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Sexual Health I fucked my boss behind my husband's back. What to do?
Anonymous
So my husband has to work abroad for a couple of months. I invited my boss over for Dinner. A lot of my colleagues have invited him over at least once so nothing intended at first. I cooked for him, we talked about people from work, and then we just fucked. It wasn't a romantic atmosphere or anything but than again that's not the way I like it. I know it sounds stupid but it reminded me from when I was in college and had this guy over, cooked for him and then he was like let's just fuck. He wasn't over excited like most guys who try to please me, but it feeled like I had to please him. Like he was the one who I needed to do my very best for to please, and that excites me a lot. With my boss now it was just the same. I never have that kind of wild sex with my husband because it always feels like I'm the one who stands above him. Now it was the other way around. He stayed cool and made me feel like I had to show what I could do. I never thought that I would cheat on my husband but because of this situation I got weak because it remembered me of that guy in college who gave me the time of my life. Now it was the same. After we were done he just got dressed, stayed cool and told me that I was good and went back home. Then the guilt kicked in. I don't know if I should tell my husband. I am actually sure that he would forgive me but I think it will do less good than when I'd keep quiet. My boss did tell one guy at work that he fucked me and made a joke that he didn't fuck me, but "I fucked him like a pornstar". Which makes clear that he doesn't take the whole thing seriously and might tell it to more people, although my colleague is pretty sure he was the only one who knows and the secret is safe with him. He just knows the boss best. So what do I do now? My boss acts as before so my job is not in trouble, but do you think he would tell more people? Cause that could get him in trouble too right? And should I keep it a secret to my husband?
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What Girls & Guys Said
23 51If you don't tell him yourself he'll probably find out another way, your boss obviously doesn't give a shit. He deserves to know anyway and you know it. I'd be slitting throats. This is why I sit at weddings cringing at the vows.
Any man who gets married in this day and age is selling his soul to Satan.
I hate you.
Your boss might blackmail u for more fuck...
I guess you must get a voluntary divorce and Pay alimony to your husband for the rest of your life.
You've scored two own goals here.
The first own goal was cheating on your husband. You feel guilty? You are determined not to tell him. The guilt will eat away at you for years, decades, even on your death bed and that is punishment enough. You have to live with that guilt.
Secondly, you're big own goal is "shitting where you eat". This will get around your work place and your reputation will be stained as a result. You will walk into work everyday and people will talk about you behind your back, you'll be referred to in unfavorable terms and that is something you'll have to deal with unless you move to another company.
Ur boss would definitely tell a lot of people so would that guy he shared the information with. U r an adult and shld bear all the conconsequences that comes along. There is always the cause and effect.
you may think that by keeping it from your husband you are going to be happily ever after. your guilty conscience will eat you day by day, and night by night
This is why people save their virginity for marriage and avoid promiscuous activities. that was very selfish =((((
There are some people in this world that can't handle marriage and love.
You're one of them.
Don't tell your husband, and if he gets wind of it... deny, deny, deny. This is what men do, it works for them, it will work for you.
The guilt is something you will have to accept, and live with. You can not go back, what's done is done.
"This is what men do" Horribly gross over-generalization, there.
But I wouldn't be surprised if this gets MHO...
I'm guessing a man cheated on you, and now you blame ALL men.
Wow, you are an asshole
LOL, I knew this would comment would send the boys over the edge. So very predictable :X, hahahahah!
Either that or you are a cheater yourself, with no remorse :)
Over the edge? Haha, no, but I definitely don't have any respect for you, trolling or not.
@Anno_Domni you seem to have all the answers... you go with your know it all self, not!
It's such an unfair generalization, it should get more negative comments from women as well
I'm not the one defending a cheater :)
@Kyndra, it is life experiences that I form my generalization opinion. It is real, true, and pure to a fault.
Yeah? I've been cheated on 2/3 of my relationships. Can't say denying worked for them. Or that I have the right to blame every guy for it. Basically you're butthurt and that's why you want some random guy to go through what you've gone through. Doesn't sound fair.
I've been single to avoid women like u and her. And I've dated some model looking chicks so it's by choice. Fuck this advice is disturbing as fuck
Look at this ignorant bitch X'D
Damn, look at all the arrows down, love it :)
You should give me Most Helpful, just to piss everyone off, hahahaha!
I agree with you @Indigo_moon 😊 What her husband doesn't know won't hurt plus he could be doing exactly the same while away for his work stint. We all have our sexual needs... so when there's temptation it's hard to fight it!
Wow people like you disgust me
Definitely keep it quiet from your husband. It's better that he never finds out because nothing good cums out of telling him. Everyone has secrets so it's best that you make it yours!
Cums really? i see what you did there.
Whoops did i make a spelling error?
Anonymous story poster feel free to message me if you need to chat. I'm not judgmental like some of the other posters!
Your husband should divorce you and beat up your boss.
Lol just lol. This is why I don't ever want to get married. Beside the fact that I can't.
YOU'RE LITERALLY THE WORST TYPE OF A WOMEN A MAN SHOULD AVOID AT ALL COSTS. DIVORCE HIM... HE'LL DO IT ONCE U TELL HIM ANYWAYS. ... ARE U WHITE BY ANY CHANCE? I GREW UP NON WHITE TELLING ME WESTERN WHITE WOMEN CHEST AND DIVORCE LIKE people SPIT OUT GUM FOR LOSING ITS FLAVOR. I think white girls are beautiful but I'd never feel secure with them.
How about you ask your husband what to do?
LOL!! This.
It is the best if you get rid of the guilt
depends on your husband, how he would take it
But , what if your husband did this and what you would expect him to do?
I'm telling, if your boss is a jerk, he will get more advantage of you, if you don't tell your husband.
Your boss is probably to blame more than you are nevertheless you need to accept your guilt and confess to your husband. If he forgives you than good.
How is the boss more responsible than the women claiming "we just fucked" like nothing seriously even if he forgives her she'll probably "just fuck someone" again seriously dude use ur head or your probably just some white knight hey dont worry she'll "just fuck you too" lol
I'm no white knight just a man who tries not to judge lest he be judged. The boss was in a position of authority which he took advantage of that is why he is more at fault. The fact that this woman asks our opinions indicates she feels bad about what she did and perhaps has learned her lesson.
The Asker should have invited her boss to dinner when her husband was there. She knows that. She planned to cook him a meal and enjoy it in private. That is basically an invitation to the behavior they displayed. And she was the one who has vows to her husband, not the boss. Definitely her blame more than his.
Yeah alright. You tell your husband and he will forgive you. And later you will do the same thing to him again. Women like you help me to continue not to trust partners. Thank you for sharing this story.
It's better if he hears it from you then someone else.*crosses arms*but wtf were you thinking?