If your girlfriend said she can makeout, hug, bj, let you eat her pussy etc but says no to intercourse because she wants to stay pure, is she bullshi?

i get it, just because a person is okay with kissing doesn't necessarily have to mean they're prepared for intercourse and that's okay. everyone should take their time.

but here im talking about people who wanna do sexual stuff and still want the virgin tag. some even refer to themselves as semi virgins, which in my opinion doesn't exist. what irks me is this is how they save themselves up for marriage... by denial.

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I see that kind of denial as a personal dealbreaker. A few months back, I was ready to date a s1ut, being virgin myself (nvm this). I can respect these "semi virgins", but I also call BS! Xx
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  • I probably wouldn't stay with a person like that. If they wanted to stay pure then I'd respect that and we wouldn't do anything but kiss, but doing all that and saying they're a virgin seems weird. Plus i find the concept of virginity overrated so i wouldn't be compatible with someone who gives that much importance to it.

  • I'd respect it.

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  • Eh I mean that would mean doing anal would be considered being pure because you still aren’t having intercourse in terms of vaginal intercourse

  • It is not BS. You may see it differently, but what matters is how the person affected sees it. If she sees it as a purity thing then, as far as she is concerned it is. I personally would not use the word "purity" but I do see big differences between these things.

  • Really it is up to what they consider pure. I don't judge others and what they consider pure, totally up to them.

    The whole anything but is really up to them, I won't judge someone on if it is BS or not. It isn't my place to say.

  • It's normal if someone isn't comfortable with sex yet, especially if they've never done anything with anyone before. I agree there. I wouldn't call the person a virgin in this case since they've had and received oral. Calling the person a virgin undermines the actual definition of virgin- someone who hasn't had sex.

    • I think you are correct, but I feel, believe that the girl is still technically a virgin, if she has not had intercourse. OR at least she can feel that she is under those circumstances.

  • Sounds pretty pure to me.

    If your girlfriend said she can makeout, hug, bj, let you eat her pussy etc but says no to intercourse because she wants to stay pure, is she bullshi?
  • yup, and they exist.

    in their minds, no intercourse means they are still V Card Holders, regardless of anything else they do, including anal sex.

    • Well, technically they are virgins, looking at it from a physical standpoint.

  • 100% bull.

  • Naw that stuff doesn’t bother me. I’m down with her boundaries for whatever reason she has them. If she doesn’t want to fuck this month because of her horoscope that’s ok with me.

  • I love serving a woman in an oral only arrangement. She can use me for hours if she wants, but I'm never allowed to get my dick inside her 8><3

  • Yes, bullshit for pure. I still think of "virgin" as applying to intercourse, but there's not pure. They've had more sex than some married couples. Short answer, you're right.

  • When I was younger, I was with a number of “nice Christian girls “who had their lines on sexual purity but did everything they could to find sexual release above the line. Sure, that’s kind of nonsensical, but I went along with it and had a lot of fun. I am happy to let her enjoy whatever she enjoys enter try my best to help her enjoy it.

  • I think to say "pure" is BS.

    But in general it's fine, but I'm biased.

    I've hugged, made out, and gave a hand job to my boyfriend in the past. I wasn't comfortable with having sex so I didn't (thankfully) and still called myself a virgin. It wasn't anyone else's business though and the only people who knew were my best friends. So I don't think people are BS for calling themselves virgins when they haven't had intercourse, they're free to think/feel how they want. I only feel irritated when people think it's somehow brag worthy.

    • Well, said, and accurate, I think.

  • There’s nothing wrong with that. I’m a virgin because I’m not ready for that. I do do other stuff but only in the context of a relationship. I don’t hook up. I don’t broadcast to the general public what I do and don’t do (though my close friends know) and I don’t really care what you call me.

    • But I don’t go around bragging that I’m “pure” either.

    • Good response.

  • It does seem like bullshit AND it is a contradiction, but I understand the psychology of it. Consider this, as a possible instance of what you are asking:

    When I was late 20's (28) I met a girl who was only 19 at my workplace (Firestone Tire) The first night we went out, we were on my couch, kissing, and she pulled me on top of her, and I took that as the 'okay' to 'mount her, and I suggested we go to the bedroom. Once there, I asked her if I may take her dress off "as it will look like you have 'slept' in it". She let me take it off, and while doing that she told me "I'm a virgin".

    My first thought was, "Oh sure you are", and I laid her on my bed and proceeded to lick her pussy through her pantyhose and underpants, (which I loved, by the way) She responded, and I continued and eventually had her completely nude, and ate her pussy for several minutes. She asked me then "what do you want me to do"? and of course I asked her to suck me which she did. Can't recall if it was on this first date, or the next date I shot my wad on her upper thigh.

    So, you ask: "Okay what does all this 'sex story' have to do with my question?"

    Just this. She WAS a virgin, as I found on the second date (I believe?) I, not being all that experienced then, found that the HYMEN is about half the length of the average penis, (which is about 6 inches) inside the vagina, my penis hit her hymen when I about half the length inside her. Point being? I could have fucked her continually for months and NOT torn her hymen if we/she had elected to do that and she could have technically remained a "VIRGIN". We could have eaten, sucked, fucked, (with reasonable care) and technically she could have remained a virgin with an intact hymen, and at times I wish we had done that.

    The 'moral' to this long, drawn out 'story' is that if you want, you can really 'have your cake and eat it to'. With that Hymen, intact, she is still a 'virgin' even though she has had a penis in her. (halfway) This is a true account, and illustrates that what you suggest does occur, and can occur, and leave a girl technically virginal

    • All right

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  • We all have our own standards. IF that is hers, then let it be. I ran into that years ago with a girlfriend who was also engaged to someone else back in her home town. We still had a great time. 69 was our favorite number.

  • Yeah you do all that, you're not pure lol

    • Well, "technically" they are still virginal.

    • In some cultures yeah, in others oral sex is still sex.

  • Nope. There is a hard line between ordinary sexual intimacy and intercourse. Even oral does not cross that line. Anal intercourse does.

  • no, the definition of virginity is never having intercourse

  • Making out is fine but doing everything else except intercourse is bullshit

  • It's stupid, but isn't being pure a myth anyway? Who is pure? Who has never sinned or even thought anything impure?

    They're fooling themselves

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