Is it normal when my boyfriend cums then he stops before I do?

[Anonymous]

Sex is over after my boyfriend cums. I can sometimes can cum before him sometimes not.

[ohsheeT]

You have to look at it two different ways and around about way it can be normal because guys seem to get two aroused and they might come faster but then you have to think about it he's only thinking about himself and that's usually the most cases
and for me I learned many many years ago for to have in order to have the best sex you have to make it all about her and you have to take her there at least a couple times before you even think about coming that's for me that's what I've learned and I've carried that with me for many many years that's what I believe in and that's what I've always will believe in

[Leapfrog00]

He might be getting too excited. Before you have sex, do some foreplay. Like have him do some nipple kissing and sucking, eat you out, go down on him, but don't let him cum, have him kiss your neck, kiss his neck, things like that. That'll make the sex last longer and you both will cum really good. Always works for me!

[msmissydc]

He should have other ways to make you cum available. Either that or he should stimulate you before, so you can cum before him.

[Bricealan]

That was my advice, and you hit the nail on the head. I was 29 before I learned that, and STILL failed to do what I knew was the right thing sexually with a new partner, later on

[Anonymous]

Ha! It’s how guys are. Either choose to be okay with this type of love life, or be celibate.
Easy.

[MrNameless]

Any self respecting cis men would make his woman cum first before he does. Be it oral sex or penetrative sex.

[Quackthulu2]

That’s grounds to replace him right there.

[spartan55]

Your boyfriend is a selfish ass who sucks in bed. That being said, have you discussed this issue with him?

[Gingerbread_GB]

Tell him there are other ways he can please you even after he cums.

[strateguy632]

depends how much rubbing between 2-3 minutes is not bad. less than 2 minutes ask a doctor. longer time is better so a lady should not "squeeze" if she wanted more time.

[Bricealan]

He needs to eat you out to Orgasm, and then fuck.

[Bricealan]

My answer was 'abrupt, and probably sounded crude to you, and I am sorry to have been so blunt. I had a girlfriend in my 20's that had several 'relationships just like YOURS, and guys would fuck her over and over and she was left to masturbate later. (She told me that, and I think many women are in that situation) Sad to say, I did not learn a hell of a lot from that experience, even later on with other women that I had sex with. With this particular girl, Sue, I got so I would eat her to orgasm, FIRST, and then we would fuck, and many times we masturbated together, (when we got beyond the inhibitions of discussing our masturbation practices) I have to confess, I have been as selfish as any man in that regard, and have been lax with seeing that my partner had an orgasm or two along with me. From my POV,,,,,,, men tend to be 'selfish' when I comes to sexual satisfaction, and after our penis 'explodes' in you, or sex drive goes to hell, along with the softening penis. You have to reach some level of understanding with your partner, about your 'need's' regarding sex, or that will usually happen EVERY TIME... Take my word for it.

[Uenvy694u]

No he should always make sure you get pleasured as well. Another reason he's only thinking about himself. Proof is him stopping when he gets his. Remember it takes 2 have sex. But 2 have great sex it takes 2 who love pleasuring each other. Not just himself.

[Dargil]

My house rule. She cums first, by any means necessary, or I don't.

[Nikki1989]

You need a better boyfriend.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

It's called him being selfish.

[VikingWarLord]

After a guy cuums he doesn't wanna think about seex again for at least another 30 minutes.

Your brain instantly hates the idea of seex after cuumming

[AustColombiangirl]

you deserve better sex

[Vegasrunner]

At your age yes it is very normal. You are probably one of the only girls that your boyfriend has had sex w/ therefore he's still in the stage where he's discovering his pleasure. Men typically need to have a lot of partners to learn how to be good w/ women.

[Twalli]

Unlike girls, guys can't keep going after cumming

[In_Trance]

That's inexperience

[Pterodon]

He’s a piss poor lover

[najekim]

Then he's not looking after your needs or desires. Ass-wipe in my book.

It ain't over until the lady is thoroughly satisfied.

[Paulychicagoluv]

Sounds like he's selfish

[OnlyMeee]

I'm kind of a gentleman in regards to this, ladies always cum first, then me, that way I know we're both satisfied.

[jjj101010]

Does he not finish u off after?

[Cheerfull009]

Most girls cum together with partner but some comes early and some later

[tallblondejohm]

He should always make sure you always cum first. Mandatory number one rule!!!

[joe488]

That's why my girlfriend has so many other fuck buddies, lol. Just because I finished doesn't mean she is finished!

[Northernlight19]

Some men, especially if they're new to sex, have a hard time reading women's signals and are, simply put, just not good at sex in general. It's a skillset like any other that needs to be developed with time and practice.

In any case, this is something that you need to talk to him about.

[Spike77]

He looks young and should be able to do better than that about holding it off. But otherwise yeah once we nut there usually is a little downtime. Not so much when I was 18 though.

[Anonymous]

Do you take any responsibility for your orgasm, or do you leave that completely up to him?

[Anonymous]

If that’s the case make sure you are primed and ready.. a lot of women believe that it’s the man’s job to get you going. That’s not the case, it’s your job to get yourself ready. However, you can ask him to give you oral for a while until you cum and then go at it. But your pleasure is your responsibility. You ensure that you do what you need to to get off. If he is a nice enough guy he will do what you request because it’s fun. But not his job to make you cum, that’s on you.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think either of you two are…. Normal