Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Is lying about virginity a deal breaker?
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My girlfriend of one year lied to me about her virginity due to her being afraid that she would 'lose' me. It's not the virginity that angers me but the fact that she lied about something that big. Is this a deal breaker?
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What Girls & Guys Said
45 95Yeap. I don’t care if you’re a virgin or not, but do not ever lie to me like that.
Gentlemen don't ask.
It is up to her to manage the end of her virginity and any man who does a minimum of foreplay is going to know her condition.
I can understand why you are mad. Lying and making yourself out to be something you are not is never a good thing, be it you are male or female. If you're that concerned about it, just wait and see if she lies about anything else. Personally, I wouldn't break up with her because of that. However, it is your choice man
Yes. Because is a lie, if she lied about that she also can lie about another things. And dosen't make any sense lose you because she wasn't virgin, if you had left her because of that you were an asshole.
@dolidold Yes, it is a lie and ahe can lie again. However, being a virgin is something someone can feel ashamed about and therefore it's understandable why she lied. It's not about lying, it's about her intentions. She doesn't lie to hurt someone.
Lol so why did you ask this if you are so sure of that? I dont think understandable 🤷🏻♀️
She's a virgin and lied that she wasn't one?
Then I don't think it's a big deal honestly, it's a common lie, people are embarrassed about being a virgin so
From what I understood, she lied about being a virgin, when it was never the case.
@DiegoO Kinda weird to lie about it honestly. I don't think in itself it's a big lie or an important one but it would make me wonder if she lied about others things too.
He has a one year relationship with her. She lied for an entire year. That's screwed up. Imagine what other secrets she may be hiding.
@DiegoO In this case it seem that she was a former "sleep around" girls... Which is quite worrisome.
It reminds me a 3y LDR I had. I wish my long distance girlfriend the best, but even if we ever saw each other in person, I wouldn't be able to trust her. There is also this strange vibe that tells me to never get to know her in person. Not sure, why, beside of the obvious (her dishonesty), but I ain't going against the feeling. Last I went against it, things went deep south 🤜✨💥👎
@DiegoO I can't take LDR seriously either, the person can lie to you about everything and you have absolutely to ways to know what's true and what's not. I think in general it's always better to listen to your vibe if you have a bad one then it's for a reasons.
Yeah, there is no room for LDR, for me, anymore. Like you said, with LDR u just never know.
@DiegoO Yes, I don't really understand how can some people can blindly trust in LDR.
I mean, emotions are not something rational. The only reason I accepted the relation was because of the faith I decided to put in that little probablity I knew I had with her. I think most people do the same when emotions like optimism take the lead, instead of a rational thinking.
@DiegoO I don't know it doesn't work with me, my mind always go first.
Most girls i got with had more bodys then me but my current girl admitted i first before saying she had fucked other people. Every guy wants girl have less bodys then them but unless they virgin or bad at fucking won't want a virgin girl. Doesn't matter unless they fucked someone I know. This question screams incel. Also the same guys care how many bodys there girl have let there girls have male friends so they all clearly stupid or something.
You say that as if a guy has zero right to a PREFERENCE. Meanwhile women are free to choose guys based on stuff he can't even control like his height or the fact he's only had 3 years to build a career instead of 20. They never get shamed for their preferences but here you are mocking a guy for asking a question that was important to him.
@hahahmm ill shame a woman for her prefferences lmfao. If girls you with care about money you with wrong girls. My girl was with me when i broke still with me now.
I don't need anything from women like approval, "love", understanding... so the fact a woman might want this or that doesn't really matter. What matters is if she lives up to the standards I have. I get what you mean tho.
@hahahmm Then your gonna get women only care about sex and not virgins nothing wrong with it but what u want kinda contradicts what u want. I like that my girl love me cause shell wait for me if i in jail
I wouldn't want a woman to wait for me if I'm prison for a long period. Just like if I died I wouldn't want her to give up her life and never be with anyone else. The answer is not to do something stupid and go to prison.
@hahahmm You can go prison over collecting rainwater or shrooms lmfao. I like having girl that cares about me not want cares about dumb society's values
Or you can become successful & the more successful you are the less likely the system bothers you. That's how the game works.
She breaks your trust but due to fear of losing you, now you can warn her that you should know each and every detail so that it will never happen again in future , relationships based on the trust if you don't trust each other than there is no point of keep relationship, she should feel sorry for you and this should be her last lie to you
Any lie is a deal breaker.
What is the big deal about a women’s virginity? Didn’t you fall in love with the upper part and not the bottom part at first? OR maybe she will judge you by your size and decide big was better. OR maybe she will realize your are not great in the love department.
She lying about something small like this then she will lie gradually about more bigger things in the relationship
Seriously man? Are you asking this really? Because what if she is a virgin? Would it change how much you love each other? What a lot of people seem to forget these days, is that love is something more than just a bed. So, maybe she lied, but ask yourself: why was she afraid to tell you? Was it because of your usual reactions? Or could it be related to a past relationship she might of had? Find the cause, realise the effect, and get a solution. I hope you don't take me wrong, I am not here to criticize, only to help!
It's actually a sign that she is capable of lying to you.
if you're gonna dump her due to her lack of virginity, then you don't truly love her.
He said it was the lying aspect of it that rubbed him the wrong way
Lying is a deal breaker, period.
Moreover, I have never understood the hype around being a virgin or not. I don't think it is something to lie about. So yes, if you wanna lie about something that trivial, then yes. It is a deal breaker.
Yup. If she's willing to lie about that, she's willing to lie about anything. Think about it, is it a lie that she even needed to tell? If not, that tells you all you need to know.
You mean she IS a virgin? Yeah, probly a deal breaker. LOL
You got a weak girl there man. So this is the least of your problems. She'll lie about everything your whole life, and when she steps out on you, you'll never know it.
People are so weird about virginity. I don't blame her for lying about it, and it really wouldn't be that big of a deal to me if she did lie about it. There comes a point where people kinda... stop understanding someone's virginity. What's strange to me is that our generation is the most undersexed generation in a LONG time, and yet we still stigmatize people for it
I totally get your point and I agree.
I don't care at all about virginity.
It's the lie that bugs me.
Its circumstantial for me.
lying in general is a dealbreaker. virginity isn't.