You are being very smart ,, but the other thing that you want is thst he know your a Virgin and he makes it all about you , I mean everything from your FIRST kiss to your FIRST touch he not only has to now whatnot do but when to do it and how he has to be able to read your eyes the tone of your cheeks the way you breath moan move your body if he can do all of the above he will melt you and give you 1 to 5 orgasm one after the other can you feel energy if you can feel energy and if he can do that you both. Will feel the most beautiful feeling I believe there is or that we have as people or humans , once you have experienced this weather in real like or even through sexting it's doesn't matter you have to experience something before you can under stand it all the way other wise we go through step by step and we take the long way to get there I hear what your asking but also know you have to have your desires all at the same time to make it happen I'm sure you masturbate and every time you do it that's a step your fantasy tell you how hot it can be no your not wrong at all but through fantasy through sexting and through finding the guy that will make it all about you is RIGHT NOT WRONG really it's very smart
Why do you suppose that would be wrong? I'd say that the majority of young virgin women feel as you do, and for good reason. Most young, inexperienced guys would be too inexperienced and distracted by their own issues to know how to make things good for a virgin girl - and it can be painful, awkward, and difficult for some even with the best partner. It's hardly an unreasonable desire.
Having said that, experience alone isn't enough: you also want someone who is willing to be patient with you, and to make your first couple of times about YOU rather than about HIM. Once you're used to it, then the guy can focus on himself more.
I’ve been shamed for feeling like it so I always thought it was considered wrong.
Yesyesyesyes! I don't think its wrong at all.. cause I think kinda the same way! :p Are you into older guys at all? I am (the guy im currently talking with is 10 years older than me, and I have a really good feeling about this one! 🤞) and that's kinda part of it. It's kinda sexy knowing they've been around and know some shit! In the bedroom and out in the world.
They can show you the way! ;p I'm totally into it.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Not at all- that seems like a pretty reasonable thing to me. I'd just make sure he understands that you're new at this, and don't really know what you're doing yourself. It can be pretty intimidating the first time, and even if you've read up on the theory, putting it into practice can be a daunting proposition. You may want to start with something simpler before moving into full-on penetration. Perhaps something of a tour to "get to know the genitals in question", so to speak.
Remember that sex isn't a competitive sport; the guy you're doing it with is someone you (presumably) likes you and will be willing to give you the help you need.
Yeah I’d definitely want to take is slow.
I think it's a good idea to lose your virginity to someone who knows what they are doing and will treat you with gentle tenderness so that you enjoy your first time. That, as opposed to a guy who is horny, has no finesse, who has no awareness of what women like, and just can't wait interested in stick his cock inside you.
You need to be treated to really skilled, tender foreplay first. Once you are good and warmed up, the guy needs to be gentle, communicate, and take cues from you. If that happens, I guarantee you'll love the feeling of having a dick inside you for the very first time.
I wish you the very, very best luck. May your experience be magical and memorable.
yeah you should know you're body a little bit yourself first though if you pm me I can tell you what you need to know
try something with a lot of vibrations like a battery powered toothbrush it's stronger than a lot of the toys at the adult toy store and it only cost 7 bucks at the dollar store
I still live with family so I’m not sure how to explain why I’m buying another one when I already have one 😅
it's only 7 bucks and you could tell them it's broken you dropped it or just change the head on that one it will rock your world
Well it depends on how much pain you want to endure before your broken in inexperienced guy will hurt you to no end experienced guy will make you feel loved be gentle with you caress you talk with you and through it you won't even know that your ready for prime time till next time you get freaky but be warned this is why waiting till you're married before having sex Is important just like tasting candy for first time it will be the most sensational feeling ever if done right and you will only want that dude to pleasure you because it's all you know tasted so be careful of the emotional attachment on your part and his too if you're just that good and dude can't get enough of that funky stuff from you
It's not uncommon for virgin girls to lose their virginity to womanizers, if that what you asking.
https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/NatureAdoresAVirgin
I remember this woman talking about a man she went to bed with that didn't know what he was doing. She discovered he'd slept with about 30 other women...
When doing anything scary people want someone who has been through it to guide them. This is not only not wrong, but kind of the essence of humanity.
How is it wrong?
I said "not wrong." Double negatives are unfortunate, but they happen 😕
Ah sorry I read that wrong aha, but thank you for you opinion.
nope, its not wrong. In fact, its a common concern. Nothing worth having is ever pain free. Losing your virginity will most likely hurt more when handled by the inexperienced.
You want more then a guy that knows what he's doing. You want a guy that isn't selfish and only with you got his own pleasure. You want a guy that will be gentle and cause you the least amount of initial pain and further to that cause as much pleasure as possible.
Yeah that’s definitely what I want, I was just too afraid to say that here because some people get upset with it easily
Follow me if you'd like to talk more about it in private.
Watch for the signs of the wrong guy vs., the right guy.
No, it is not. You have to accept he has been with other girls, maybe several.
Tell him you are virgin ad you would like him to be easy on you. There is a routine that can help you through first times.
Yeah I definitely accept and respect that he has his past with other girls. It’s just I’d feel a lot more comfortable with someone who knows that they’re doing and can reassure me. I’ve been called all kinds of names for feeling like that, as demonstrated by the below comment and it makes me feel bad.
I have been with two virgins I was a klutz with the first. For the second, I wanted to give her a fond memory. I will tell you it was like therapy, but we got there.
Your thought process isn’t odd, but your prior assumptions may be flawed.
what are you terrified of?
Why do you think what you’re afraid of is a matter of skill versus kindness, respect and communication?
I really don’t know what it is I’m afraid of 😕
The primary skill men get with experience having sex is the ability to fuck longer and harder without Cumming. So if you are terrified of it not lasting long then definitely get someone experienced. If you’re worried about pain, what you need is patience and caring. Foreplay will matter but there’s no reason to jump into intercourse anyway. It’s common for inexperienced people to engage in mutual foreplay many times before moving to sex and I’d really encourage you to be confident giving and getting orgasms with your partner before trying intercourse. At that point even if your partner had learned the foreplay you like starting at the beginning, they know your body now, how to get you really close to orgasm and basically at that point you just ease things in gently and slowly and see how quickly you want to go. Someone who isn’t obsessed with “only real sex counts” is also a plus. The first time I had sex was my partners first time too. We did mutual foreplay for like 30 minutes then she asked to try sex. We did it for a bit, she came (hard!), and then I could tell she’d had enough so I pulled out and she got me off other ways. The next time we did it for longer.
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It's not female self entitlement. Its someone with a legit comfort of preferring someone experienced vs inexperienced. Compare it to hearr surgery.. are you more comfortable with a first year med student just learning the technique or an experienced surgeon? Totally up to the person getting the surgery no? Same in this case. If she prefers someone experienced that's completely legit and nothing wrong with it at all.
Thank you ❤️
Most welcome. I wish you luck in your decision
nope. when you want to learn something nonsexual, say math, you go to someone who knows the most about it that you can instead of someone who has say just heard of it.
Not wrong at all.
Not at all. Someone with experience can help make things much more exciting and pleasurable for you.
So you reject inexperienced guys although you're a boring virgin yourself. The female entitlement never ceases to amaze.
No, that's just looking for someone with experience, seems pretty normal to me
I can say this not all girls are the same in what they like so even if a gug is experienced with many girls it doesn't matter so its about you both sharing what you know you both like an doing that i mean some girls likd fuys to be ruff an others like it gentle so no guy knows until a girl really say whag shd likes
It's wrong to want to date a manwhore, yeah. Just don't complain when you're a single 30 year old cat lady if you choose to go down that path.
If you'd feel more comfortable with a nonvirgin, that's your choice
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