women love to talk. men won't talk unless they trust you. unfortunately he's been with you for 8 years and he knows you well enough to know that whatever is on his mind- if you knew what it was- you'd be angry. it's his attempt to shield either you or himself- or both- of the pain of you knowing what's on his heart. it could lead to cheating, but the most likely scenario is that you really get under his skin and it's normal to not want to have sex with someone you have a beef with. it may lead to cheating because he may have sex with someone else to take care of his blue balls. he doesn't want to tell you because you're probably very good at taking his complaints and turning it to make it seem like it's his fault. so he can't win. his feelings aren't validated. so rather than get into a nuclear war that he can't win- he just sits in a cold war with a cold shoulder.
0 1 0 0You started dating as kids (15yo?) and now maybe the stresses of adulthood are taking over. Does he eat well, excersise regularly and get a good nights rest each day? All those things can either help or hinder a good sex life.
0 0 0 0That happened to me too, and he was cheating on me. I really hope that's not the case for you. It's worth just asking him about it. Get down to why he's not interested... good luck!
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"We need to talk about this, this is important to me, and up until recently you were fine with how things were and now you're not. I am not happy with "that's how it is now, I'm not explaining", couples talk and compromise but I can't if every time I bring it up you shut me down"
0 0 0 0You will have to make him talk about it more with you. He has to be able to talk to you about anything and be open or it will only get worse. You can tuck it away or blame it on something, it can be fixed but he has to be willing to try.
1 0 0 0Finally a decent answer. Thank you.
Relationships are based on communication so he is going to have to work on that if he wants to keep you around. He also has to make sure he is meeting all of your needs.
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2 27Biologically speaking, he's been having sex with you for years, and it hasn't produced any offspring.
So, biologically, his body is telling him to move on.0 0 0 1If he doesn't fight you back, lay him down and ride him like you mean it.
0 0 0 0You have to sit down with him like the previous person said and discuss it with him. Only he can tell you what he is truly feeling. If he truly loves you he will be open and honest with you.
1 1 0 0It won't change so you have a decision
0 0 0 0gonna be devils advocate here... have you gained any substantial weight or changed in a way he maybe didn't like it but doesn't say so as not to hurt your feelings
0 0 0 0that's what I was thinking too
him getting angry is a natural defense technique to keep your mind away from the main fact which is that he's cheating on you, look from my experience (and by that I don't mean only me) sometimes a man fall in love with a woman as a person not a female, which means he thinks she will be the best life partner for him, so if he lost interest in her sexually especially after a long time relationship and taking her as granted, he won't bother discussing it or even think to leave you rather than searching for sex partners, so he would be enjoying being with the perfect partner on one side and enjoy the passion life on the other side no strings attached !
breaking up is not the best direct solution for you, you have to focus on your self more, get into sport or other activities and keep your self busy and your mind away from your man, start loving your self more and get far from him and you'll see everything more clearly...0 0 0 1He probably got bored or maybe there is really stuff going on. He could be insecure I don't know
he might be cheating on you too.
there just are many reasons to why he is acting like that.0 0 0 0Things are bound to slow down a bit after 8 years. And you're both pretty young.
However, asking him to look into it with a doctor when you still get him hard could be insulting to his masculinity.
But that's just my perspective as a guy.1 0 0 0try to get him to sleep earlier to get his testosterone up
0 0 0 0i understand your point, my girlfriend is also like that. we have been dating for almost 2 years but we had sex for 4 time in this period
0 0 0 0he sounds lazy. give him wake up dome then bang his brains out. if he pushes you off him he may be gay.
0 0 0 0If the gender roles were reversed it would seem normal. Chillax and leave him alone. Jeez.
1 0 0 0try some roleplay or wear sexy Lingerie
tease him with objects
if he is tired then let him sleep
it's not compulsory that you should have sex only at night
try in the morning
and if nothing works visit a sexpert0 0 0 0It's supposed to fade out after 8 years. What did you expect? Jumping in the bed every two minutes?
1 0 1 0Do you ever just go down on him?
0 0 0 0maybe he's gay now
0 0 0 0You now know how most guys feel
0 0 0 0y all have been together 8 years. he might be bored
0 1 0 1Maybe he is bored?
0 0 0 0Have him see a doctor sounds like a testosterone problem
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