My boyfriend thinks I'm wrong to have a problem with him not wearing boxers under sweats since I sometimes go out without a bra?

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I have c cups so they're not that big and typically will wear bangs stuff so you can't tell that much. I don't think it's that big of a deal.
We had been hanging aliens the house and he went to pick up some stuff from the gas station and said he was too lazy to put on boxers and that since I don't respect his wishes about wearing a bra, he wasn't gonna put on boxers to be in the gas station for 5 minutes just cause I have a problem with it. Am I in the wrong?

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

You both may have different reasons, but I think you both probably have really CLOSE reasons, as to why you both want the other

*TO wear undergarments.*

If it’s similar- then you both have an understanding.

If you both have DIFFERENT reasons, it doesn’t matter 😂.

Regardless of any reason, ☝️ the fair thing is that the *rules should apply to BOTH members of the relationship.* Not just one.

Another thing to point out, is that both of you are independent individuals, who decided to commit to each other (supposedly), and that means your bodies belong to each other, partially. 👐

That being said, you both should consider the concerns of the other partner, regarding one’s own body, and vice versa, simultaneously.

Either:

you’re both going to choose what you both want to wear, or not.
You're both going to be considerate of the other, in regards to ‘cover’ and ‘provocative’ or poorly dressed outfits/ wardrobes.

Either:

• Be free to do what ‘one’ wants

OR

• Be considerate and understanding/ equal of/ as your partner.

Talk this out.

EmmaMary · Accepted Answer

As it's purely your choice not to wear a bra at times, then it's only logical and acceptable that he should be able to choose not to wear any underwear.

SteveSmith1985 · Accepted Answer

Yep. You're wrong. But also this is a super-duper dumb fight. If you want him to wear proper underwear, you should be willing to do the same. This is really not complicated, and a silly silly reason for anyone to be having a fight in their relationship. Now put on a freaking bra, or let you man choose to go without underwear. This is not the hill either of you should be looking to die-on.

Dargil · Accepted Answer

Sounds like needless control. I wear skivvies rarely, such as when I go to the doctor or if I am concerned about leakage in some way. Under sweats, no need. Same with you with a bra and moderate sized boobs unless you want to conceal prominent nipples. Underwear is useful when you need it.

Guy13 · Answer

He’s right. Chill out.

RobT312 · Answer

His choice and it shouldn’t be a big deal

rachel776 · Answer

i didn't know guys wore underwear under sweats

SnowedIn · Answer

Yes you are in the wrong. There are so many things I could say but fundamentally this is it: why do you want to control what he wears? It's not like he's trying to wear a mesh bathing suit to your aunt's funeral or show up to your job shirtless. So, why do you care so much? It sounds controlling.

boggboss · Answer

Its a fair point if u won't wear a bra when he wants he dont have to wear boxers lol

Miristheiss · Answer

Yes.  You show your nipples to the men of the world in public... then he can show his bulge in public.  Does he dislike you going out braless?

AviatorTom · Answer

Is it really that important? It's not like he's dangling his manhood for others to see.

exitseven · Answer

Are you concerned that other girls were checking out his junk or is it the sanitary issue,

humanearth · Answer

You two need to grow up. Its your own bodies Wear or not wear what the hell you want. Why not wearing a bra or boxers such a big thing with you two?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Ew. You should always, always, always wear underwear under sweat pants! He's wrong (and gross.)

convo_king89 · Answer

Boxers protect clothes from bodily fluids like jizz, piss, and shit. A bra only gives support.. different functions, but u don’t have to worry about discharge.. so yea.. but technically both are underwear

CreatingWonders · Answer

Good lord the stupid things people fight over. If the world was ending I’m pretty sure it wouldn’t matter. As long as he’s got trousers on does it matter if he’s not wearing pants? If he’s only going out for like 5 minutes it’s not even worth it.

noohair · Answer

I believe that if he not appear obscene, this is a non issue.

ThomasDavid1989 · Answer

I will never understand girls going without a bra. Doesn't mean I have to like it, it just means I accept they will, I just don't understand it Can you do the same, REPUBLICUCKS?