Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Is it ok not to have sex with my husband any more?
Anonymous
I love my husband very much, we’ve been married 3 year now but I’m not attracted to him any more and I dislike having sex with him, we have had so many arguments about this where he tries to guilt me into giving him sex and I have even told him that if he wants to have sex with another person I am totally ok with that. But he refuses and says that I should want to. I’m just confused because I know I don’t want to have sex with him any more and if I have to choose then I will leave but I don’t want to leave him, i love him. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to open the relationship up to him having another woman and still enjoy everything good in our relationship, I know he loves me too. Did I make a mistake and I shouldn’t have married him and now this is my punishment feeling confused and guilty?
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17 70Are you gunna sleep with other men?
Here is a motto that I go by that is derived from Psalms 23 in the Bible and one of the biggest aspects that I feel apply to me or that I know about from the Bible. The motto is "to want is to sin." You remove the want, and you end up removing the suffering. That is how my compassionate nature works quite well, so try it out and you might end up not mind having sex with your significant other again.
Wow, talk about buyer's remorse. You love him but you argue about you not wanting to have sex with him. This WILL eventually lead to either counseling or divorce. It's got to be one of the most sensitive subjects. The question is, are you not attracted to him for a specific reason? Are you attracted to other men/women? Opening marriage to other partners can be a temporary solution but it can't be for just one of you or it would give you just cause for divorce because of infidelity and it could lead to a nasty settlement. Are there children involved? That can be another factor. Are you still in the marriage because you consider it financial stability? These are all factors you need to break down in order to decide which way to go.
Poor guy. It’s torture and if you love him, you shouldn’t be so cruel.
You have failed as a wife, it is your duty to have sex. Why masturbate & not fuck anyway?
What you have is friendship, not love. This is ABUSE!
Why u don't want it cause he has a shrimp instead of a eggplant?
Why are you even still together. You don’t truly love him.
I would just want to have sex with my wife, not get involved with weird relationship games. I would consider a divorce if you actively told me that after just a few years.
Either a troll or a really stupid woman.
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@es20490446e Seriously?
@es20490446e You're a tool.
which country are you from and what is your ethnicity?
Train wreck ahead. Just get divorced and end this nonsense and move on with your lives.
No one can force you to have sex, that's certain.
Now, it seems that what you think is love, isn't love, in fact. You like him, you feel safe with him, maybe the idea of being with someone is nice to you, but I think you don't love him.
To me, it's bound to blow up, sooner or later. And I think you already know it, but dislike that idea. Not everything can be saved. And this sounds like it can't be. So... do what you must. You can stay with him but you won't be happy, and he won't be either.
So what changed for you why are you suddenly not attracted to him
Leave him.
Ask your husband if it's ok
sounds like very serious underlying marriage issues. sex is never the reason, only incidental. but some marriages are plutonic and work.
Why stay married
I think you guys need to see a marriage counsellor.
Get yourself a fuck buddy.
To deny him sex is abuse. Men generally need it more than women, and you are not upholding your part of the marriage, denying him his right. If you deny him sex he will almost undoubtedly cheat on you at some point, just in sheer desperation.
I hope one day you'll be ashamed by that comment you just wrote
@Snickermarstwix he's absolutely correct. I wouldn't be ashamed of what he wrote. She should be ashamed of what she's doing.
I'm not saying who's wrong or right in the absolute as I ain't god. Just my opinion.
@Snickermarstwix Love is about give and take, so if she doesn't want to make her husband happy something is already wrong.
We are talking about two people in their early 30s. Something is already wrong in the relationship. The husband shouldn't cheat, but eventually leave it.
Love is about give and take which is the reason why she's offering him a deal. Because I don't see why it can't be rape from the man side.
@Snickermarstwix The deal of sexless?