I cheated on my hens night am I a whore?

[Anonymous]

Me and one of my bridesmaids got split from the rest of the party and ended up drinking with a group of 7-8 much younger guys. Kate (my bridesmaids) was dancing with 3 of the guys when approached me and asked to go to the bathroom, I knew something was up as we only go to the bathroom together for chats. She proceeds to tell me the guys she has been dancing with invited her to there apartment and asked me to come. I'm hesitant and tell her I'm getting married I shouldn't, she asks me to come and keep an eye as security so I agree but we take separate cabs there as there is 10 of us all up, she caught the first cab with 4 of the guys and I wait for the next once with the other guys. Our cab arrived to pick us up about 25 mins after Kate's. In the can these young guys are flirting with me and as much as I enjoy it I tell them it's a hen night I'm getting married, I can tell that only makes them more interested and keep trying to flirt with me. We finally arrive to the hotel and make our way to the room I can hear loud music and banging sounds, one of the guys unlocks the door and I walk into the lounge to see Kate down the hallway getting fucked in a room, it's dark so I get closer to see if she's okay and that's when I realise she is on the bed with 4 guys around her with there cocks in there hands. I watch shocked and in disbelief, eventually she convinces me to lay next to her and I accidentally cheated thanks to her encouragement, an I bad fiance? Should I tell husband before wedding?

[adamcdavis]

Yeah you should tell him but be open about how you feel about your marriage and what your expectations are and if you are having any regrets or want it to be more open or whatever you are feeling. It was not an accident you joined your friend and I think you are looking for some sympathy but just own up to it and don't just appologize to your spouse but tell him your honest feelings about life and marriage and whatever else. Sometimes being honest doesn't always get you the results you will end up wanting and it may potentially hurt you in the short term but your long term emotional health will ultimately come out on top because hiding your feelings or emotions and failing to communicate will just cause long term stress in your brain. Take it from someone who used to be insanely insecure in his 20's lol.

[DaveJord]

Ahhhh... you were much nicer than me, but good advice.

[Miristheiss]

Guys that stay with girls who expect to do the wild bachelorette parties and weak, pushovers.

This is probably a troll post but on the chance it is real: you can't get married without first leaving your fiance home to rush out to the bars/clubs to drink and... do what? Ding, ding, ding, hang out with another group of men. Funny how often the opposite sex company ends up being part of your "night with the gals/friends".

Yes, you are a tramp/whore/slut.

The dude needs to call off the wedding and FLEEEEEEE from your disgusting self.

[purplepoppy]

Hen night cheating isn't real cheating. It's a small window where girls are permitted to engage in sexual activities for entertainment purposes regardless of relationship status.

[Asker]

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[purplepoppy]

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[DaveJord]

@purplepoppy come on you don't really think that do you?

[Mikeybear]

@purplepoppy True.

[Mikeybear]

@purplepoppy @emmamary @saoirses Can't count how many times at bachelorette/ hen nights that the girls engaged in sexual activities with my body. Yes, an open window, I guess.

[EmmaMary]

Congratulations on winning a Troll of the day award.

[SaoirseS]

For sure. I don’t buy any of it.

[EmmaMary]

@SaoirseS I've lost count the number of times I've seen this over the years on various forums.

[SaoirseS]

I can imagine!

[DaveJord]

@SaoirseS I think it can't be real either... and if it is then she's worse then a whore, and I would not want to insult all the good whores out there by calling her a whore.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHGirl.

[Mikeybear]

@emmamary @saoirses @davejord @purplepoppy I must be a manwhore then.

[DaveJord]

No you did not accidently cheat... you made the choice to cheat so stop lying to yourself. Yeah I will not say you're whore... because I would not wnat to insult whores. See whores are at least honestly about what they do and why they do it, so I got more respect for whores then some who lies about it.

Don't marry the guy your with without telling him... because your screwed up if you do and worse than something more than a whore who lies about what she is.

[Red_Arrow]

You chose to lay down and get fucked, so that is not "accidentally" cheating. I assume you did not get paid, so you are not a "whore", but you are a cheater and a bad fiancee. And it is hard to tell your husband before the wedding because before the wedding you do not have a husband. Show him the pictures that some of the guys obviously took!

[Birdlegs]

Obviously that’s cheating you can’t accidentally do that

[Luggit]

I wouldn't consider you a whore. It's best to do these things before you get married. And don't tell your future husband, because he may not be as considerate.

[Sixgunsound]

Cheating isn’t an accident for men or women. You need to own it and if you both decide to go on afterwards at least there is a shred of integrity to paste over that which you have thus far failed to show.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

No such thing as "accidentally" cheating, you knew what was the reason for going back to their place, and you turned down every opportunity to say "no".

[TheSpaceGnome]

You did not accidentally cheat, you just cheated.
Dump your fiance instead of marrying him, you are not marriage material.
You aren't a whore though, you're a slut, a whore is a slut who gets paid to be a slut.

[scott04sa22]

move on

[Shamalien]

You must tell your fiance. Hopefully you can work through it but I don't know if I could. I think I’d have to say goodbye to you whore

[boobliker]

that was not an accident as you freely went to a hotel room with 8 guys if you enjoyed it never say anything to your man it will destroy his trust in you and any friends you have, so keep it zipped about it

[CuriousMufuxka]

Good news! Your fake story has not cheated on the internet :)

[Hanrej]

It's too bad it's probably fiction. Sounds like one of my dream scenarios. 😊

[DaveJord]

Yeah that is what I was think it sounds like porn fantasy.

[OddBeMe]

Wow. I’d say for your own good, cancel the wedding before you’re married and can’t stop cheating.

[CharlieDMX]

No. Don't let anyone shame you. And don't feel guilty. It was your bachelorette party, had a nice night and it's a memory just for you. Go on and be happy in your marriage. Congratulations

[Shy_Steve]

I think you should because it will eventually come up anyway, It does depend on what your Husband is like Wether he takes it well or not and how much you love him and how much he loves you.
If you really love your Husband then you should explain to him what Happened and say your really sorry.

[SignedAutographs]

So you had sex with another guy on your wedding night because you were IRRESPONSIBLE

[MrTaboo]

If its that easy for you. Yes

[Bklynbadboy12]

You didn't do anything wrong and definitely don't tell him he'll never understand

[Mahmoud_Madyan]

I'm sorry, but you are super horny sluty whore!!
I'm sorry!! 🤷🏻‍♂️

[JesseJayNeak]

You better tell him and accept the consequences

[Blaine999]

You shouldn't have done that, you should've just walked away from it. She's not a friend if she encouraged that.
Don't tell him, no sense in ruining your marriage before it's even begun. You'll have to convince your 'friend' to keep it quiet.

[Miristheiss]

"your marriage" Are you nuts? He needs to know and dump her. There is no way on earth this guy should get married to this cheater. Hide it so he'll get "tricked" into marriage? You are awful.

[Blaine999]

@Miristheiss it was a stupid mistake caused by peer pressure. I'm not condoning it here.

[Blaine999]

They could live long happy years together but all of that goes out the window if she tells him now. This argument is moot anyway, it's her choice.

[Miristheiss]

He should be able to make an informed decision. I think many people would call off the engagement and walk away. Lying takes the choice out of their hands.

[Blaine999]

@Miristheiss you're not wrong and normally I'd agree, if the odds weren't stacked in favour of the worse case scenario.

[clemdenim]

Forgive yourself, move on

[Anonymous]

Lol accident huh? He fell on top of you by accident while he was naked, just so happened you were naked too by accident and some how his dick aligned w your push and went right in lol good story. If this is true I’d say you forget getting married. Your entire marriage would be based on a lie. Unless you let him bone a few girls first if he’s ok w that calling it even. Can I have your friends number lol

[Anonymous]

[Miristheiss]

I suspect you are probably correct. This is a bit over the top and doesn't seem to be legit.

[Anonymous]

Yes you're a whore and tell the guy so he dumps you. You shouldn't get married, hang out at bars and have sex with different men every night.

[Anonymous]

COOL STORY BRO!!

[Anonymous]

Yes this is something even single women are reluctant to do. If you have second thoughts being with someone else you should break up. If you cheat, then you should give up on relationships and work at a brothel instead because if you would get with a stranger while engaged, then you would get with anyone so technically you can't be raped because it's always wanted from you

[Anonymous]

You weren't married so you didn't commit adultery. I think you should take it to your grave unless you are feeling guilty.