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Sexual Health I suddenly want to fuck other men while happily married. Is that normal?
Anonymous
I know everyone from time to time gets turned on by a guy that's not your husband and even fantasize about him, especially if you have been married for a couple years (I married young). I know that's normal. But I've never had it this bad. My husband had to go out of the country for 5 months for work, while I stayed home with the kids. During that time I was shocked by the amount of guys that tried to seduce me while he was gone. Even friends of his and his colleagues. Only his boss has been trying that since day one though and he does that with every single woman. But the other men shocked me. I didn't do anything but I never thought I'd actually get horny by it and masturbated once or more a day fantasizing about those things happening. I even started watching porn quite often. The craziest thing is that I thought it'd go away once my husband returned, but it didn't. Guys are more careful about the flirting, but I stay horny and fantasize about other men. The worst thing is, I don't feel like having sex with my husband anymore even though I'm so horny and when I do, I think about other men. Could the spark be gone for me? I still love him and don't have emotions for these other men, it's just sexually my feelings have changed. Like being alone for a while and being hit on so much has awakened something in me. Have any of you had the same feelings? Any Idea if this will pass or how I should go about this?
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What Girls & Guys Said
7 36Having sexual urges is different the having romantic urges. Yes. You are right its normal to fantasize about other people. But you are in a serious relationship. So you have others to think about then yourself. Talk to your husband. Maybe he will be open to it. I once did it for a girl i was dating. You never know. Otherwise thats what masturbation is for
its very simple, you dont love you husband any more.
You are human, ofcourse you would wanna bang, its up to you not to do it, you have a men that loves you right there pretty sure you can work something out to cease that desire
You're young, so yes...
Time to leave, sounds like you no longer want your husband.
Well I was quite turned on by reading your story but it IS a serious matter. I feel like all women deserve full sexual satisfaction so I don't look down on you for desiring sex with other men. I do think you should talk with your husband about it though to see if there is anything that can be done to help him sexually attract you more.
In my opinion i I were him and really loved you I wouldn't allow sex to break up the marriage. I would let you try out sex with other guys just to see if it's something you simply need to get out of your system, or even if it's something that may could become the new norm for your relationship...
I have done similar with my wife back before we were married. It actually made our sex Life better than it already was. After she had sex with another guy she would come home and that night we would have Alex and she would tell me the details o her sex with the other guy.. She enjoyed his pleasuring her and she enjoyed share it with me and I enjoyed knowing she was being completely sexually satisfied. At the time I worked out of town a lot and I wanted to make sure she still ha all the sex her urges needed.
We're now married, with 2 kids and deep in love.
Let them bone you girl
One of my friends gave this advise too. I don't see it ending too well... Also, even though I like her, I don't see her keeping a guy for too long
if you want to do something, do it before you regret one day
Sounds like you need to have a go at swinging
You should fuck as many guys as possible, discretely and be thankful to remain his wife, even if you and he have less sex than you are about to with other guys.
We are polyamorous and my wife has a metamour, (boyfriend) for 3 years now.
Yes fuck them just don't lose site of what you have
be honest I would love to eat your pussy tongue fuck your ass
then fuck you that leave you wanting more
Interested in sexual conversations with you share fantasies and experiences
real life experiences tell you what I've done you do the same
Masturbate to this I knock on your door hi please come in then grab you
undress you lay you on table kiss, lick suck your pussy
Maybe you should just do it get it out of your system and see where it goes from there
Getting married doesn't change your biology. Your always going to want to have sex with other men. That's why people cheat. The important part to remember is its just a feeling. And like all feelings it goes away and comes back over and over. The less you think about it and the more you kind of dismiss it as just a random feeling the easier it is to enjoy your relationship without all the extra bull that comes with cheating.
If you end things with your husband don't do it because you think the grass will be greener with a different guy. It's usually not. End things with your husband because things don't work not because you want something else. Feelings aren't static. Your husbands not always going to be the most attractive person in your life but he is your husband and you married him for a reason. The spark isn't gone you've just been temporarily distracted by a different fire. One that might leave you burned. Men who don't respect your relationship often don't care much for you either.
I seen answers down there about seeing if your husband would be open for you actually trying it. My morals don't agree with that. However, my morals are not yours or your husbands so that's up to you. That said, the therapy answers may just work, though I don't think you can solve this without your husband. No matter what therapy you get, if your husband doesn't take any steps to excite you more, it probably won't amount to much. It doesn't exactly sound like a problem as opposed to a mindset, as most normal things are. If you and your husband value your monogamy then all y'all have to do is change your mindset back to one that focuses on him. On the other hand if y'all don't mind sharing your bed then you don't have to change shit.
Ask him to do romantic stuff and try to have more passionate sex where he actually takes his time with the foreplay and properly turns you on (this is a part of sex I enjoy as much, if not more than penetration). "Love" is mostly a matter of "who can fulfill my desires." You said you still love him so he must be fulfilling most of your other desires. Work on him getting you there and bingo.
It may be normal but you need to decide if sex is more important than your marriage.
Go to your husband's arms and tell him how you wish to be loved, and cherish the romance between you two, i am sure you'll forget about other things
You should me ashamed of yourself... Feel sorry for your husband.