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My boyfriend is addicted to porn, what should I do?
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My boyfriend and I are about to move in together, we got in a discussion last night because every time we try to have sex he can't get off to me because he already masturbated to porn of course. I confronted him and he admitted it was a problem and he would do anything to stop and make things better with me. What do you guys think? Is it easy just to stop watching porn and masturbating so you can enjoy havin sex with your girl?
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23 59I think you're talking about porn induced erectile dysfunction, where a guy watches porn to the extent that he can't get hard to a real woman. Am I right?
Try to get him to see a therapist. This is a real issue.
Well, yeah, the brain chemicals associated with porn are basically your very happiest chemicals, and the doses can be unprecedented because of the "novelty" factor of a different looking girl every time, so it is both addictive, and addicting.
So my advice is to treat it like a really serious fucking horrible addiction, like heroin or alcohol or cigarettes, and understand that you really have to help him and be proactive and communicate constantly and you should fully expect him to fall off the wagon perhaps dozens of times, just like almost every junkie relapses for years and years before they can stay clean, because it takes years for your brain to change it's chemistry sometimes.
Maybe get him on some serious mineral supplements and healthy diet/exercise kick.
The key to beating this demon is being your boyfriend's BEST friend through it all. That means tough love AND soft love. If you ever lose that feeling of being his best friend, just break up with him, for both of your sake's.
When I was younger before a date I used to watch porn and masterbate it would help me calm my nerves kinda like a shot of whiskey but better.
But were you able to perform still well when you had sex? Like could you still come and all?
I was actually much better more calm and less nervous about my date thinking back I believe I also lasted a bit longer because I already cum also erection was much harder. I never understood why... I just went with it.
If he has been single for a long time, he is probably used to getting himself off the moment he gets horny.
It takes getting used to getting horny, and having to wait hours for your partner to be around... when his right hand is right there and porn is EASILY accessible.
Stop paying your internet bill
What should you do?
Keep his balls so well drained by using your vagina, mouth and hands that he will not have the urge to use pornography.
A man who has empty balls does not feel the need to drain them, which you found when he was unable to perform in bed because he had shot is load already.
Plan B: fit him with a steel chastity cage, so that the only time he can have an erection and ejaculate is when you unlock him to make use of his penis.
See:
https://www.steelwerksextreme.com
so your saying a man need's his own Plan B ( known as a Chastity belt) to keep from strangling his duck meat... what a laugh. By the way that website freaked me out...
Urethra tube...
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I cannot unsee that.
@Nyx_85 Yes. . . but you looked. :-)
That I did... That I did.
DON'T MOVE IN.
There. That was easy. No, if you choose this you'll be stuck with it. It's a real mental sickness. For a lot of reasons.
Pray for him. Ask God to deliver him from this sickness. Be sure you are acting like a lady. Get him involved in other activities.
There are two issues here. The porn and the masturbation. I'm not saying that either or both should be banned in a relationship, but carefully managed. Take the porn, if he's getting so much pleasure from this wouldn't it be great of he could save up that sexual energy and use it in his real sex life?
Th masturbation can get in the way if he only has so much to give and he's given it up to a tissue. Most guys have a slower response or a non response in bed if they've already had an orgasm that day.
If he's willing to give up the wanking that maybe give immediate relief to the problem but he may still need counselling if it's an excessive addiction, which you say it is.
If you ask me to have sex tonight, I'd be sure to refrain from masturbating to porn for that moment.
Stopping watching porn is easy in my opinion.
It's his issue and you can't do anything about it other than threaten him to break up. You have needs just as we all.
pray. also, when u marry him, gives him a superb sex as a reward
I did it. The trick is to masturbate to the woman that's going to be sexing with
Have sex more often then, don't give him a chance!
THAT SPERM IS YOURS. ACT LIKE IT!
I dunno because it's his problem. I want to say "boost up your sexlife with him" but if this helps? I don't know.
It's an idea because it can be lack of sex in a relationship and be honest... Men have more sexappeal or sexboost... To make a long story short; they want more sex in their 20's to 30's.
If this does not help? He should fix this by himself.
Man thats just sad. I think for most people, potn is just option b when ur single, or going trough a dry spell in the relationship. In a healthy relationship there is no need for it.
I wouldn't even be with someone like that
Watch with him.
porn is a very serious addiction that a lot of people
So what? I've never understood the obsession with this topic. That's like dating I'm hooked on watching cable news or beer lol