Is it true that first time sex usually bad?

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tfan1 · Accepted Answer

It was for my wife and I on our wedding night. Both of us saved our virginity’s for each other. She was over excited and thought she was wet enough - she was wrong big time. I had a lubed covered condom on my erect penis and she said put your penis in my vagina. So I did and the lube wasn’t enough because as soon as I entered her vaginal entrance, she said take it out it burns! So I did and to give her time to recover I licked her clitoris to orgasm figuring that would get her lubricated to try again. She was low on energy and I said do you want me to try again? She said yes. I took off the condom and put on a new one on my erect penis and slathered lube on my penis and on her vulva. I said are you ready? She said let’s try it. So I gently penetrated her vagina easier this time and got 3/4 of my 6.2” penis inside her when she said take it out because it was burning her again. So I did and I got toilet paper and cleaned the lube off her vulva and vaginal opening. She apologized in a weakened state. I kissed her and said don’t be. We got the future ahead of us to get this right. She kissed me and said I’m sorry I can’t help you but you need relief too. You need to go masturbate on the toilet or you won’t be able to sleep. I said ok. I went to the bathroom, masturbated and ejaculated into some toilet tissue I wrapped around my penis and flushed the semen filled toilet paper down the toilet. I washed my hands and got into bed next to her and looked at my new wedding ring hoping our future sexual times will be better.

SteveSmith1985 · Accepted Answer

No. Not for the guy certainly. That can certainly be true for women (depending). But the reason that you hear that, is because there is truth to it LOOKING BACKWARDS in retrospect. The reason comes down to this: You will have "better sex" later.

And that makes sense if you think about it. I mean, you become more and more comfortable having sex as you gain a little experience. Once you're more comfortable/confident you're apt to be "better" in bed than you were the first time you had sex.

The other thing is, losing your virginity is a whole experience. It's finally happening, there's (hopefully) a lot going on emotionally; your making sure that she's all-good (if she's a virgin too especially); etc. And losing your virginity is a whole "big thing."

And it's great. Honestly. You'll enjoy the hell out of the experience just as much as you hope you will. It's only on a purely "sexual" level that sex can get better in time. There is still something really special about the first time you have sex. There's a reason that people don't forget losing their virginity. Whereas "great sex" can easily slip-one's-mind after a time. It's not as big of a deal. In the grand scheme of things, I'd say losing your virginity is not "bad" at all. Quite the opposite.

I think that's where things got mixed up. You'll have better sex (on a purely sexual level) at some later point in your life. But losing your virginity will stand out as a great sexual experience (hopefully).

Emiliamazing · Accepted Answer

I think it can be enjoyable. If both participants are committed to each others enjoyment, and it's not a selfish or one-sided experience, odds are increased Both will have fun.

Tamera952 · Accepted Answer

Well, …. not exactly bad per se, but on average …not great. Especially for the girl. But needless to say, it’s never what you expect it to be.

Alessa13 · Answer

It was okay for me, not great, not terrible. I was excited to try it but each time after that it got far better.

summiter · Answer

It was not for me. I was a nervous 17 yr old but fortunately my girlfriend had had sex a few times before with her ex boyfriend and was on birth control. We had sex 3 times my first afternoon and the orgasms kept getting better each time.

SnowedIn · Answer

Sometimes yes and sometimes no. It really depends on the two people and how much care and concern they put into having sex the first time.

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

When you look back on it later, you’ll realize how little you understood and… No, first time sex should be fantastic! At the time.

AMS700CX4u2 · Answer

The first time can be painful to the female. That first stretch can cause sensations that you may be unaccustomed to but for most it is quickly forgotten. First time for males, the stimulation and the fantasy coming real are more than than we expect so it does not last long. I have never heard a complaint. We only want to practice more.

AviatorTom · Answer

It wasn't for me. It was very nice, so nice in fact we did it again the next morning.

Bricealan · Answer

No, most of the time, it is great.

samuluaa · Answer

Not for everyone but maybe for some people.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Nope.. if the girl. im dating enjoys it I'm happy to oblige but otherwise I just use my own body for her. Answer my latest if you are bored :)

FunkyMonkee · Answer

It wasn't for me!! We had a GREAT time, both times!!

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Not always true. But the first time is likely to be full of emotion, anxiety, fear. You get calmer and enjoy it more with experience

exitseven · Answer

If I had it with somebody I loved it would have been better instead I did it with somebody I just met and it really was not very good.

Jennz6 · Answer

First time can be fun if you’re not forced

LiamJHayden · Answer

I can only answer for myself, but "No."

kellytheman · Answer

Yeah it also depends the guy might be too nervous to preform and might be bad or sloppy and cum to quickly and sometimes it kinda hurts the girl when the guy inserts himself in her. Also it kinda sucks when one is doing all the work and people don't know what they are doing and had no practice having sex.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

Mine was fine.

Mayo503 · Answer

All depends on how you both feel I say

Randalama · Answer

Mine was positive, quite enjoyed that.

Twalli · Answer

It's amazing at the moment. It's a good feeling, generally. My girlfriend and I loved it, all 4 times we did it in one day (the first 4 times). Looking back we sucked at sex. It wasn't bad sex, because we enjoyed it, but we weren't good at it. Now we're a lot better and see it as pretty subpar sex. So first time sex is always bad, looking back on it after becoming better, but it isn't bad in the moment.