Is there a double standard to how men and women are viewed when it comes to how many partners they’ve had?

[Willoughby23]

It seems like a lot of people think a woman who has had a lot of partners is viewed as a slut who has reduced her worth as a potential partner or spouse. But men who have had lots of partners are viewed as stallions, or more experienced, and are more desirable partners because of their experience. Or that men who have not had many partners must have something wrong with them, because they would obviously of had more partners if they could, and there must be a reason why women aren’t sleeping with him.

Do a lot of people think this way?

[kinkynicci]

Absolutely!!! A man with high numbers us regarded as a legend and a woman who has high numbers is regarded as a slut. If one can enjoy different people why can't the other?

[Willoughby23]

I agree

[Vegasrunner]

@kinkynicci Easier for women to get laid. Think about it like this, have you ever bragged to your female friends about how many guys have banged you?

[kinkynicci]

The fact that you just said it's easier for women kinda proves my point. And it's never how many guys banged me, it's how many ib let do it

[Vegasrunner]

@kinkynicci Actually you proved mine. Society rewards people for accomplishing things that are difficult not easy. Any woman can spread her legs therefore its not an accomplishment to get banged. Men that bang a lot of women are rewarded for being able to accomplish something thought to be difficult. This shouldn't be that hard to understand

[Miristheiss]

Because women do not care about a guy's past. They want a confident, experienced man. A take charge man. Men want a sweet girl who hasn't been done by 50 guys. Or else she is not wife material. Sluts are not wife material.

[Jennz6]

Body count is lower with women

[Willoughby23]

You think women have lower body counts than men?

[DextroShade]

You are delusional

[Jennz6]

@DextroShade not me, but most women do

[Willoughby23]

@DextroShade @jennz6 Yea ngl, in my experience women’s body counts have been way higher than mens.

[Jennz6]

@willoughby23 everyone has their opinion

[Willoughby23]

@jennz6 doesn’t matter to me though. It’s actually kinda hot tbh.

[Jennz6]

@willoughby23 you think that I’m hot?

[Willoughby23]

@jennz6 Most definitely 🔥

[Jennz6]

@willoughby23 thank you sweetie

[Willoughby23]

@jennz6 your very welcome

[Miristheiss]

Yes, most women do not care and expect men to not care. We do not give a crap about your careers but we realize women DO care about a man's job and money. We care about DIFFERENT things.

[MikeTheBartender]

the body count poll shows up. weekly here, women and men tend to have the same count, but more. men are virgins.

[IslaTheWitch]

@MikeTheBartender more men claim they are virgins :D

[Jennz6]

Thanks @willoughby23 💯💕 for the MHO

[Willoughby23]

@jennz6 your welcome 🤗

[msmissydc]

Yes, thats a sad reality.

[DizzyDesii]

Some people view it differently. I view it the same. I’m not into the same sex but I’d find it hard to take any man or woman seriously on a romantic level if they are having sex with a lot of people in life especially within a short span. I mean thats on them and they can do as they please. Its my personal choice to not show interest in pursuing them especially if they’ve surpassed more than a handful or have even hit the double digits

[hahahmm]

For thousands of years women were valuable if they could be loyal to A (as in singular) man, give him kids, and to a lesser degree be successful in some hobby/cottage industry. Men were valued for working their azzes off and being constructive & productive almost every moment of their lives. Feminism preached that men and women should be treated equally and that there should be no "double standards". But it turns out that women do not even want the same things that men want, so even if you ignore all the scientific evidence for biological and social differences, there is a difference and that difference is reflected in how people actually view each other too.

To give you one difference: only a woman can literally give birth to a lie. To bring a lie like "this is your kid" into the world that is living & breathing and draining a man's bank account for 18+ years.

[Paulalove98]

It matters to women too for men’s body count at least for most…. i wouldn’t want a guy who’s dick has been in every other girl or every other girl out of the 3rd or 4th group. It’s disgusting and uneasy to grasp and comprehend. If men can have their standards, than so can women. My body count is 4 counting my fiance as the 4th guy and for him I’m his 3rd and it’s acceptable but any guy to me who has more than 4 is definitely not marriage material. It for sure is double standard how they expect just women to be as pure as a fruit when they’re not innocent themselves I think for both sexes it has a valid definition.

[Paulalove98]

They wanna act all cool and high five their friends and expect a “young, pure, innocent, naive girl “ just so they can take advantage how about two play that game? What if a woman felt that way about a man? They gonna get so defensive and throw hands right away legit. Like if a woman said she wants a “attractive, innocent inexperienced young man” cause if they can have their standards then so can women!!

[molonski2]

Look , little doubt there is a double standard , I don't question that for a minute , its something that has evolved though the ages , wealthy men had multiple wives and lovers , and I guess the tag " SLUT " comes with the degree of difficulty involved.

Now , partly on account of my age I guess , and life circumstances , I would not like to have a partner that had a body count even 50% of mine , that's just being honest , I did make one mistake with an individual when I was in my 30s , and when I found her body count I was " exit stage left " , in fairness it made sense when I thought about her later.

But , having said all that , when I was 18 , I was seduced by my neighbor ( 27 ) and she was experienced , I was not , and that was an awesome education , she taught me about sex toys and positions , how to perform great oral sex , everything , it was harder to learn back then too , and certainly harder to get toys.

So yes , there is a double standard , but there certainly is a place for the " freer woman " and I've had a few , and I certainly knew a number of them , and some stunningly attractive ones though our club. But , it does make a massive difference if you wish to have a serious relationship with same , and like it or not , that's how it is.

BUT , always also keep in mind ( and this is proven ) women lie about their body count to the lower figure ( they say forgot ) and men lie about it to a higher figure , so just something to leave you with.

[236color]

Yes there is

[LazerBean]

How do people view such a thing is cultural.

A wealthy, southern Old gentleman versus some random dude who grew up on the street going to male promiscuity very differently. Likewise with male virginity, with even more differences or opinion arising depending on whether or not that male virgin is attractive, likable, successful, and religious as opposed to a sweaty jobless dude in his mommas basement.

I live in a quite conservative region. Even the non-religious people around here don't frown upon males keeping their virginity intentionally. But I've heard quite a few male virgins who were saving themselves for marriage use the insult "incel" for other men. Bevause being a virgin in and of itself is not an insult, it's only an insult if the person is not staying so out of moral values but out of inadequacy.

[Apple1996]

I don't understand this double standard because men that sleep around are also sluts and even more disgusting than women that sleep around since they very rarely ever get std tested

[Jennz6]

@apple1996 I used to be tested every month

[Apple1996]

@Jennz6 that's a good thing

[Jennz6]

Thanks because I was really active

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Men get called players FYI and there's a big stigma to that. So there goes your double standards agenda. But here's a difference you have to consider. A man is usually is the provider when dating so if a woman gets many men, she gets many providers but if a man gets many women, he has a lot to provide.

[Apple1996]

@Aiko_E_Lara having many providers seems ideal considering the world we live in lol

[wolfcat87]

Agreed, men doing it are so much riskier and very gross

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Then consider yourself a sort of a freeloader. That's where the slut shaming came from

[Apple1996]

@Aiko_E_Lara men are only sluts. I don't view women that way

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Of course you don't because you just refuse to believe it since you're too emotional think in a much more realistic perspective

[Paulalove98]

@apple1996 well said💯

[Jennz6]

@apple1996 thanks honey

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@Apple1996 Yeah thanks for being delusional

[mandyfire98]

I mean it's one of the most common double standards in society.

[monorprise]

Good rules and/or Standards are based upon consequences not some ignorant idea of 'equality'. The consequences of a woman sleeping around are far more significant than that of a man.

Soo too are the rules and/or standards because women are NOT men and trying to treat them 'equally' is harmful to both.

If you want to treat your dog equally as a cat your not going to have a dog for long.

[PeachyPie93]

I think there is a very big double standard. Tho I view men in the same light as women, there is no exceptions. Promiscuous people are a turn off.

[Miristheiss]

Most men care.

Most women do not.

Women care about money, job, height, confidence, charm, humor, assets... not sexual purity.

Most guys care about femininity, sweetness, loyalty, devotion and sexual past.

Men care about men's standards, women, women's standards

[Kaamraj]

Yes and rightly so, there was a double standard and there always will be double standards because men and women are not the same. When the Russo Ukrainian War broke out and Ukraine prevented military aged men from leaving no one batted an eye. When men constitute over 90% of combat and industrial fatalities, no one addresses that imbalance.

Likewise sex for men has to be earned. If a man has plenty of sexual partners and opportunities then it most likely means he's doing something right. Either he has access to lot of resources or has game or has some status in society. This is why only 20% of men have historically mated and have children. And swiping patterns from dating apps show that most women find most men unattractive.

[Dargil]

Yes, and there should be. Men can outlive a long visitor list in their youth. But after as few as 10 sexual partners, most women lose their capacity to bond with men an children. Don't like the latter? Prove me wrong.

[wolfcat87]

I can prove you wrong by being very close with my two children and husband of 17 years. No scientific study agrees with you. Even prostitutes get married and have children after hundreds of men.

[Dargil]

@wolfcat87 Studies are everywhere, if you choose to look for them.

[wolfcat87]

Great, then you'll have absolutely no problem providing them for the class to read. I know how to find studies and read them regularly. None agree with you. So, do share...

[Dargil]

@wolfcat87 one example. Impressive.

[wolfcat87]

One more than you provided, and I know far more women than that happily married with families after having multiple partners. So, where are these scientific studies you promised?

[ProbablyClueless]

There's a double standard, for sure, but it's not as stark as a lot of women's lib people would have you believe. Men who have slept around definitely don't get the props that a lot of women seem to think they do.

[wolfcat87]

I agree. Maybe decades ago, but now people have more of meh reaction.

[ProbablyClueless]

@wolfcat87 Even decades ago, guys who ran around sleeping with lots of women have always been seen as kind of sleazy

[Nikki1989]

Sadly, yes, men are hypocrites.

[Nikki1989]

Just read the comments. Thanks for proving me right, guys.

[Miristheiss]

Mmmm, I do not know. Just because women do not care about it does not men men do not. Most do. Women care about how tall a guy is, his job, how confident he is, how much money he makes, how charming he is. Men do not care about any of this... just that she is sweet and loyal. We care about different things.

[Joshydavid25]

It's not a double standard, it's a different standard.. There's all kinds of biological reasons for it. Men having a lot of partners is not really seen as that great of a thing.. Most people (usually women) don't like men whores or players either.. Sure it's not as shunned as a woman being promiscuous, but it's not looked too highly on like a lot of people seem to assumed. It's the ability to get those women that people usually respect, because it means that the man has gravitas, charisma, and confidence.. Male virgins or men who are not able to get women are highly looked down upon..

There's all types of reasons why being prom for men or women isn't good, but especially women.. It's as easy as breathing, which is why a woman being choosy and waiting for the marriage or a dedicated SO was praised. Also the biological reasons, like a man knowing that a child was his..

[Vegasrunner]

A man that has a lot of partners had to do something right in order to get them. Any woman can give away pussy in fact it's so easy to sell that even men sell pussy so society doesn't see value in a woman giving it away.

[DextroShade]

Yes most people all over the world think this way and there are reasons that every major civilization has shamed female promiscuity throughout history:

• Promiscuous females are a bad bet for paternity and no man wants to provide for some other dude's kid instead of his own
• They have a high likelihood of carrying venereal diseases that have been fatal for most of human history
• They are less likely to remain loyal to their husbands and families

Men on the other hand have always had to earn the ability to be promiscuous unlike women who are born with it. Historically the only men who could be promiscuous were top level guys who were kings or warlords like Solomon and Ghengis Khan. For most cultures male promiscuity was also proscribed so only the most powerful of men could pull it off.

[Jennz6]

@dextroshade Ghengis Khan had a Harem and Solomon had 1000 wives

[HaveNoName]

Let us not camouflage the fact that in case of women, it is not forgotten by society.