I cheated on my wife with a Latina, how do I stop feeling guilty?

[Anonymous]

This is kind of difficult to talk about, but here goes.
I recently met a woman through work and we had to stay in contact as part of our jobs.
So anyway, she's a Latina and she's really sexy, like irresistibly sexy, and the more we messaged the more we hit it off. So to make a long story short, I lied to my wife and told her that I had to go away to another city for some work courses. I ended up spending the day with that Latina woman, and eventually we had sex in a hotel room. THE BEST SEX OF MY LIFE!!! I'm not exaggerating. White women just don't move like that, and this woman's body was AMAZING!! We had sex like 4 times that day and I still get hard just thinking about her. I feel really guilty, but as a white guy it was the best experience I could have. I honestly don't know how to feel. I had sex with my wife the next day, but it just wasn't as exciting as being with that Latina. I just want to move forward now without this guilt, should I even feel guilty about sex that was that good?

[Aerissa_Jade]

Are you going to keep cheating with her, and having sex with your wife too? I hope you didn't get something from her and shared it with your wife.

Guilt is not something you can just stop feeling, would you want to even if you could? If you felt no guilt, you could do it endlessly that and many other things too, beyond cheating and feel no remorse or anything. If you keep on cheating you may eventually have zero guilt from it and stop caring.

You will just have to live with it, confessing is a good way to help with your guilt. I'm not talking about to a bunch of strangers online, which is clearly what you are hoping for here but to your wife.

[Asker]

I'm scared to hurt my wife, but I also feel like having sex with that other woman again is inevitable. I still have to contact her for work, and we're still likely going to see each other. The attraction is really strong and kissing and holding her felt natural. I'm craving her right now. I feel bad about possibly subjecting my wife to any possible diseases, I think I'm gonna go get tested myself to make sure we're all safe and healthy for now. I'm just in a daze, I'm feeling overwhelmed by my attraction and the excitement of falling in love, or lust, or whatever this is. I feel out of control.

[Red_Arrow]

Asker, you are lying! If you were really scared to hurt your wife, you would not have haqd sex with that woman. And you would not be planning on doing it again.

[Asker]

@Red_Arrow I realize that I shouldn't have done it, but the attraction towards that Latina woman is stronger than I am I guess?

[Aerissa_Jade]

So are you thinking of ending it with your wife? Maybe you should, if you would rather be with the other woman. The pain to your wife is already done, she just does not know it yet.

[Asker]

I'm not sure what do? I don't want to hurt anyone and getting a divorce is expensive. I do feel like I want to explore further with the Latina woman. Every time I kissed her or wrapped my arms around her I felt desire for her. I feel like she's everything I need.

[Aerissa_Jade]

I think you have already stated what your going to do, your going to keep cheating on your wife with this other woman. Eventually the guilt won't bother you anymore and if you don't confess or divorce her, you'll have two women in your life. Sooner or later, one or both will eventually find out about the other, I don't know if the other woman knows if your married or not.

[Asker]

She doesn't know yet. I'm kinda screwed aren't I?

[Aerissa_Jade]

Yes you are and not in a good way, especially if neither woman knows about the other.

[Asker]

I guess this is why some people end up in long disgusting affairs that end in a big mess. I'm only human, I didn't avoid temptation and now I'm in a complicated situation where nobody wins. The only good thing is the sex, and everything else about my situation is just a ticking time bomb.

[whosnumber1]

of course you do, and of course your going to have sex with the lstin chika... but put you thinking cap on and have that talk with your wife about how your feelings aren't being met and that you not happy... dude is going to come out eventually. do it in a calm controlled way. don't fuck this up and completely ruin your lives because you aren't thinking straight. listen to @whosnumber1. do what I say. baby steps, don't go in there like a bumbling fool and lay all your cards out on the table at one time. do it pragmatically... you know your not thinking straight anyway baby steps. open the dialog up about how your needs aren't being met but for the love of God don't tell her about the Latin lady. at least not now, until you know the direction of your marriage

[Aerissa_Jade]

Well you could always talk to both of them, see if they'd be okay with you being a polygamist... now while I stop laughing, I will admit I was just throwing out ideas. The Bane of all cheaters though is, its easier to get it started than to stop it. When starting they never think through the long term and how it will end. Do what whosnumber1 suggested, start talking one card at a time.

[Asker]

Thanks, you two are very wise. Right now I'm at a point where I'm horny again and I can't think straight. I keep remembering how good she felt on top of me, how she tasted when we kissed, and how wet she was. Sorry if I'm getting off topic and being stupid. I really had an amazing sexual experience with that other woman and I guess that can dictate my thinking. When I think about her round butt, sexy dark hair, warm brown eyes and soft lips, I honestly don't care about my marriage. I just want to go to her. I know I'm garbage as a person, but I lose control I guess? I doubt my wife wants to be Poly or have a 3 way and watch me with her. I'm gonna just try to be good to both of them, and just see how far that takes us. I think it's better than telling everyone and basically blowing up my life, and turning them all against me. I

[whosnumber1]

your funeral. If i was that messed up about it I would rub one out... put on my big boy pants and go tell my wife things aren't working out. if you keep on the same path your gonna fuck it up.

[Asker]

@whosnumber1 I feel like I already fucked it all up and the only good thing is that they don't know.

[whosnumber1]

ha! no you did fuck it all up. your situation IS fucked up. you don't love your wife and you are sleeping with someone else. so you need to fix this. the one thing your wife does deserve is the chance to find someone else that loves her. if you don't love her and you don't want to fix it do her the decency to allow her to find someone better for her. you are wasting her time and yours. just say "we need to talk. I'm finding lately that my needs aren't being met and I'm not happy" then give her some reasons. if she cares she will try to make it better and you can continue the conversation again. otherwise one day your just gonna slap divorce papers on her and blind side her and crush her. get the conversation going so at least she knows where you stand when the time comes to move on

[whosnumber1]

oh ya and quickly now... go rub one out!

[Alwayreckles93]

Honestly I really do feel sorry for your wife. I mean your is the one that cares if you have clean clothes , A fresh home cook meal. Even when you get sick your wife is the one taking care of you not the stupid Hispanic slut! Did you ever tough about that? Can you imagine just a second the pain your wife will have to go threw if she ever finds out about your affair? I'm sorry this is really sad. I've almost drop my phone while reading this. Are you being serious right now? Let me guess the Latina slut was a lot more younger than your wife typical.

[Alwayreckles93]

You know I say it is best you tell your wife and she really needs to file for divorce.

[Asker]

Thank you for your response, I can feel the disappointment you have about my situation. I think it's important for me to read genuine responses like yours. It helps me to see a different perspective. Thanks.

[Alwayreckles93]

Asker Please allowed your wife to find happiness. I hope you realize the internal pain you are putting her threw. It nothing to be proud of. I hope you know you are hurting your wife. Let her go she deserves a men that loves her no a trash jerk that does not appreciate her. Let your wife find happiness!!!

[PositiveNote]

You'll never stop feeling guilty, I'm going to tell you right now. If the pick up was just a one time thing, tell your wife. If it's still going on, stop it cold. Wait a couple months if she's not going to do something like contact your wife. Then, when it has gone long enough that you can talk comfortably in PAST tense, to her, let her know that you never wanted her, it was mistake, and you have always and always will choose her as your chica número uno for life.

AND DO NOT TELL YOUR WIFE CHICA MEXICANA WAS BEST EVER OR YOU ARE A TOTAL IDIOT!!!

[Asker]

I feel like it's going to happen again though, I do have feelings for the Latina now. I can't stop thinking about her.

[PositiveNote]

I've gone through a divorce because because of what you are seeing. Just make the decision now and don't put two women plus yourself through more hell than you've already started.

[PositiveNote]

Bro... You are not garbage. This is normal for a man or a woman to get stuck on someone outside the marriage/relationship. It could happen 20 times in your lifetime—some more. What you have to realize is that you can't have it all. What is missing from your decision making is having frank conversations with your women. Neither of them is going like being #2—or #1 if there is a #2, for that matter. What you are stuck on with Latina is what I've fought all my life. It's all a part of being a responsible man to hash these things out first in your head, then with those who you have promised yourself to be with, namely latina and mrs. Don't despair. Talk to them, or talk to others who you trust to help you straighten out what you need to understand yourself. I repeat... You are normal. This is not a bad thing, it actually means that you are full of love and energy. You are blessed, man. Just keep working on it. PM if you want to.
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[yofuknutz]

That is an interesting view on the situation I don't know if I could condone that but it is an interesting View

[Browneye57]

Never mention it. You don't offload your guilt onto your beloved wife.
And any strange is always more exiting than the old standby.
You're a noob man. LOL

Oh, and if she's willing, fuck her some more. Just don't fuck it up with your wife, or you'll be sorry. I can guarantee that. The latina doesn't really want what you want, she just wants some dick.

[horatiohornblower]

Just explain it to her like you did here. I’m sure she’ll understand. 🙄

[Asker]

I don't think she will take it well.

[Jessica405]

Your wife deserves to know, but I bet you will not tell her.

[Asker]

I'm scared to. I just don't know how it will affect her. I'm sure she'll ask why, and telling her how beautiful and sexy that other woman is might destroy her self-esteem.

[blondfrog]

How's that different than any other cheater? Yeah what he did is shitty and he should tell her. But no cheater basically since the dawn of time has told their SO they cheated. Hence the word a cheater.

[Hannah_le]

Do people actually go this crazy over sex lol?

[Asker]

Human hormones and biological urges are more powerful than people think. If you're ever in a relationship and you don't want to cheat, just do the opposite of what I did and don't put yourself in situations where there's temptations. Once you get too close with another person nature takes over and it can lead to cheating.

[yofuknutz]

Basically short answer is absolutely hell yeah yes especially one that's good the hottest woman I've had was a Texas Peruvian Latina years later I still think about her I don't know what this guy's going to tell his wife maybe the wife can Outsource the work to the Latina. Lol I know I know I'll go

[MrNameless]

You stop feeling guilty by telling your wife what happened, and accept the consequences.

Really, you have to think about what you are doing. Is a fling really worth ruining a marriage? having sex with your coworker isn't inevitible unless you think so and don't practice self restraint.

Question is.. do you want to be with your wife.. It's not just about sex. It's the whole package like personality, values etc. People can get better in sex overtime.. Communication is key.

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you have children?

[Asker]

No, we don't have any kids.

[OlderAndWiser]

Excellent, you have only fucked up one other life.

[ohshee]

Well you probably won't stop feeling guilty until she finds out so either tell her or just keep taking the pain I mean you deserve that just for doing what you did

[Asker]

I don't understand how telling her will make me feel less guilt? It's just gonna hurt her and make everything even worse.

[ohshee]

You're one hundred percent right you asked how it would stop making you feel guilty that is about the only way or just keep taking the pain but yes you tell her she probably walk out on you you're still going to feel guilty there's not much you can do about it except for don't do it again right it happened you don't need to break her heart by telling her what you did it's just something you're going to have to live with

[ohshee]

Bro you already messed up you cheated on your wife if you're not happy get out you don't need her anymore just man the fuck up and do the right thing I'm sure you wouldn't want it done if it happened to you would you be pissed off

[ohshee]

You dont love her anymore. Not need Well either or

[Aurora1010]

She deserves to know, that's so bad... I feel sorry for her. She deserves to find someone better.

[yofuknutz]

Well then she needs to put out more

[RolandCuthbert]

I don't get it. Latinas are "White". So what is there to feel guilty about?

[RedStiletto88]

shame on you!

[Marianna34n]

The second girl is sooo pretty!! And yeah your wife should know about that

[Asker]

I'm just worried that it's going to hurt her.

[Marianna34n]

Yeah i understand that... Why would u do that in the first place? Is it how low u think of your wife?

[Marianna34n]

I am in no way judging you i just dont understand that...

[Asker]

I think I got too close to that other woman. I had never even dated a Latina before, I didn't understand how attractive they are. During that day together we had lunch and went shopping, and I just felt drawn to her. I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I forgot my wife even existed.

[Marianna34n]

Lol i really dont understand men...

[Asker]

I guess if a woman is a Latina she maybe wouldn't have to worry? A white man would probably love her forever.

[Neosporin]

It's not that complicated haha

[whosnumber1]

it's not men... his relationship with his wife of fucked. he didn't bother to deal with himself in his marriage. for what ever reason he didn't put a value on his needs high enough to communicate to his wife that he's not happy. you can't be in a relationship for 8 years, not have your desires be met and think your going to get distracted when something powerfully lustfull comes along... where he fucked up was not communicating to his wife. what's done is done but now he needs to pick up the pieces and move ahead.

[Marianna34n]

@whosnumber1 exactly

[Fireguy17]

it doesn't matter her nationality, or if the sex was good or bad.
The fact is that you cheated on your wife.
That is where the guilt is coming from.
It was wrong and you know it.

[JustinTheGreat]

Cheating on your wife is cheating on your wife. Whether if it’s with a Latina who’s amazing at sex or a white woman who is trash at sex, those details don’t even matter.
you cheated. You’re an asshole. Confess to your wife so she can find someone better than you

[Hermitess]

What do you need to do is divorce your wife because that trust is gone and it’s never coming back. And there’s obviously something lacking in your relationship with your wife that caused you to do this, so you need to end things immediately with your wife

[Neosporin]

Wow that sounds great but I don't know what to do in your situation. If you don't want to tell your wife that's probably the safest for yourself. You just have to live with the guilt yourself. Maybe divorce her if she really can't satisfy you or something.

[DiegoO]

What the fuck, man. Geez. Wtf goes on here, sometimes. Like wtf.

[RolandCuthbert]

Haha!!!

[DiegoO]

@RolandCuthbert ⚠️🤡

[Jamie05rhs]

If you like Latinas so much, then you should have married one. Dumbass.

[Asker]

Hindsight is 20/20 I guess.

[Wise4myage]

Righhhhht.

[blondfrog]

Well I can't blame you, Latina women are super sexy. If you really wanted you could have just broken up with your wife then bangged her lol

[HelenJacob]

Your wife deserves to know.
Maybe your wife wants to have sex with a better man than you. You both learn to share.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

You confess your guilt to your wife and ask God for forgiveness. Clean your conscience..