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Sexual Health Should I be concerned that my boyfriend is secretly watching homemade porn that is not of me?
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I recently found out my boyfriend has been secretly watching homemade porn (of him and women from his past) on his old laptop? I was cleaning and found a laptop that wasn’t familiar so I looked through it and found it. I asked him about it and he admitted it. Should I be concerned?
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So. Maybe I should clarify, that the pictures were with a fling he had in the past (she knew about it because we did a threesome together lol) and the videos were of me, and YES I did know I was being recorded. You all are nuts in the comments! Lol! Oh, and for everyone calling me a snoop because I found an unknown laptop in MY APARTMENT can fuck off 😚😚😚
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18 42should you be concerned? Nope. That’s totally normal of a sleeze. Nothing out of the ordinary. No worries. Maybe he’ll invite you next time!
Sorry but you should 100% be concerned. That is not okay and I may be being dramatic but I would consider that a form of cheating. Talk to him, tell him that isn't okay with you
no. men watching porn doesn't mean they're not loyal.
Depends. Did he delete it after he watched it?
You mean should you be going through his things without his permission and inserting yourself into everything he does? No, you probably should not be going through his things without his permission and inserting yourself into everything he does.
Wellll maybe there shouldn’t be an unfamiliar laptop in MY apartment?
Uh huh... and yet it's extremely reasonable to assume that it was his, right?
I really didn’t know because my sisters stay with me sometimes, so goodbye.
You leaving?
Not, you must respect him about it.
It would have been different if he had uploaded some of those videos or some of those videos would have been recently made, then you cn take the axe of justice... But by now, its you the one who didn't respect his space...
Non of your business.
If you were involved in it, I dont think there is a need for concern. He may want another threesome though
For how long have you been with him? And do you think you are satisfying him sexually? Watching homemade porn with his ex may have a close link with your openness and sexual performance. Having watched their porn, did you find any difference between yourself and his ex?
First of all, you dont know that laptop, so why you thought its a good idea to snoop around and watch whats in it? It could have confidentional information on it, and you might have him paying huge sums because of you, he could be in jail because of you, he could loose job because of you snooping around.
Goosh when you people will learn to not snoop around of whats not yours and to not give away passwords.
And hey, its porn why do you care about it?
"she knew about it because we did a threesome together lol"
so you already showed him that he can share with you what he likes. So why should you be concerned? I don't see a problem. Is it because he kept it a secret?
You are admitting that you are a snoop but that's okay because every woman is. However, if it concerns you that your boyfriend watches porn, you should dump him and avoid having a relationship with any man for the remainder of your life. because unless he is blind and deaf, every man you meet will look, watch, and/or listen to porn.
Yes nobody is mentioning how creepy and abusive it is for her to spy on his personal laptop!
@ActiveSh1tter That is true, but women and young children are not held to the same standards that men are.
Yep. Women are given the same accountability as infants, that's why Saudi Arabia gives them the same rights as infants too. "You don't want to be held responsible for your actions then you shouldn't have adult privileges either". Hopefully based Islam will soon take over the cucked West.
@ActiveSh1tter Laws similar to Islam may happen in the USA. The only rights and privileges women have are enforced by men. When the pendulum swings way too far in one direction, it can quickly reverse.
The only thing in our path is white knights. These sociopaths are gleeful whenever they see a man robbed, abused, mutilated, or killed by a woman because they see it as one less competitor for pussy, which they want only for themselves.
@ActiveSh1tter So that's what white knights are! I though it was men making pathetic attempts to curry favor with women so they are actually more dangerous than I thought.
They do want to curry favor with women, and the reason they want that is so they will hopefully get a crumb of pussy in the end. Like I said they're sociopaths, meaning they're incapable of feeling empathy towards other men as you and I would. These animals view other men as competition to be eliminated.
All these dudes answering are retarded. The fact that he even kept those videos is fucked up. He's definitely not only cheated once by the way. You're delusional if you believe in "he proved he's faithful"
Someone with sense!
No just means that's probably one of his fantasies!!!
Prolly since it’s girls from his past but only if they still talk. Maybe he working on a better game plan for you to improve. Maybe he wants to up his game regardless for himself. It’s a deeper discussion to be had. If you don’t feel right don’t give him your body until you have this talk. You shouldn’t feel gross being with your man or around him.
He finds his other "conquests" hot and unlike you he can't have sex with them anymore
probably
Ask him why he's watching fuck flicks of past partners. Guys like all kinds of porn. You never know what ideas or valuable information you can get from pornographic movies. Some people would argue because it's porn, it's useless. That is the biggest misconception ever!
Yes , id be if i had a girl who resorted to watching home vids instead of making 1 with me. after 6 years id start moven on . if vids are of his ex he still thinks bout her.
Women don't masturbate to porn
@ActiveSh1tter haha you think?
@BetteDavis yes. In fact women get "traumatized" is a stranger wips out his penis in front of them. A few women maybe watch porn, but only lesbian porn.
@ActiveSh1tter I have a strong feeling you don’t know many women.
Porn is not good for erectile function. Studies suggest women receive better orgasms if erectile function is better as opposed to worse.