Is it okay to be sleeping with another girl meanwhile on a break from my girlfriend?
Anonymous
My girlfriend said she needed a break from our relationship so I started sleeping with my neighbor as I live in an apartment so we already knew each other. We’ve done it already like 6 times.
Yeah it's fine. Your girlfriend is likely doing the same thing with another guy or intends to. "I need to take a break from this relationship" is basically an old cliche girls use when they want to monkeybranch with another guy or guys but still want to keep their old boyfriend as a safety net to fall back on if things don't work out any new guy or guys. To be very clear when your girlfriend said she needed a break what she meant was that you both take a break from each other but don't sleep with anyone, on other words she wants you to think she's not sleeping with anyone else so you don't. She wants you to think you are still together while she's getting f*cked by another guy and if you were to catch her the first thing she would say Is "we were on a break" but if she caught you she would say you are cheating.
I say stick with the neighbor girl and keep having sex with her.
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NathanDavisMaster
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no, Ross... it is not
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ShadezMcgeeGuru
1 y
Define break.
There is no break. You either broke up or you didn't.
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WarrenHXper 2
1 y
It’s cheating, no good :(
Perhaps you should’ve asked her if she’d be into fmf or ffm 3somes?
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MiristheissMaster
1 y
Well, as long as you know that you are permanently ruining your chances of ever getting back together with your girlfriend.
There is a difference between breaking up... going your own ways and not seeing each other for 2 years and then bumping into each other again one day and enjoying each others company and catching up and having a spark and then deciding to date again and both realizing that there were other lovers each had during that break up and "taking a break" and maybe not seeing each other for a month but planning to revisit dating each other after this short break and finding out they were having sex with other people during this "break".
If you have sex then just call it a break up, go no contact and move on from each other because having sex with someone during this break ruins any hope that you two will ever get back together.
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CaptainCuddlesXper 4
1 y
No, that's not okay. Taking a break is exactly what it sounds like: hitting the pause button on the relationship so you can step away and reevaluate. The boundaries of what exactly the break entails should have been discussed between you and your girlfriend, but generally sleeping with other people while taking a break isn't right.
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YourFavoriteFriendXper 5
1 y
"If she needs a break, she's already doing the cake" ;)
- A wise man
You should officially break-up and you should sleep with you "friend" freely. She sleeps with her "friends" anyways ;)
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misogynistic_pigYoda
1 y
Yes.
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AdithyaRYoda
1 y
Sorry Ross Geller but being on a break doesn't mean sleeping with others.
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SubarugirlYoda
1 y
Ask yourself the same question in reverse. Would you be okay if she did the same thing? There is your answer.
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Asker
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That’s different
Subarugirl
1 y
How is that different?
Zebadee88Explorer
1 y
I do the same for my girl too sometimes
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TaureanBull81Guru
1 y
Technically you and your girlfriend are "separated" so you're free to see another woman and sleep with her. It was your girlfriend who asked for the break from your relationship so it isn't cheating at all.
Good on you as we all have needs!
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RockstarrrrrExplorer
1 y
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TroyDT2Xper 7
1 y
I don't do a "break." If she asks for one, I tell I will consider us broken up.
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BobbieBoy666Xper 7
1 y
You bad bad boy you.
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MountAverageGuru
1 y
What use will anyone's answer here be to you? Your girlfriend's opinion is the only one that will matter in this. It is between you and her. No matter what anyone here will tell you, none of it will change how your girlfriend will feel about it.
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TwalliMaster
1 y
Taking a break is the same as a breakup, but with the option of getting back together.
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AngryCarlExplorer
1 y
I mean you're on a break from your partner. You don't have to take a break from sex. You never go back after you take a break anyway.
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admlesGuru
1 y
Depends on the terms of the break.
Personally I don’t believe in breaks- you’re either together or you’re not. To me it’s like telling someone you don’t want to be with them anymore, but you don’t want anyone else to have them.
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cloud9vortex1234Yoda
1 y
She wanted the break so she got it. It's possible she found someone else so she wanted what she calls a break. Theirs nothing wrong with finding someone else just in case.
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15 35Yeah it's fine. Your girlfriend is likely doing the same thing with another guy or intends to. "I need to take a break from this relationship" is basically an old cliche girls use when they want to monkeybranch with another guy or guys but still want to keep their old boyfriend as a safety net to fall back on if things don't work out any new guy or guys. To be very clear when your girlfriend said she needed a break what she meant was that you both take a break from each other but don't sleep with anyone, on other words she wants you to think she's not sleeping with anyone else so you don't. She wants you to think you are still together while she's getting f*cked by another guy and if you were to catch her the first thing she would say Is "we were on a break" but if she caught you she would say you are cheating.
I say stick with the neighbor girl and keep having sex with her.
no, Ross... it is not
Define break.
There is no break. You either broke up or you didn't.
It’s cheating, no good :(
Perhaps you should’ve asked her if she’d be into fmf or ffm 3somes?
Well, as long as you know that you are permanently ruining your chances of ever getting back together with your girlfriend.
There is a difference between breaking up... going your own ways and not seeing each other for 2 years and then bumping into each other again one day and enjoying each others company and catching up and having a spark and then deciding to date again and both realizing that there were other lovers each had during that break up and "taking a break" and maybe not seeing each other for a month but planning to revisit dating each other after this short break and finding out they were having sex with other people during this "break".
If you have sex then just call it a break up, go no contact and move on from each other because having sex with someone during this break ruins any hope that you two will ever get back together.
No, that's not okay. Taking a break is exactly what it sounds like: hitting the pause button on the relationship so you can step away and reevaluate. The boundaries of what exactly the break entails should have been discussed between you and your girlfriend, but generally sleeping with other people while taking a break isn't right.
"If she needs a break, she's already doing the cake" ;)
- A wise man
You should officially break-up and you should sleep with you "friend" freely. She sleeps with her "friends" anyways ;)
Yes.
Sorry Ross Geller but being on a break doesn't mean sleeping with others.
Ask yourself the same question in reverse. Would you be okay if she did the same thing? There is your answer.
That’s different
How is that different?
I do the same for my girl too sometimes
Technically you and your girlfriend are "separated" so you're free to see another woman and sleep with her. It was your girlfriend who asked for the break from your relationship so it isn't cheating at all.
Good on you as we all have needs!
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I don't do a "break." If she asks for one, I tell I will consider us broken up.
You bad bad boy you.
What use will anyone's answer here be to you? Your girlfriend's opinion is the only one that will matter in this. It is between you and her. No matter what anyone here will tell you, none of it will change how your girlfriend will feel about it.
Taking a break is the same as a breakup, but with the option of getting back together.
I mean you're on a break from your partner. You don't have to take a break from sex. You never go back after you take a break anyway.
Depends on the terms of the break.
Personally I don’t believe in breaks- you’re either together or you’re not. To me it’s like telling someone you don’t want to be with them anymore, but you don’t want anyone else to have them.
She wanted the break so she got it. It's possible she found someone else so she wanted what she calls a break. Theirs nothing wrong with finding someone else just in case.