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Sexual Health My boyfriend slapped me in the face then made me give him oral sex?
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I'm 16 and he's 19, he told me before that his fantasies mainly revolve around the girl being submissive. Whilst we were about to have sex, he slapped me, then pushed my head down and made me give him a blowjob. I do this to him anyway, so why did he have to make me do it when I'd of done it anyway? He didn't really hurt me, but I think he got carried away with his fantasy and thought it would be okay to do it without telling me first. I'm kind of annoyed that he just did that because I wouldn't of minded too much if he'd discussed behaving like that before he did it. But he didn't. Thoughts?
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18 24That's not dom/sub... that's outright abusive and not mentally healthy.
You should be careful and probably eject out of this asap.
If he hits you because you've done something to deserve it, then maybe that can be considered dom/sub... but just hitting you for no reason, for something you were about to do anyway? that's sadism.
He is not a true boyfriend if he did that to you, if he really cared he would not have don that
Make your boundaries known
If he won't respect them, the next time he tries forced oral, bite his dick
Really though, you could get the cops involved if you wanted to. I suggest breaking up if he tries shit like that again
You're boyfriend has psychopathic tendencies
Yeah, he should have definitely discussed it with you first... you don't just slap people expecting that they might like it.
Things like that have to be discussed before hand.
Gotta have those safe words and all.
Well, usually I say "Don't ask, just do it!" but in the case of physically hurting someone or bothering someone, it's something to say "Ask, then maybe do it!". Just tell him that he could had asked. Hope that helped.
You're walking on thin ice! That's borderline rape sweetheart!
Well that's not good
Depending on where you live he is considered a rapist. So there's that. He sounds like trouble. Is he going to rape you cause it's his fantasy without asking first? Run away.
tell him you don't like being treated that way and if he does it again then maybe he isn't the guy for you
Yea he likes you to be a sub and be rough but he should have said you want to try it. You need to tell him about how you feel cause him liking you to be sub he's going be rougher.
tell him, hs got a dom fetish
He's your ex now, I hope. It's oral rape.
What will he do next? Offer you to friends?
This sounds like rape
I agree with others. Without your consent it's actually rape. He should have talked to you first. I suggest that you speak to him and let him know that it's not ok to do unless you agree to it. If he does it again, call the police. Because I promise it will get worse. Be safe.
You have to be extremely clear that you can only do things that you have discussed first plus you should have a safe word tgat stops everything