Seriously... STOP playing the victim?

Everyday I get on this site, it's the same shit from women:

-"Why do all these guys keep sending me private messages? I'm not here for that"

-"My avatar draws too much attention and all these creepy guys keep contacting me via private message."

As a nearly 25 year old virgin male, I am living proof that if a good looking guy doesn't talk to a girl... he will never meet women or get laid.

Men talk to you, because you are good looking, and it is within our nature to make the first move... because we know you will never make the first move to talk to us guys.

Women are more driven by emotion. To get a woman interested, you have to be good looking, but also get them interested in you emotionally. For men, we are very visual creatures, if you either look nice, are very curvy, dress nice, have big boobs, are half naked... you have our attention.

It's just like in real life, I always see women complaining men are staring at them and keep trying to talk to them:

They go to the gym dressed like this:

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"Oh my god... why are all these guys talking to me and staring at me?"

You go to the clubs/bars like this:

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"Oh my god, why won't these men go away?"

You wear yoga pants out in public:

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"Oh my god... all these creepy guys keep staring at me"

And some of y'alls avatars be like this:

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WHAT THE HELL DO YOU EXPECT!

Also, ladies... an FYI... if you take your avatar image URL and paste into Google images, people can find your social media sites quite easily (sometimes). Sorry the men think you're beautiful and want to chat with you! It happens.
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If you don't want attention, change your avatar. Guys talk to women depending on how visually attractive she is.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Okay, I get what your saying and I don't really care too much when people want to talk to me provided they want to talk to me about things other than my appearance. I had this as my avatar...
    https://i.imgur.com/oPnqiaF.png?1

    And I had to change it after about a week because that one inch of cleavage that I didn't even notice earned me several messages a day asking about my bra size, my sexual preferences, if I wanted dick pictures, and if I want to send naked pics over Skype and what not. THAT is disrespectful and annoying. I wasn't "asking" for it. I like it when people put a face to their name, but I think it's silly that I had to change my picture to something without my boobs in it at all so I wouldn't get constantly messaged for NOTHING.

    • That's more than an inch of cleavage, cupcake.

    • @JoinThepatriarchy I'm starting to think you're obsessed.

    • No, just thought I'd correct your bad measurements. :)

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  • You don't understand. I'm not saying I disagree with some of what you've said like about how girls complain about guys staring but then go out in yoga pants and all that stuff yeah I agree with that but on this website it's really creepy the way some guys talk to us and not to be racist but the creepiest ones are Indians and even if you don't reply they keep sending you messages consistently this one guy has sent me "hi sexy" everyday for the past month and I havnt replied once yet he keeps doing it it's weird and makes me uncomfortable they have no clue how to talk to a woman I was forced to change my avi to the set one gag gives you because I'm sick of it don't talk about something you don't understand

  • We know what we are doing when we post the pics and dress a certain way. We play dumb and you guys buy it. Just sometimes it gets annoying when guys are rude, pervy, unattractive, or weird. And then it gets super annoying when you have 10 guys who all say the same thing. It's like how can all these people act the same way? You keep hearing the same thing it stops being a compliment, becomes the standard, then we just get annoyed.
    Smart dudes, the ones that get us "emotionally attached" say and act different than the pack.

  • 100% agree with you. I posted a profile pic and accidentally forgot I had boobs and they were in the photo... I did not make that mistake again. I sound sarcastic, and I sort of am, but I also completely agree... but to be honest, creeps are gonna creep if every girl on here had a butt for a face.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Are you only talking about the women and what they complain about on this site specifically? Because from what I've heard from their perspective, a lot of females on dating sites, facebook, etc... complain about complete strangers sending messages that specifically refer to sex right off the bat. I. e what they would like to do to them sexually. A lot of women would be happy to talk to men, but many of them say the creepiest most inappropriate things to them. I can see where it would be offputting. I see girls dressed in revealing clothes and think about all the things I'd love to do to them. That doesn't mean I have to say that to them when they don't even know me.

    • Yeeessss, this is exactly it, thank you

  • you're a virgin? with your high opinion of women I would never have guessed...

    • Agreed lol!

    • my high opinion of women is better than my low opinion of you :).

    • oh no! the wound!

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  • As a woman I agree. If I don't want to get hit up I don't post pics. I recently got flooded with IG requests... We all had the same page in common so clearly they saw what they liked and wanted to hit me up. I get it dude!!

  • I just recently in the last few hours put up my avi. Before that I was getting messages from guys calling me beautiful. I hadn't had a avatar up and they were calling me beautiful lol and asking if I'd like to meet them, if I'd like to get 'something' started. I started laughing behind my phone.

  • My avatar isn't of me and I still sometimes get those strange messages, my anime girls neck is HAWT

  • That's fine.. I get you point.. But my tits & ass aren't hanging out in my avatar.. I get messages saying "hey baby you wanna see my huge cock?"...

    It gets old. Also, this isn't a dating site. It's for advice. Starting a convo is cool.. Asking if I wanna see a guy's dick is stupid! Lol

    • True and they call you beautiful even without an avatar. Such jokers.

  • The girls you're describing like the attention sadly and tend to repeat the behaviors. They lack the ability to have any true character and resort to sexual photos as such for attention. The ones who truly hate it, do something about it. But the rest just get off on their own whining. Many find subtle ways to get such attention and when they do, they go back into that childish whining mode and then repeat the process. It's really sad.

    The one big thing I notice with a lot of girls is when you tell them to take ownership of such an issue, they get pissed off and whiny. I got a girl on my Facebook friends list who posts these kinds of photos. But she never complains about the attention. She even gets criticized by others because of her style but she likes what she's doing. She posts provocative pictures all the time and enjoys the attention. Others will just whine.