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How do I get my husband to be more aggressive in bed. I have asked outright so that isn't working. he's all for me bring aggressive with him, I think he's to afraid to hurt me. Any ideas would help
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(21)Don't round him 24/7 , give him some time to enjoy himself his own way. Let him see p*rn /talk to hot girls on social sites. He will get aggressive and come to you to fuck you or sexual foreplay.
try making him mad before sex
That might work, got any fight ideas
I don't know maybe what ever you normally fight about, or maybe you could start a fight about him not being aggressive enough, and then he might show you how aggressive he can be
Have you tried seductive drugs like Viagra?
I haven't but I am thinking about it, he is more aggressive after a few drinks but I don't need a alcoholic on my hands because of what I want in the bedroom
So try using Viagra like pills
Hey whats his age.. and your also?
he's 31 im 36
Try doing things outside of the bed counter top floor shower he. Might be turned off by the same old routine buy edable oils that warm up and rub his down do more to spice things up abit google how to spice your love life up have fun hope this his helpful.
It takes time. Be patient!!!
Go to a pleasure shop and by a game where you have to roll dice or pick a card that will give a sexual act that needs to be preformed. Do EXACTLY what the card says.
He will eventually become comfortable with being a little aggressive with you
Bring aggressive with him? What?
I am aggressive with him but I can't get him to be aggressive back
How often do you have sex?
At least 5 times a week
Do you want a punch to your shoulders and a kissing when you take dick into you
More like hair pulling, and choking. I want to be pinned and his strong hands tightly wrapped around me. I'm not asking him yo hurt me just man handle me a little
I'm your male counterpart. Nothing has worked with her. She lies there like a friggin dead fish.
Won't talk about it either.
Sorry I can't help.
You just need to find her trigger, woman are complicated, get her 50 shades of grey
I tried. That is "gross". I go down on her and I love doing it. She will not go down on me at all
Get chocolate syrup and whip cream. That will make it more fun and hun she gets no more till she does for you thats not fair. Mb if you deny her she will put you first
We teach people how to treat us.. somewhere along the development of the relationship you insinuated that how she is in bed is "okay."
The easiest way to entice a woman to blow you, especially if it's your wife, is to develop so much more value than her that she's desperate for your approval and affection. Somewhere along the way she's lost either respect for you, or attraction for you.
This is a tough spot to be in, because I've been there, but it's possible to recover. It means you will have to actually change how you behave, how you think, and how you interact with her. You must become so hyper masculine and powerful that she's triggered to chase you again.
Start reading pickup material, it'll help you re-learn attraction methods. Here's some examples links:
www.ignoreandscore.com/attraction-resources/
Hope to helps!
Guys don't want to be accused of rape, that simple. Decent guys are more likely not to get aggressive in bed, because they don't want to get in trouble, and because they see it as a form of respect, since men have been told over and over how they need to not be aggressive or anything like that.
You need to be the more aggressive one, because he isn't going to be, and why should/would he? He only stands to lose. How much more pleasure would you have, versus how much more risk he's taking? The math doesn't add up.
We are married so it would never be rape
All 50 states prosecute marital rape. Being married doesn't eliminate the risk of being accused. Not saying you would do that, but why would a guy take that risk when there's no compelling reason to? You're still having sex with him and love him--why take on unnecessary risk when it really isn't going to improve the relationship?
I think there's a difference between aggressive, dominant, and dangerous. A healthy guy will know the difference. And your boundaries will help him learn them, if he's safe to play with. :D
Maybe you could do role play where he is taking advantage of you. Or try bondage so that he has to be the aggressive one since you wouldn't be able to move that well.