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Sexual Health My boyfriend wants a threesome and said he wants to have sex with other women and if I won't have a threesome with him he will cheat on me?
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I have loved him for 9 years. He told me after church one day after moving to California together that he wants to have sex with other women and if I won't have a threesome with him, he will cheat on me. Of course this broke my heart. About a year later I found his secret email address in which he had sent hundreds of emails on Craigslist looking for sex/threesomes with naked pictures of him/ and of me in some of them with his phone number. He promised he wouldn't do it again, but he has done other things that I just can't trust him. He swears he loves me but I dont know...
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34 51Why are you still with the douchebag
LEAVE HIM!
you are dumb for even staying with him after he said some shit like that
If your boyfriend actually has the gall to threaten you with infidelity if you don't do what he wants, then you need to drop him NOW. This will NOT end well for you. Do not be weak.
"I love you, I mean it, but I swear I'll cheat on you and break your hurt if you don't do what I want" - Says no man who actually loves his woman, EVER.
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Wow, he should have told you that he wanted to have threesomes about nine years ago. It's really shitty that he repressed this evidently very important desire for so long, and now he is blackmailing you into doing something you don't want to do. I don't see much love for you. Let him have his threesome with two other women while you go find someone who really loves you.
I feel sorry for you dear. That kind of man doesn't deserve your love. He doesn't love you cuz if he does then he would not ask you to do something like that and he would never ever cheat. He is obviosly not being faithful to you with that secret account of him. You don't deserve him. I know it hurts but you should do what is best for you, break up with him. He doesn't love you. He is an a-hole.
Just curious, is it the Asker yourself reporting me reply, or is it White Knights? Was it a moderator?
I feel like this site engages in WAY too much censorship. But I suppose rules are rules. Lemme revise my comments.:
Everybody should accept and live with the consequences of their choices.
I'm not that bitter. I just don't feel like I should treat women (and men to a certain extent) with victim complexes with kid gloves. I'm not a victim. So I'm not bitter. Get it? Of course not...
there is something seriously wrong with you to be so rude to me, when you dont know me. i am going to die alone? really you think that is a comment you should make? im 29. my life isn't over and i did leave him!
Read what you just wrote, does that sound like he loves you? DUMP HIM!
If you are not interested in it and he is going behind your back, that is not a relationship, it is almost as if he is using you to satisfy one part of himself and using other people to get his sexual desires met... and then throwing you in the middle. And it sounds like you do not want the threesome or anything more than the two of you. Meaning its time to leave
He's already cheated on you. He's a jerk and an asshole. Dump him
Just dump him.
Break up with him because if he loved you he would not threaten to cheat on you.
Your poll makes NO sense. You can't poll questions and thoughts. You poll answers.
At any rate, dump him and never look back. If he loved you, he'd never make a threesome an ultimatum let alone threaten you with cheating.
True love is gentle, kind, and GIVING. Love doesn't threaten you or anyone other than evil.
He is an idiot! Why are you wasting your time being with him! You should break up with him!
leave him..
If he wants a threesome, he doesn't love you.
he said every man wants a threesome and good luck finding a guy that won't want one.
He's an idiot. I personally would never do a threesome, even if a girl insisted on doing it with me.
at ne point in a man's life, most fantasized of a threesome... till we mature.
one, sorry.
I'd say you should leave him. He's being selfish and I don't think he really loves you. I'm sorry to say it but that's what I really think. He might enjoy threesomes, but you're not obligated to have them with him. And cheating is never a good thing. Just dump him already.
He souds like a keeper...
What a fucking piece of shit.
He sees you as an object to be shared for his desires. He is bad news. You should move on as he will always pressure or cheat.