My boyfriend asked me if his friend can join with sex?

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My boyfriend asked me if his friend can join us with sex yesterday. I was shocked because he never asked me this before and we have been together for a half year.. He was even begging for it. I told him no but he says it’s one of his sexual fantasies. Does he take me seriously? And should I do it because he wants it? I would only consider doing it if he won’t judge me afterwards.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

When I see things like this I question if he really loves you, that is, wants the best for you.. vs himself. I also question if he pushes this the direction of "trafficking" you. That has been done ya know... guys "date" a girl, romance her for 6 months... then convince her to do "tricks" for $, etc.. It's a scheme. I can't judge and doubt you could either... too close. Goal is break down your will power.

So where is the communication and his consideration of you in this? He's just bored with you already and needs to have some other guy with you to progress the relationship? How much porn this guy watch anyways?

I have talked about this situation on GAG where the woman wanted the 3 some (engaged couple) and that for some reason, seems a different scenario. The guy warmed up to it and guess it worked out, they are married at last check.

But I don't trust that here, so far. I think it's game over because I believe he will judge you. How long do relationships last... this ain't gonna help to give him semething he wants... then he's bored again.

This is something new in this generation to make this so "normal". It existed long time, and I saw it in video form as a kid. But it wasn't normalized. It seems so now.

Does the friend have covid, a sexual disease, why "this friend", how you going to go to dinner and hang out with friends with this knowledge in your mind, going to hold your head up in public, going to confess in front of family and friends? What if you get pregnant... where's the support and $ if that happens or you get a disease... he going to stick with you?

this is total selfish BS based upon "make me happy, serve my needs" thinking. I'd throw that one back in the pond.

broken_heart_at_48 · Accepted Answer

If it's something you want to do then do it. There's nothing wrong with having fantasies and if you have fantasized about this and you say no you might never get another chance to try it. You shouldn't feel ashamed as long as everyone involved is of legal age and all consent then there's nothing to be ashamed about.

yolo18 · Accepted Answer

That's weird. From what I read, it seems like he has had sexual fantasies about getting it with his "buddy"... Everyone has their own say about cheating, but for me, that's being unfaithful. 2nd, I don't think you should do something in the bedroom you're not comfortable with, otherwise you're not going to enjoy sex and things are gonna get awkward with your, your man and his buddy, trust me. I've got a question for you: what would your man say if you asked him to have a 3sum with ya bestie? If his down for it, he simply like to do sex with other people a part from you. That's something I find unusual simply because I love my boyfriend, he got my soul, and I don't want to do sex with anybody else but him because he's the only person I find attractive and love. And he would never let me have sexual encounter with someone else for the same exact reason. I'm just doubting about your man. Please, don't do stuff in bed you don't wanna do🤍🤍 Ask yourself these questions: do I feel comfortable seeing my man naked with another guy; am I okay with the idea of getting physical with this guy?

EyeAmNiceGirl · Accepted Answer

If this isn't something that you are curious about doing, then you shouldn't do it. It's OK to ask i guess, but If the boyfriend is pressing the issue, you should be very concerned. He could be pimping you out without your knowledge, for example. Moreover, it's not normal for a guy to want to share his girlfriend with another guy. Some couples are in to such things, but usually they want to do things that involve bringing both men and women into the bed (like partner swapping). Which leads to the possibility that he will want to fuck one of your friends (or sime other woman of his choosing) after you have had your pleasures with his friend.
That said, if the friend is someone you would love to fuck if you weren't in a relationship, I guess this is your chance.

Daniela1982 · Answer

For crying out loud, what is it with all the " my boyfriend wants me to sleep with his friend", "my girlfriend wants me to have a threesome with her gay guy friend", "My mom wants me to let my boyfriend sleep with my little sister to break her in for sex" and other like questions lately? Are the people who ask these questions totally whacked or are they just trolling? Who would even consider such a question unless they secretly wanted it to happen them self? I guess it takes all kinds."

Sr1212 · Answer

First of all he will judge you. Because when it’s all said and done, his friend fucked his girlfriend. Second of all, I would be offended if I was u because more than likely he already planned this with his friend. So he doesn’t have very much respect for u anyway.

tyme4mee2shiine · Answer

Go for it! You will like it more than you think. It's really hot to have two guys at once. It put me into a trancelike state and I was doing things I never thought I would have. Never been so turned on

weysally · Answer

only do it if you want to do it, he may like other guys have a voyeur outlook but only thinks he does because there is a big difference between fantasy and actually doing it, if he is for real and you also have this obsession the benefit can be fantastic, I know I have been there, but I have also seen the other side where couples have broken up because of it

Red_Arrow · Answer

Good chance he will consider it a negative later. If you realize you may have other boyfriends before settling permanently, and it is something you would enjoy, then go for it.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

What can go wrong?  1. ? 2. ? 3. ?  etc... What will you do about them? Should you? Can't tell you what to do. I wouldn't.

summiter · Answer

Only do it if you really want to. Do you like his friend? Make sure to have him get tested for STDs first.

proNutro · Answer

I’d end the relationship then and there.

sheikalana · Answer

I don't think he will judge you afterwards. You should only do it if that's something you're into. I wouldn't do it just to please my man.

AmeerX · Answer

You can do it if you are comfortable with it. It is possible your boyfriend is polyamourous

Abtraction · Answer

don't do it. You are a sex exploit, not a partner

Wise4myage · Answer

If your gut reaction said no, then don't ever agree to this. And if he won't stop bugging you about it, then he needs to know how much it bothers you.

Wiredone · Answer

Only do it if you want to. Don't let him pressure you into anything you don't feel comfortable with. If he can't live with your answer then he's the wrong guy for you.

Stevefiveo · Answer

Sounds like you are at a crossroads. He told you his fantasy and you don't want to do it. If you don't find a compromise, it sounds like this is going to lead to a break-up. Good luck.

Ilickvulvas · Answer

Why would he judge? He said it was a fantasy.

Wewladdy · Answer

So you have sex within months of knowing a guy and you think he respects you? Hilarious!

Twalli · Answer

You can't be sure he won't

Surely · Answer

Only do it if YOU want to and that you are sure he won’t hold it against you in some way. Are you sure he doesn’t want or have a girlfriend on the side now?