Is okay when our boyfriend touches us down there?

[that_girl66]

Well I have a boyfriend, he did that but you know now I feel now really ashamed of my self and I wish I didn't let him do that, I want some advices, is it OK or not?

[AviatorTom]

It's okay if you want it to be okay. It's your body, and you have the right to control what happens to it. Boys will try to touch you, it's in their nature, but if you don't want that, at least until you are in a caring relationship, then stop them, and explain how you feel to them. Most boys will understand.

You shouldn't feel dirty though. The human body is a beautiful thing.

[JacobJordan]

It is not a right or wrong issue. It is based on how you feel. If you didn't like it then you didn't like it and shouldn't do it again. If you did like it then you liked it and should do it again. Sounds like you didn't like it. So don't do it again and let him know that you didn't really like it

[HelpfulWoman]

is it ok for you?
why do you feel ashamed of it?
as long as you consented, it was okay. but you're also allowed to regret it. perhaps set the boundary of no more of that until you feel more comfortable.

[that_girl66]

It happened Normally and I enjoyed okay but as a virgin I don't know what to say I feel ashamed!

[Paige90]

Most guys (and some girls) frequently do this and I would think something is wrong with them if they don't. If you don't want him to touch it just say no.

[that_girl66]

This is helpful

[Nessie6]

If he did it without you wanting it then no. It's not okay at all...

[Bagerl]

Do you feel safe to talk to him directly about this, and try to explain how you feel about him touching you in certain ways? Do you think he will listen to your concerns, and that you two will be able to talk through to a solution together that you are both comfortable with?

[Red_Arrow]

If it is something both want them it is okay. It sounds as if you wanted it and enjoyed it, but now you are feeling guilty. There is no reason to feel guilty. If you do not want to do that again with him, then don't. But do not feel that you did something bad. It is normal to have sexual feelings and to enjoy them. Some people have reasons to not want to do that and it is okay to not do those things. It is up to you.

[integrale77]

As long as you give consent and it's in suitable surroundings it's ok.
And as far as consent goes if you want him to touch you then it's fine but if not or if it's not always ok with you it may be time to set some boundaries.

[Berethor]

Most girls are having sex with their boyfriend so touching is a minor thing in comparison.

[dustybiker2]

You're 18? Men need to know your limits. Tell them ahead of time.

[that_girl66]

Like how

[dustybiker2]

Don't be afraid to speak your mind. Men can't read your thoughts. Speak up before these things happen.

[that_girl66]

Thankk youu

[TheSpectre]

Ask him not to touch there and talk honestly.
It's not that hard sweetie.

[that_girl66]

U think so?

[TheSpectre]

Yeah. If i was him, i'd apologize and dont touch your sensitive kitten due to your situation and until you feel secure. I'd spank your ass instead, hahah 😉

[that_girl66]

It's really uncomfortable ngl

[TheSpectre]

If he apologizes and stops, he is a keeper. If not and if he doesn't respect your wishes and understand your insecurity, i'd say dump his horny ass.

[that_girl66]

That's actually right I agree

[TheSpectre]

Wanna date me instead? Nah just kiddin. :) Hope he is indeed a keeper and not a douchebag!

[that_girl66]

Thank uu

[TheSpectre]

You are welcome. My dms are open if you want to talk and let me know what happened.

[Sarahr123]

If you don’t like it then just say no

[Fireguy17]

did you want him to, the yes it was fine. or if you didn't want him to and you told him no and he still did it anyway then no, it was not alright.

[laly520]

not ok if u didn't consent to it

[Drumlin2001]

It's pretty normal in a relationship but if you don't like it then you have to talk to him and set down boundaries

[David94358]

It's normal but if you are not ready for that, and it sounds like you are not ready then it's probably too soon for anything sexual for you. There is nothing wrong with holding off until you are ready

[that_girl66]

I understand that is ok but the thing is he did touch me

[David94358]

Ok well you can't go back in time and tell him no, so all you can do is move forward, your not ready for that, so you will have to tell him you are not ready yet and you guys need to move slower

[that_girl66]

So ur telling me to move on from him?

[David94358]

Not without a conversation with him, tell him what you told us, and how him playing with your pussy made you feel uncomfortable and you are not ready for that yet. Depends on how he responds you can then decide if you need to break up with him. How old is he?

[that_girl66]

23..

[David94358]

And you are 18? Are you willing to do anything to him? Like a hand job or a blowjob or you don't want anything sexual at all?

[that_girl66]

Nothing sexual at all and yes I'm 18

[David94358]

with him being older that has a good chance of being a deal breaker for him, obviously tell him how you feel and see how he reacts but there is a good chance he might break up with you. If you are not ready for sex then dating older guys is not your best option, the older you get the more its just part of dating

[bowenw]

It's okay for him to do it you want him to, otherwise tell him you are not comfortable with it.

[stratford]

If you didn't feel pressured into it, and you enjoyed it, and perhaps he allowed you to touch him back, I don't see any harm has been done.

Go easy on yourself!

[ElenaNazrova]

Definitely it's what they supposed to do else? Just relax he's just touching you but after sometime he will have access to explore and trust me you will enjoy

[Lottifan]

You consented to let him touch you there. There is no need for you to feel ashamed. You thought you were ready to do things but you’re obviously not. Talk to him. Tell him how you feel.

[Dongie]

Baby, of course it is not ok if it made you feel ashamed. If you are under age quit it anyway. Ya' got plenty of time and it's better when you are mature. I know. Don't let'em take advantage of you.

[Badgirlnatalia]

Only with consent

[In_Trance]

As long as you're cool with it it is

[Pterodon]

That’s up to you