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Sexual Health Is watching girls on live webcam cheating or not?
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Just a question for you guys and gals. - Do y'all consider watching girls on live webcam cheating when you're in a relationship?
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def not cheating.
nothing is actually happening. it is just a release to a fantasy.
my girlfriend has gone to strip clubs with me & I have gone with her. she has girls nights & I have boys nights where we go out to places like that, without each other. we have watched p*rn together including webcam girls/guys. it is a turn on for both of us so much so that we have gone on cam a few times. we have seen things where we both were shocked, amazed & impressed all at once. we also do these things on our own.
some of the girls answering are going to have a hard time when they start living in the real world...or theyre going to be doing some messed up stuff with their boyfriend to keep him interested
This is the real world. You can't say that you live in the real world and everyone else isn't. That's like allowing slavery and saying "Hey, welcome to the real world." People have different standards, and if that is what works for you, then that's what works for you. But that does not mean the rest of us think this is okay.
LOL not everyone thinks like you, buddy. And Confucius is right. Here is an example of poly people pressuring mono people to go their way, claiming they live in a fantasy world if, gasp, we don't want to be with anyone but our partner. If that works for you and your girlfriend, fine, but judging mono people harshly for a legitimate lifestyle that both women and men enjoy makes you seem insecure.
cheating is doing something with another person. watching a screen of somebody doing things is not doing anything with that person. nice job on trying to say something as stupid as comparing webcams to slavery. as for me being something you call a 'poly person' that's not even close. I have no desire to be with another person when I have a gf... your jumping to say that I'm insecure is laughable. what is silly is that you think watching a screen is cheating.
It's still interaction. Why do people form close bonds over the Internet? It's not in-person, but it's still interaction. If a girl came over in person and you watched her, it's pretty much the same thing. Again, my issue here is that you're saying that every guy thinks like you. They don't.
Slavery was an analogy. If you don't like, it does not mean that the message is wrong. This is the real world, and there are people like you, and there are people like us. Yours is not the only standard. Cheating is anything that brings up desire to do something outside of the relationship. Watching someone on camera can even make you start to desire them. This doesn't always happen, but it is like you're engaging in fantasy with someone who isn't your girlfriend.
lol the ad hominem stuff here is great "but it is like you're engaging in fantasy with someone who isn't your girlfriend." which is why it is fantasy & not real, making it not real
Sure. Why wouldn't it be? Looking at another girl whose naked without you there.. no brainer
To me p*rn is what it is, visual stimulation to help get the job done but there is and will never be contact. Webcam girls on the other hand I would imagine give a more "personal" interaction that should be reserved for the person you are with exclusively and I believe it is entirely wrong. You shouldn't put the person you are with in that kind of uncomfortable and upsetting position. I would think it would breed resentment and self consciousness.
Depends on if they are doing sexual stuff. Even then it would have to be someone they know for me to consider it cheating. If they are just casual skyping or something then no it's perfectly normal.
as long as the viewer finds web cam sites same as other p*orn sites and doesn't register to them/won't start sending them messages trought chat myself i don't see it as cheating, but it's more up to the partner what he/she thinks about it
That is cheating in my opinion.
Watching porn is not cheating!! But i do think that webcam are and i think its very rude when you are giving your man head and they get on webcam!
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Not cheating at all. Go easy on him. It's same as p*rn. It's just more personal. He just watches a girl get off along with however many other viewers are watching the same girl. Visual stimulation is all.
So many people get so obnoxious. Is looking cheating? Is talking cheating? blah blah blah.
Cheating is when any part of the couple actively seeks out another person and/or obtains sex from another person.
Of course then there is the simple fact that if you and your partner did not define other parameters for the definition of cheating then you are not being cheated on.
Watching girls on line is not any different then a p*rn video as most are fake anyways.
I don't think of it as cheating, but it is behavior that I personally can not accept. There is no set standard for what is and is not cheating. Some people consider p*rn, or the use of sex toys cheating. Some people are fine with their husbands or wives going to a stripper. I don't see how a web cam is any worse than a stripper. At least with a web cam the stripper is not actually there so if anything, a stripper would be worse.
This is the kind of thing that people need to communicate with their partners, so they know how the other feels.
I wouldn't call it cheating.
if its interactive then imo yes it is.
certainly not
NO
It is the same as p*rn & less intimate than a strip club.
Only people who think those things are cheating would think it is cheating. You aren't doing anything physical with another person.
There is not any real connection with that girl in russia columbia or romania.
Ive been a performer and am very straight but I don't care if guys watch because it is NOT REAL. For the people who can't make that disticntion then they have other issues. These people should also not be allowed to have 'violent video games' since they can't distinguish fantasy/internet from reality
No it's not cheating. Saying y'all is enough reason for any respectable guy to break up with you though
if it's one of those websites where the girl has an account and lot's of guys watching I would say it's pushing his luck but generaly no because she's just doing it for the money and he's just paying for p*rn.
if it's one on one like a girl the guy knows her online than yes it would be cheating.
side note: if they are watching p*rn vids that are not live I don't think it's cheating.
I'd dump him.
If you actually communicate with the webcam performer, then yes I would say it's cheating. Otherwise, no.