Is liking thirst traps and following half naked girls on social media okay if you’re in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Nowadays opening up social media is a gamble. Sometimes you get bombarded with a lot of ass jiggling, twerking and basically soft core porn on your feed or explore page, you can’t even scroll through social media in public anymore. Now a lot of guys that I know (who are in a relationship) have been caught liking and/or following these so called IG Thots.

From the female perspective, it’s just disrespectful and embarrassing to see your boyfriend or your friends’ boyfriend publicly liking, following or even commenting on these kind of posts. I’d like to hear the perspectives from the other girls and the guys (especially those in a relationship that does this). Do you think this is okay? If so, why? Genuinely curious to know as to why guys do this.

[Kaneki05]

If honesty is disrespectful then you'll for sure have only bad relationships but that's your choice.
Because if a guy's honest they will tell you they aren't blind and find other women attractive, there is nothing wrong with that.
If a guys not honest he'll tell you he only finds you attractive while telling another girl that's also the only one he's see's attractive.

If ya don't get it you will learn.

[Asker]

I understand that guys can still find other girls attractive even when in a relationship. I just find it distasteful for committed guys to be following a bunch of half naked only fans chicks on their social media when they’re already in a long term relationship.

[Kaneki05]

It's just porn. You find disrespectful that's up to you but it's really not that deep. Only time you have to worry is if the guy is neglecting you or he's personally involved with someone, seeing some half hot naked girl on insta ain't that lol.

[Asker]

I don’t mind him watching porn bcs it’s low key and there’s no way that he can actually interact with the porn star but following/liking girls with his personal social media account seems to personal in my opinion.

[Kaneki05]

It's not personal, that's logically flawed so think what you want but logic proves that just seeing a random girl on insta whom he has no contact with nor even knows he exists is not personal. There is no actual way to interact with those girls either it's no different. Unless you believe those girls really do check their comments and reply to them, and go out there way to know their followers which they really don't lol. Most just use bots to like comments and reply back. And that's only for a few who even decide to comment in the first place which most guys don't. We look at it and move on.

[Kaneki05]

And girls who don't use bots won't know either, they are just responding for it helps their algorithm not that they want to know the guy. They've got their own lives, doing their own stuff.

[Asker]

That makes sense, thanks so much for the insight lol I needed it

[Kaneki05]

No worries :) Also speaking a bit personally here but my friend he looks at such girls on Insta, and watches porn but he's happily with a girl for 3 years now they've just had a child and she even had two children before him still all very young of course. He would never cheat I know that, if she was to break up with him for that it's just a really a dumb reason to do so when clearly both are happy and having a family together. And I know myself would never cheat but I look at such stuff too. People can say it's bad online but when your in a real thing none of this matters if your guy ain't a cheater.

[Asker]

I can see your point of view. I guess my main concern was that I’m worried if it will lead to more than just looking / eye candy or that he will find then more attractive than me. I guess I see these girls as competition for some reason

[strateguy632]

stop over reacting. half naked is still dressed! why do look at the half empty? if it is soft it isn't porn. the word porn means something. dance is not porn.

a like is just a compliment so be reasonable if a lover likes n follows because just compliment. nothing else.

[Apple1996]

Nope that's not okay. I don't even think that's okay for single guys. There is no reason to be acting that desperate

[Asker]

True that! I can somewhat understand single guys doing it but still it’s such a turn off

[lastlyfound]

Why not okay for single guys too? What's wrong

[Apple1996]

@lastlyfound waste of time and energy when they could be trying to find a real girl to date. Or just put time and energy into their work or free time activities. It's pathetic to watch thirst traps online

[lastlyfound]

What's the harm in watching a girl that's showing off herself anyway and feeling aroused and even cumming to those pics?

[CrabCakes11]

It depends on whether she is okay with it or not

[Asker]

Are you personally okay with it/not?

[Tamera952]

Of course it’s ok get over it

[secret-admirer-perv]

Your first 2 sentences are hilarious. Especially coming from a woman

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Sure it's okay but we're breaking up after.

[Asker]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[BCRanger10]

I say not okay at all, even when you're single.

[Asker]

In your opinion, why do you think that this is not okay at all?

[BCRanger10]

Because it's still objectifying women, making them means of entertainment.

[Asker]

Couldn’t agree more, I appreciate you sharing your thoughts on this. Thank you!

[BCRanger10]

You're very welcome.

[laly520]

not ok at all

[Asker]

What if they’re single?

[laly520]

depends on person but personally I wouldn't be interested in a guy like that

[Asker]

Fair point, I feel the same way

[Shedzij567]

I seriously don't like it if my boyfriend does that, but actually we all look at attractive celebs etc, but he should not openly like it or comment on it. Also I do think that if you keep your man satisfied he won't be thirsting after those.

[butterly248]

Up to you

[Asker]

I personally think looking is okay but not liking/commenting/following. What about you, where would you draw the line?

[DrPepper12]

It's fine. Your in a relationship not dead

[Wise4myage]

That’s entirely up to you.

[Wise4myage]

I think it’s ok as long as it doesn’t go beyond that.

[Asker]

So where would you draw the line then?

[Wise4myage]

Sending nude pics and sexting.

[Asker]

That would be considered as cheating for sure in my book. But do guys typically also jerk off toor fantasize about the half naked girls they see on social media?

[Wise4myage]

Yes, but guys that do that are single.

[Wise4myage]

** Usually

[Asker]

Ah okay, thanks so much for the insight!

[Wise4myage]

Your welcome.😊

[Twalli]

My sister and I are both engaged and both follow people we find attractive. Our partners know. They don't care because we aren't actually doing anything with those people.

[KrakenAttackin]

How about posting thirst traps while in a relationship?

[Asker]

Definitely not okay as well

[MichaelBarnes99]

No lol, unless you're a cuckold.

[MichaelBarnes99]

To clarify, if you start doing that while having a girlfriend, she's likely to eventually do the same and start drooling over and liking pics of guys. And you'll have to be ok with that, since you do it as well.

[Asker]

Yeah an eye for an eye basically lol

[MichaelBarnes99]

correct lol

[Anonymous]

if you don't want guys to look, then maybe don't support the women who post that shit in the first place.

[Anonymous]

It certainly doesn't mean he's cheating, but it probably means you can do better. If anything forget about the sexual aspect of it. Why does this guy have so much time to be on Instagram? Why is he not becoming a better man.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely ok