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If You Had To Choose One Or The Other, Which Would You Say Prevents/Or Ruins Good Sex More: "Selfishness" Or "Lack Of Communication"?
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Selfishness
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Lack of communication
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6 40it depends entirely on the couple.. For the wife and i, its communication never selfishness.
I think selfishness does. Because what sex is ultimately about is sharing yourself with another person. Being open and vulnerable with him. And then him being the same in return with you.
But if one person is selfish, and comes into that situation with a taking mentality, it is a corruption of the very fundamental gift you are trying to give. And it means they don't give the gift of themselves in return.
Great answer here! 💯♥️
Thank you! Would you agree with this?
Yes I thought I did lolol
You thought you did? But now you're not sure?
No I thought you would know I loved the answer because I agreed with it..
Oh! 🤦🏻♂️ Haha, I see. I guess I'm a little dense this morning
Selfishness, good sex means getting your woman off. If she gets off she is going to take care of you in ways you've not yet experienced. If you're only worried about your own but then you'll get it but it won't be too much better than masturbating.
Well said and very true! People want sex way more when they enjoy it way more... 👍🙂
That's fact, I live sex and crave it frequently, because I always enjoy it.
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Live, love mere slip of the tongue 🤣🤣
I do love slipping my tongue into things...
It's a combination of both
Can be
I don't think its one or the other.
I believe it is both. With selfishness a person will want to do to you what they like and to have you do to them what they like you doing whether it's what you like or not. Jusy because you have a list of this you like doing and a list of things you like doi g does not necessarily mean you want all of both lists to always happen.
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I would have said communication without hesitation. However, I have just ended a relationship with a very narcissistic woman. Her selfishness was breathtaking. She paid scant regard to my wishes or requirements, and always assumed I would comply with her desires, and pay for everything. I might have been happier had the sex been less prosaic. I came to the understanding that no amount of communication would change her fundamental nature. Specific problems could be addressed, but not fundamental attitudes.
Sorry you experienced that but yeah communication don't work if they truly selfish
Lack of communication may stifle good sex, but this can be cured by listening and willingness to meet each other half way. Base selfishness can get in the way of both of these.
Exactly
Cheating, or other factors, like thinking the person is not good enough.
I'd say lack of communication.
Lack of communication is a form of selfishness if you really think about it.
That's true in some cases
If someone is Selfish their partner should Communicate that concern to them
True!
Always lack of communication, it is the foundation of one or the other thinking the other is selfish.
But what if one or the other is really selfish 🤔
Thats why the lack of communication. Gotcha. 😜👍
Aren't they kind of one and the same, non communication is selfish behavior isn't it? And doesn't repeated selfish behavior promote non communication to keep from arguing? Just a thought...
If one keeps putting up with it, yes...
Okay so to keep from putting up with it good communication is needed, and in that communication they can talk about and hopefully resolve the selfish behavior. So lack of communication must be what prevents good sex?
But for that to work, selfishness has to stop, and some people are just selfish people and don't or can't change, then communication may not work in the studio
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Agreed but also some people who are not normally selfish also do not communicate well and therefore without communication there may not be much selfishness but also not much else. I am not arguing but agreeing with you that both are really needed for a healthy relationship.
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Both of them equally
Don't be trying to cheat 🤣🤣 it's if you had to say one more than the other... 😜😅
Yes mistress I'd say lack of communication mistress 😜🤣😂🤣😂
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Talk about what you want. Ask and you shall receive.
Ok can I have a million dollars? 🤣🤣🤣 Just kidding lolol
A million dollars worth of good sex :)
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Lack of communication can also come off looking like selfishness
That's true
Lack of Communication
Both really.
Well sure they both can... But I think selfishness is more intentional and lack of communication may not be and probably more easily solved
Both but I learn quick it's kind of like cheating maybe
Lolol 😅 but good cheating lolol not the cheating on someone cheating so that's ok 🙂
Oh yea it's good kind more like magic then 🤐
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Lack of communication definitely. Because if you're no open to talk or be open minded then the sex just won't be any good. That's what I think anyways 🙂
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I'm going to answer your sexuality questions for now on because I've found out it's only against the rules if you make a sexuality question under the age of 18 🙂
Sooo I'm excited for when you do your sex jokes MyTake next haha