas the majority of us cannot. This is the exact opposite of women where the majority of them can sleep around whenever they want but only the bottom percentile of women cannot.
If only 4 bothers you... then you will have issues the rest of your life. 4 isn't a lot, The older you get the more likely the next girls number is even higher.
Couples therapy is probably best to help you get past it.
Prepare to stay single forever then because I highly doubt in the future you'll find a good looking girl who's either still a virgin or hasn't slept with less than 5 guys.
Go ahead and break up with her so you can stop wasting her time.
The older he gets the less likely he will be able to find a virgin. And I bet by say late 30s and up the ones he find would be really good at saying he’s not good enough for them. Lol
U r crazy as fuck... just spare her the satanic mind u have... let her off from this ration she's worth more
Are 3 partners a lot?
No, so few I think most girls or boys have lots nowadays
People have so much more by 16. 3 isn't a lot and it's not about who she loved first or before, it's who she loved last. If she is the one for you and i really mean the wife, kids, house ONE. Then don't ruin it over an overactive imagination. Only worry if she starts calling you by another name