Serious question for mostly guys?

[Anonymous]

How would you feel if your wife, girlfriend or girl you really love told you later on that she sold her virginity? Even if this girl is educated, has dreams and aspirations etc would you still be love with her or would that change?

would you break up with her?
let’s say she did it because maybe she felt low about herself or whatever reason.
what would you do or say after finding out?

[markscott]

I wouldn't like it, but I also understand that people sometimes do things that seem inexplicable, but made sense to them at the time. If I were in a relationship with a girl, I would want her to tell me this before we married. It's not that I couldn't marry her anyway, but that I would feel she was dishonest with me about something important.

[Asker]

Yeah I would tell the guy before definitely. I wouldn’t want to hide that from him. It was just a time I was feeling low and unwanted so... yeah Would you understand that if she told you that was the reason?

[markscott]

Asker: It would depend on what you are like now, and what you had told me about your past, and how difficult it was for you. If I understood you to be honest, loving, caring, and a moral person, that goes a very long way toward making something you did in your past OK. I really think I could understand this happening.

[Asker]

Yeah I definitely describe myself to be all those things honestly but I would still Understand and respect a guys decision.

[markscott]

Asker: You sound like the kind of girl, that it would be easy to look past this mistake, and stay in the relationship with you.

[Browneye57]

You mean she got paid for having virgin sex?
You need to understand there's way more at play here than her simply virginity, do you get that?
Or are you just making this shit up?

[Asker]

i dont understand your statement

[Browneye57]

Are you making it up? Fabrication of facts? Talking smack? Spewing random bullshit?

[Asker]

Nooo this is a genuine question. It’s actually about me if you haven’t noticed

[Asker]

Yes I got paid for virgin sex What’s more at play? I don’t understand

[Browneye57]

Never tell anyone. EVER. Just keep it to yourself. Especially for any romantic interest. You've exercised beyond poor judgement - just take it to the grave.

[Asker]

It would kill me if I didn’t I feel like if I really loved him I need him to know

[Browneye57]

Please reword this - it makes no sense. Do you have a guy you've been dating? Getting serious about? If so, DO NOT TELL him or ANYONE you 'sold your virginity'. It's not something people need or want to know. It was a poor judgement call made for whatever reason, and does not reflect well on you as a person. Just keep it to yourself. There is no reason anyone needs to make any kind of judgement on it now, it's history. Leave it there.

[Asker]

Yeah you’re absolutely right sir. It’s just a guy I’ve been thinking about and felt that he could be the one.

[Browneye57]

He could well be. But you won't know unless or until you DATE, and GET TO KNOW him. This is the entire purpose of dating. Virginity isn't a sickness or malady that needs to be fixed or cured. How you became 'not a virgin' isn't relevant to the relationship, so just skip that. "I've had sex before" will suffice if he asks, which he many never. After you've spent some time developing a meaningful relationship the sex will come naturally. It just should never be an issue.

[Anonymous]

Most guys would be hurt by that and break up , I think.

[JimRSmith]

That would indicate a mindset which I would not be OK with. It screams of low self esteem, and I'd wonder what else is wrong.

Something like that is not a commodity.

[Asker]

It does scream low self worth that’s why she did but she hopes the guy would understand that

[livingthelife19]

Wpuosnt bother me

[slatyb]

No women I date is likely to be a virgin. Her sexual initiation is not important.

[Asker]

Even if she sold it

[slatyb]

Even if. Even if she sold sexual services for some time.

[ImagineSketchy]

I would ask her why and how much she sold it for. I don't know what I would do beyond it. I don't care to date virgins because I feel like that's just baggage that I don't want. Sure they haven't been with anyone, but I prefer experience. I am not a teacher nor do I wish to be.

[Asker]

She got 2000 for it but she mostly did it because she felt like no one really wanted her or low self esteem

[ImagineSketchy]

So... It was to validate herself and not anything else? That's rather sad...

[Asker]

Yeah basically... But people deal with different things differently. At least she got money out of it but She didn’t save her virginity because she didn’t feel like she would ever get anyone so she just did that

[ImagineSketchy]

I get that a virginity isn't worth much... But to basically sell yourself out like that just feels low.

[Asker]

Yeah that’s why she did it

[Dargil]

While I was dating or how long back?

[Asker]

before dating

[Dargil]

Not an immediate deal breaker.

[Divize]

🥴 why she need to sale her virginity? It's mean like that who care she is just escort.

[Asker]

She was never an escort it was a one time thing

[Divize]

I don't know. If was me , I won't break her if I love or I will.

[humanearth]

I would be like so. I done shit a lot worse sexually then that.

That all in the past. I wouldn't care.

[brigfrey25]

It takes a lot of courage to speak out like this. Might take some time to come to term for some guys. But I don't think they should be judged based on their past.

[FakeName123]

Definitely a red flag and a dealbreaker. Is no different than average prostitution, except it is a one time thing.

[codycccccccccc]

I would laugh and ask how much

[TBoneTrimm]

Can't hate her hustle. I'm not looking Miss Perfect and a woman's past is her past. Her selling her virginity had nothing to do with me.

I'd also be curious on how much and what she did with the money. But it wouldn't change a thing if I loved her.

Now if she sold it while she was with me it would be totally different.

[loveslongnails]

I'd want to know "for how much", and "why aren't we living in luxury? :)

[Asker]

Ha! Right! Guys are so ughhh Like they can do fucked up shit but let us do something and it’s unforgivable! I actually liked a guy who I knew used to like men when he was younger but changed. I looked past it because I felt he was a really good guy

[loveslongnails]

If a girl is going to sell her virginity, she better make a ton of money off of it because it's one time only deal !!

[jayv100]

I wouldn't mind it's in the past I would appreciate her honesty more than anything else

[Asker]

Yeah, I don’t understand why a guy would dump me because of that especially since it was once

[jayv100]

A lot of people have a very closed mind in regards to people's past experiences you just gotta find someone who accepts you for you

[Asker]

Yeah I guess so 😔

[bangyourhead]

I’d dump her immediately.

[Asker]

Why? Especially since she’s not a bad woman and has things going for herself

[bangyourhead]

Because she’s a prostitute.

[Asker]

She only had sex once

[bangyourhead]

For money. That makes her a prostitute.

[Trooper205]

If She still desires me, I would be with Her. Virginity is a preference, but even if She sold it to someone else, I would still love Her, if She still loved me.

[ask4any]

A persons past is just that. Their past. The only person that this action could possibly do any damage to would be herself anyway in which case she would need your understanding and support now more than ever.

[alltafgradur]

The past is past and I would love her just as much

[Cannuck22]

That would change my opinion of her for sure. Bye bye

[Asker]

That’s so stupid honestly

[Ben228]

I'd like to think I'd be forgiving enough to understand & still love her.

[Asker]

Right!

[harshu1410]

If she tell mee that truthfully then I'll forgive her and love her as i loved her before thet