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Should I give up on trying to keep myself tight for “the one” and just use a dildo already?

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  • So the stretching out thing is a myth. Vagina's don't get loose from being overused by penis-sized objects, even fairly large ones.

    Think about it; at one point, most women pass a whole ass CHILD through that thing, then a while later (sometimes just a few weeks) they have sex again. It's not like you suddenly turn into a shopping bag. The vagina is a muscle, and you can MAKE it contract or relax.

    Too tight (too tense, actually) is uncomfortable.

    Look, my girlfriend uses the Lelo Mona 2 (a sort of dildo / g-spot vibrator), and she's had it for 3 years. We've also been having sex for years like 6 years. She's not any less "tight" now than she was before. In fact, she's done pelvic floor exercises and now has much better control over those muscles so she can... do things, while we're having sex. Things that take me over to edge even if I'm trying to last a little longer (she likes to overwhelm me like that).

    Having babies can sort of fuck you up down there for a while, but again, it's a muscle and you can "tighten" it by exercising it (which is also a healthy thing to do to prepare you to have a better, less painful childbirth).

    Actually, you can engage those muscles while using your dildo for practice doing what my girlfriend does to me. I bet that skill would uh... impress your future lover.

    It certainly impresses me.

  • I think it's really important to understand that vaginas aren't like a round 'O' that gets stretched by a dildo. It's cross-section is more like a capital 'H' which is a really good design as it allows it to be completely closed and also to open up wide when it needs to for childbirth.

    Should I give up on trying to keep myself tight for “the one” and just use a dildo already?

    Source: http://www.glowm.com/resources/glowm/cd/pages/v1/v1c001.html

    So, when you start using a dildo, you're opening it up, but not really stretching the vaginal walls permanently, so I really don't think you have anything to worry about.

    P. S. The hymen is different and isn't flexible, but it's not important to preserve it for good sex.

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  • Yes use a dildo if thats what you want to do

    I think tightness is a bit of a myth. End of the day the vagina is a muscle and the more it is used a trained the stronger it will be and the tighter it can feel. therefore if you spent ages squeezing a dildo you could make you vagina tighter than it is now. There is a championship where women have trained the vagina to lift weights and have incredibly strong and tight vagina's. therefore it doesn't get loose from too much sex or dildo's. Can get over stretched in childbirth but the execises can still tighten it up again

    • I don’t plan on doing exercises with the dildo though. I’m not really into workouts of any kind.

    • Hi, not saying you have to do exercises, i don't really. just trying to make the point that you youn't instantly make yourself less tight just becasue you enjoy using a dildo

  • The vagina is a muscle that retracts. It doesn't stay loose forever. You don't get that loose just from sex or a dildo. Women who give birth don't stay dilated at 10cm forever.

    • I’m sure it gets more flexible tho.

    • I mean it does become easier and less painful after you've had sex a few times but it's not that significant. You can still be tight and have had sex a few times. Don't be afraid to explore, if you're worried start off with a smaller thinner dildo.

    • Yea. I mean, if I felt like I’d find that guy anytime soon or ever, I’d probably just wait it out, but it doesn’t seem like that’s gonna happen for me. Does a dildo feel good? What can I use in its place?

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  • The whole tight and loose thing is kind of a load of shit, it's not about how much has been up there or not it's just anatomy. Everyone is a little different. That being said fuck yeah go for it the vagina is incredibly resilient and you have nothing to worry about

  • A dildo is not going to make you as loose as a goose, unless it is a replica of a donkey dick. Remember, a baby comes out of your twat so a small dildo will do nothing to stretch it out.

  • Tight is such a relative term. I honestly prefer sex with a girl that's had the way opened up a time or two prior. The couple of girls I was with that were virgin were so small that I couldn't fit and even then, it was so tight that it was painful. Having sex with a 25 year old on the other hand who had a child was nothing short of amazing. Her gentle and wet grip of my penis was heaven. So do what you need that's best for you and the right guy won't just not mind, he will love it and be happy with what's in front of him.

    • I mean, I can fit a finger pretty well when lying on my back cuz I tore my hymen with a tampon, but I’ve noticed that putting in a finger while I stay in the doggy position is still really hard. So, maybe you’re right, it would be better for the guy. But, I dunno, I kind of like the idea of being broken in.. It turns me on.

    • There is nothing wrong with conditioning your body for the real thing. You will be much more happy and so will the guy. It won't be painful but rather pleasurable. There's something to be said for being able to just slide in and have it feel so good for both people vs, painfully trying to get inside and detracting from the moment of passion. It's also good because you can get to know yourself better and how your body functions. It can be very sexy to do enjoy yourself and be ready for when the right guy comes along.

  • its not worth getting a dildo just wait, dont feel pressure by friends or anyone else seeing how they could be trying to talk you into loosing it before the one you give it too gets it.

    • No one is pressuring me to have sex. They (namely my mother) are pressuring me to find somone.

    • oh well take your time yu got a full life ahead of, there is plenty of time t have hurt feelings and stuff, just enjoy what yu have and worry about adding someone too it when you have seen an done all you have wanted

  • The vagina does not stay stretched. It returns to normal size quickly. Also, you should probably start doing Kegel exercises. They strengthen the vagina muscles and even if the vagina has never been entered, the exercises helps the women tighten the vagina at will and grip the guy's penis.

  • Go for it!

  • I think you should do both. Using a dildo to break your own cherry in the privacy and cleanliness of your own home is much easier than having some guy who doesn't know what he's doing take it. You can use the pressure and tempo you want. Masturbation helps you figure out exactly how much sensation each part of your body enjoys and will benefit you when you do find the right one. Sometimes its better to find Mr. Right Now while you're waiting for Mr. Right

  • It’s not going to affect it lol you really didn’t know this?

    • It is, though.

    • No it won’t lol

  • Do it, pussy is pussy loose or tight so please satisfy yourself

  • Using a dildo will not change how good it feels for your first time.

  • Ordinary use of a sex toy does not loosen a vagina, but frequent use will "condition" a vagina to "expect" insertion and not snug up (most girls have a very small degree of "vaginismus" early on) when insertion occurs. But if a live penis simply takes the place of ongoing dildo play, it will not experience that initial snugging up. So if you want to be more like prom night and intercourse is coming down the road, stop using your toy for a while (months?) beforehand so your vagina "unlearns".

  • How many people can wait for the one? And what does the one mean? You'd have to grow your dreams, your money while waiting. You might as well learn to take care of you sexually too. Personally I believe the bible will side with me on this.

    • I do masturbate, I just rub my clit mostly.

    • That's perfectly okay. As long as your outdoor life is thriving. Only do what you are truly comfortable with. And be careful with what you introduce down there for health reasons. Read books. Stay woke. Stay productive.

  • That's not how vaginas work...

  • There's no such thing as "keeping yourself tight". However tight your vagina is won't be affected by using a dildo, or by masturbating, or even by having a baby.

  • I've heard that vaginas dont permanently stretch using dildos and stuff, that are a normal decent size of course.

  • Do whatever you want it really doesn't matter

  • Go for it, using a dildo won’t make you any less tight. If anything you’ll know what you like when the time comes. In the mean time have fun.

  • Using one won't change your "size".

  • This must be a guy..
    do what you please, why wait around when the first time most likely gonna suck anyway.

  • may as well

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