I Told My Boyfriend That His Penis Was Quite Small Compared To Porn; Now He Is Being Defensive is this usual?

[Anonymous]

Are guys really that sensitive about their penis size? So I told my boyfriend yesterday that based on what I have seen in porns and online that his penis was pretty small and he became extremely defensive and basically began giving me a bit of attitude. So this evening we sit down to eat dinner and he continues his defensive behavior; I mean I was just being honest with him! therefore I didn’t think he would be that sensitive and I believe based on my perspective the comment was warranted. We have been together for 4 years he is 27 I’m 23 anyhow is this usual?

[MrMysteryMan]

I hope he says you look fat in all your dresses...

You're being critical and telling him that he is inadequate compared to others. Yeah it's honest. But not necessary to tell someone really. How would you like it if someone said you have a really ugly vagina, unlike the girls he watches in porn. Your body is nothing compared to the girls in porn. You look like such a baby compared to that guy over there.

Gee how could anyone feel offended by this... He should have his head examined because he should be happy that his girlfriend of 4 years things his body is not as good looking or as manly as any other guy you've seen. He shouldn't have issues at all and he really shouldn't be wondering if she actually wishes she was with someone else who had a better body or cold please her better possibly.

Maybe you don't think this way. Maybe you are just pointing out an observation and you don't really care one way or another. But to put doubt in your so called loved one about how they look just diminishes their confidence in themselves and makes them feel not as comfortable with you in bed or any other time. You can rest assured that he's not going to be as intimate with you since you feel he's a small man who. Why would you do this to yourself, and to your relationship? I'm telling you right now, nothing you can say will change the way he feels about himself now, since you just told him his most visual show of manliness (in all guys' eyes) is not manly at all. Might as well put a cuck cage around it and start laughing at him.

Well, my advise is, take him shopping at the local sex shop for a nice big strap-on that you both will enjoy. You just basically told him his cock is not much, so he probably isn't going to be needing it anymore.

[MrOracle]

First, you need to understand that the PRIMARY requirement for being a male porn star in most of the world is that you have to have an ENORMOUS penis. It would be like if you couldn't be in porn as a female unless you had JJ-cup boobs or bigger. The men in porn are in the top 0.001% in size - it's EXTREMELY rare for men to have penises that large, just like it's rare for women to have breasts that big.

Second, men's ego is HUGELY connected to their sexual desirability and ability, so telling him something that diminishes that is INCREDIBLY damaging, even if it's true.

How would you feel if your guy told you out of the blue that you are ugly compared to porn girls, your vagina is loose, you're too fat, you suck in bed, and you'd probably be a bad mother - but he's just being honest so you shouldn't be upset? That's pretty much what you did to him.

I just can't imagine how you could not understand this?

[Wonderer89]

That's really quite cruel 😕 I don't understand at all why you would feel the need to say that to someone you're meant to love when it's completely unnecessary.

Whenever you watch tv together does he tell you how ugly you are compared to the women on screen? Or that compared to the woman he spoke with at the grocery store you're a total bitch personality wise?
Because that's basically what you've done

[Anonymous]

Of course guys are sensitive when it's about their penis size. Don't you see all the questions here? And of course his dick will look smaller than the ones in porn. Everyone knows that such sizes aren't that often met irl. I mean how would you react if he tells you you seem to have a bigger clit than girls in porn do or a wider vagina or more saggy tits.
And by the way your comment was mean.

[Anonymous]

That was really mean. I think the only thing i could liken it to would be if he called you really obese compared to most "porn or online." Si much of a guys self esteem is tied to his penis and you've probably really crushed him. I would really work on some damage control if he means anything to you.

[outie40]

You kind of hit the penis button that all men have. The guys in porn videos are the rare expection to the rule of being big and they are not picked because of their acting ability to begin with. It goes with what size to you think is to big and to small. I'm 4'10" tall and I am comfortable with my size. 3 inches soft and 5'.25" hard. I would look very stupid if I had one of the penis from a porn movie.

All guys are always wondering if they measure up to the guy next to them in the gym class. If you relationship is just going to be based on his penis size then maybe this relationship isn't going to work. It's like a guy telling his girlfriend or wife that her tits are too small, or baggy, or her vagina is to tight, or so on.

There is no perfect size for a guy and if you are just baseing the sex on size instead of feelling and pleasure then you are missing out on the best part.

[Underduress]

Sounds like you damaged him. Now he is going to always think you are on the prowl for a bigger penis. Ouch!

[PoliceLivesMatter]

Why even say something like that? It's unnecessary to say the least. Isn't going to accomplish anything.

[abc3643]

Yeah, that was a bad move on your part.
That would be like his saying that you aren't as good looking as porn stars.

I am actually a little concerned. Your comment is practically symptomatic of Asperger Syndrome. Saying something like that show a complete lack of empathy or realizing how others would react. Do you have issues with others as well.

Meanwhile, you wrote:
"I mean I was just being honest with him! "

There is a time for honesty and then there is a time to keep your mouth shut. It's not always best to be honest and, of all places, I got that lesson from a priest in church. He was going to officiate a wedding and the bride was not good looking even in her bridal gown. She asked the priest "Father, don't I look beautiful?" He said "You look the best you ever did." What he did - and what the message of the sermon was - "Don't ever lie, but you don't have to tell the truth." This is a valuable lesson to learn in life as it will come in handy throughout your life.

[Xavixk]

You seem evil... Why would you even say that? Sounds like you want to break up with him. You basically told him that you aren't satisfied with him in area he can't change... He has no control over the size of his penis. So like I said you seem evil.

[Cosytoasty]

Well, how would you feel if he said you was quite a bit fatter and not really as pretty as the girls in porn?

He's being overly sensitive yes (who the F cares about porn), but its kinda understandable.

[JohnDoe3000]

It's the genderswapped version of "yes, you look fat in that dress".

[TheOtakuMaid]

Yah don't use porn to measure average dick size. the world average is 5.5 those on porn make up less than 5% if that.

[Taciturn]

Well, porn is a fantasy sex world that isn't exactly a realistic reflection of the size of the male anatomy. Since your comment clearly had no objective or constructive purpose, I'm assuming you were just shaming him. and the fact that you fail to see what's wrong with comparing your boyfriend to an exaggerated sex fantasy world speaks volumes about your intelligence (or severe lack thereof). You made him feel inadequate. It's exactly like him comparing you to hot gorgeous Hollywood girls or women with bigger boobs and butts than you, deeming you unattractive and inadequate

[Anpu23]

Hope you learned your lesson for your next boyfriend. This is one of the biggest sore points for virtually every guy.

[DrMouse]

You don't just tell a guy his dick is little! Geez woman! Most guys aren't sensitive about it, but that changes if somebody straight up tells them they have a small penis.

[JSmuve]

You're not too bright, aren't you.

[johnmichaei]

you telling him he has a little cock sure he got upset

[art84]

What you see in porn isn't the same as real life. It would be like your boyfriend saying your breast were small compared to what he sees in porn.

[Noodle_fan]

I think he is silly , people often to overreacting over trivia matters like that , lol

[Hawn84]

Wow. I hope for your sake he doesn't trade you in for a better model.

[Thunnnder]

Imagine getting called fat by your boyfriend lol

Troll

[that_dude_v2]

Seems like a normal response, especially from you, as his girlfriend, it hurt him to have you point out something he's maybe already insecure about, about something as personal and sensitive as the penis

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Cry baby. Smh

[nudeNhorny]

Guys are sensitive about this topic, but really is he dump enough to compare his dick to those on porn? Anyway, just comfort him, tell him stuff like you love his dick, shit like that, and he will forget sure, wait you do love his dick, or you don't ;p?