I'm scared of telling my best friend that I lost my virginity. What should I do?

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I'm the first of all my friends to lose her virginity. Now the problem is that I'm scared because my best friend is very judgmental and I don't know how she would react to me loosing my virginity. This also doesn't go well with the fact that I've been with my boyfriend for only a month so far and I'm scared she would see me as slutty. I really want to talk to her about it but I'm really scared of what will happen if I do. I would really appreciate any advice I could get.

centerline · Accepted Answer

dont be afraid to be yourself... if you like sex, dont be ashamed of it.

BUT... why should your friends or anyone else have to know that you have had sex?
most girls dont like it when a guy they had sex with, blabs it all over the school... but depending on the girl, there are positives and negatives to letting others know they "put out"... first, it can cause the girl to get a reputation as being a slut... and on the upside, with a reputation that one is a slut, it will be good advertising to get more boys headed their way to see if they can "score" also...

as far as you being with him for only a month before having sex is no big deal... some people have sex within hours of meeting, and its not wrong, but people who find out about it can make you feel like you have done something wrong, for many reasons that are known only to them... we call them hypocrites, because they would have done the same thing if the opportunity would have been offered to them...

sex isn't bad at any age, but there are many emotions playing at the time that can be very harmful, so its best to keep it low key and do what YOU want, with WHO you want, and NOT what someone else wants you to do... and DONT "kiss and tell"...

GingerGuy · Accepted Answer

Why do you feel the need to tell her? Personally that's private and nobody's business, but for you, do you have other "better" (non judgmental) friends you could talk to instead of her? I don't know if this is just your fears, or if this is actually the type of person she is, but if that's the case, I wouldn't tell her at all. Not her business and you don't need her judgments. There's nothing wrong with what you did, and if a "friend" tells you otherwise, they aren't your friend. A true friend isn't going to do that to you.

greentealatte · Accepted Answer

Girls can be complicated sometimes. Do what feels right to you. We don't know you and your friend, so we can't really decide for you. I definitely know what it's like to have a friend like that. I stopped telling her things and I'm keeping some distance. But that's just me. You do what feels right to you.

Rachael91 · Accepted Answer

If she's your best friend she'll support your choice. If she doesn't then you'll know she isn't your best friend

OlderAndWiser · Answer

What would you think of your boyfriend if he started telling other people at school that he had sex with you? If you tell your judgmental friend, there is a chance that she will tell others and the word will spread.

summiter · Answer

If she is really a true friend she should not judge you. Just be honest and tell her that you felt that he was the right guy at the right time in your life. I hope you used condoms? Do you plan on having more sex with him?

Mikelaughs · Answer

Perhaps a real friend would not judge and would be confidential about things. Follow me if you want to talk about it

CYNICAL_CRYPTIC · Answer

Then sorry to inform you, that’s not a best friend, just a title that sounds good.

Bangel231 · Answer

No don't tell her anything.

thefamousone · Answer

That's your choice if you want to tell you don't have to kiss and tell guess what you might be surprised is probly others and their group that I've given it up and aren't saying anything or given up to the ugly guy that nobody likes Besides that in 2 years it proud will make no difference who knew his love and people won't be in your life then that to get for your paired anyways I'm Just saying

israelisevil · Answer

Look for better friends. If she thinks you slutty she jealous and being together a month before fucking is long time. Me my girlfriend been together 3 years and fucked on second date. Just tell her about it if she gets mad ignore her. Sex after a month isn't slutty at all. NOTHING IS IMMORAL ABOUT SEX

bowenw · Answer

A good friend shouldn't judge unless you ask for their opinion. If you're worried she's going to be judgmental don't tell her. It's your body and your business alone.

RandomLoser · Answer

Too late. You're a used up slut and always will be.

Andres77 · Answer

Why is it any of her business? Just because someone is your friend does not give them the right to know everything about you. Keep it to yourself.

Wise4myage · Answer

Why the urgency to tell her at all? Losing your virginity is personal, so Its fine if you don't tell her or anyone else.

vald9inches · Answer

If you are scared to hell then obviously she is not a good friend right?

Gedaria · Answer

Sorry , but don't tell her. It's not really any of her business...

Dave31989 · Answer

you're under 18, you shouldn't be having sex at all

Valnac · Answer

Why do you have to tell anyone. That’s your business. Girls can get really nasty with each other.

Horny4lifecuatro · Answer

Dont worry about her you'll always have me and i won't ever judge you☺

UrBrotherCain · Answer

get better friends

NYlatefun · Answer

A best friend should be understanding, not judgmental...

rustymopp · Answer

Why do you feel the need to tell them? It's none of their business, and they might also have lost their virginity but don't feel the need to tell anyone about it