Is it bad to watch porn while you're in a relationship?

there's been times where I've watched porn while my partner was at work. I only watch it so I can learn and try new things/positions on my partner (he actually likes it when I try new ways of sucking him out). But, is the "I watch porn" part bad? He doesn't know about it, I feel embarrassed to tell him cause its porn haha. We've been together for 7 years
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  • Not really, though you probably should tell him (you don't want him finding out and not knowing the context). I mean most guys watch porn (mainly because either she isn't in the mood as much as he is or because when you have sex you have to focus on her a lot and some times you just want to be selfish and not have to think about some one elses pleasure. So as long as he knows the context its probably not going to be that big of a deal). So yeah, tell him you look it up and research to be better at it (hell, thats probably going to be a compliment to him because it means your actively trying to make him happy sexually which is not necessarily a common thing (a lot of women think they can just show up and not be proactive with it).

    • Love your comments! I will definitely build some courage for myself to tell him one day. Yes, I dont like watching random people have sex but learning wise to try new things on my partner - worth it, to be honest. Thank you for your honesty

    • Not a problem. Like I said, the issue, if their is any, would be context (the less you know the more you speculate and usually its wrong. Thats why communication is so important just in general so that people know where you stand).

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  • Why on Earth would that be bad? Like, seriously. What could possibly be bad about it in terms of you being in a relationship? And why on Earth are you embarrassed about something like this in front of your own boyfriend OF SEVEN YEARS? Seven years together and you're embarrassed about stuff like this? I'm sorry, but what kind of dysfunctional relationship do you have? That's just ridiculous. If I was embarrassed about something like that in front of my girlfriend after just a few months or so, I'd probably re-evaluate whether this is going well. But after seven years? Wow. What a failure.

    The only things you should be embarrassed about here is 1) that you can't be honest ad open about stuff like this with your boyfriend after seven years, and 2) that you think you can learn something from porn lol.

    Sorry, I'm just really flabbergasted by how immature and dysfunctional your relationship sounds.

    • Thank you for your honesty. Appreciate that. I'm only embarrassed cause I've had been in a relationship with a female before and I dont want my partner to think I'm doing it to look at both girls and boys while they're having sex and I should and want to only be looking at my partner and feeling him, as he would for me. I only started watching last year a couple of times just to try out new things, which he loved when I did it on him. I dont want him to get the wrong idea and if this is cheating to him, that will be something I regret

    • Thanks for not getting offended (wasn't my intention) and for the further information. But what you just told me doesn't really change anything. I mean, it explains why you feel the way you do, but it's not an excuse. Genuine question: How can you be in a relationship with someone for 7 years and still be so completely insecure in front of him and apparently not trust him enough? How can you be in a relationship for seven years and still not be able to openly communicate with each other, to be able to tell each other everything? A relationship is supposed to be about being able to be yourself and not worry about not being accepted. Especially after SEVEN YEARS. Seven years and you still don't fully trust him. Seven years and you still can't openly communicate with him. Seven years and you still don't know him well enough to know how he'd take it? Serious question: How did this happen? How did SEVEN YEARS of intimate partnership and relationship go by without building trust and open communication. Seriously, HOW?

    • You have a great point there. A very great point. This is the only thing I haven't mentioned during our relationship. Even though it only started from last year, it's something i need to have the balls to open up about. I think I would have more of the balls to confess about cheating than watching porn lmaoo. But you're right, I have to be 100% honest even though i feel embarrassed about it. Thank you for being straight forward, thats what I'm looking for when I ask questions. Thank you

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  • Try watching porn with him... chances are he also watches porn too. You two can talk about what is hot to you and such. When I watch porn with my hubby we play keep away... we lay there naked and watch porn and try not to touch each other. We do this til we can't take it no more and then feverishly go at it.

  • No, I watch porn all the time. I'm in a long distance relationship, so since i only see him about one or two weekends a month, I watch porn when I'm not with him and horny

    • I can imagine which category of porn that is 😏

    • @scooogy lol oh really

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  • I don't see what's wrong with it.

    Only once it becomes a porn addiction, that's when it becomes a more damaging mental health issue. But just for a bit of education and ideas, that is more than fine, good luck, enjoy, have fun!

  • I don't see anything wrong with it, and I would be surprised if he didn't do that himself, from time to time.

    • he's not into that but if he was I would watch it with him haha

  • And don't for get ,, you watch it to feel something you want to feel,,,, I think if it make you happy do it there are many things in life we want to experience understand it feel it or at least for me that's the WAY it is but him single and would do it even if I wasn't

  • I do not think there is anything wrong with it. Do you masturbate while watching it? I do even though I have an active sex life.

  • I look at it myself on occassion. Who am I to judge.

  • if it was me you was confessing to i would tell you its more than ok and if you liked we could watch together sometimes. i would also encourage you to masterbate when you watch it while im at work if thats secretly what you wanted to do... afterall its just fantasy and a wank and really is not a reason to get jealous or possesive

  • Honestly it's not good to watch. It's like cocaine, highly addictive. Not at first, but you will find yourself visiting it more and more often over time. Before you know it, you can't get off with your partner anymore, or have to keep trying new things you saw in porn, and then those wear off, and it gets more and more extreme and one day you end up in an interracial gangbang being filmed for your onlyfans site.

    Or not. It seems to affect men more, but many females also become addicted.

    • Oh really? Wow, thank you. I just started watching it last year, watched it about 4 times through out the year. But i think you're right. I watched it to learn new things

    • I think men overall need to be more aware of this warning. 4 times a year isn't a problem. Just be mindful of your time watching it, and it's always great to learn new things. Instead of watching porn, I might suggest finding sites that have open discussions (not G@G!) by adults into new things to try and such. Illustrations are more than helpful and not harmful in the way porn is.

    • Oh great. Thank you. Hearing people say it's both bad and good I'll actually stop and try your way, that is really better than watching random people have sex, not my idea of learning but It sure was an option. Thank you

  • That’s bad

    • Oh really? Oops

    • Yep, naughty

  • I don't see the harm in watching porn from time to time as long as you don't become addicted to it. If you are embarrassed to tell him you could ask him if he would like to watch some porn together to learn new things to see how he reacts.

    • Oh thank you. That sounds like a great idea

    • I hope it all works out for you. Have fun. Stay healthy and safe.

  • It's not bad to watch porn regardless

  • No, just don't expect every man to have a huge meaty cock.

  • It depends. I think it can rujn your sex life. Especially if you’re wanting eachother tk do things they don’t like.

  • Just tell him

  • No. You could even fap to porn, nothing wrong with that.

  • What kind of porn?

    • Adult sex porn

    • Do you ever watch BBC

    • Oooh what's BBC? Never heard of it. I've only watched what's on porn hub haha

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  • That sounds just fine to me, but do you ever watch porn together?

  • Depends on if your partner is okay with it and whether or not you choose porn over sex

  • It's ok if both are ok with it..

  • Hayul no.

  • I don't think it is bad. But then my exgfs and i both liked watching it and knew we watched it. Its up to you both really.

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