Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I've only ever had sex once and that was 3 years ago. It was a really bad experience and led to a lot of insecurities that I'm recently starting to get over.
I've tried to go on dates every once in awhile but things never make it past the first date because the topic of sex always comes up and I upset a lot of men when I say I don't feel comfortable having sex with someone I just met or when they ask how many guys I've slept with and I only say one. I try to avoid the conversation, but when they ask me, I want to be honest with them. And it just upsets a lot of men. I never judge a guy when he says he's slept with 40 women, but why do they judge me for only being with one man?
One guy even told me that I can't expect to find a real lasting relationship if I don't have much sexual experience. That's a huge part of a couple's compatibility and if I can't keep up to a guys needs, I should just stay single and stop wasting people's time.
I don't know what to do. I'm 25 and feel like I have basically screwed myself over for not being like other women.
Should I just not date because I'm not very sexually experienced?
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5 49It sounds like you are dating the wrong type of men. I don't believe in getting women in bed within the first couple dates. It takes time to get to know each other. You should not lock yourself up because you have only been with one guy. Keep dating. You'll find the right ( real guy) sooner or later. You're not going to get experience by being by yourself.
You gain experience through dating. It may be one person or it might be a series of dates. You learn with each one.
Going on dates and sexual experience have nothing to do with each other. These men were worthless. Just wait till you find a guy that is willing to wait.
Hell no
That's actually a good thing with you not being very sexually experienced I'm very surprised most women don't have that good quality if it makes you feel better I'm not that sexually experienced either in fact I've gone on dates but never got to the point to where doing the sexual act itself cuz the women I run into are usually whores or has had a lot of sex enough of it to make me look bad and feel bad
The only way to get more expierence is to do it more. I do agree wi th h you about waiting for sex though.
Yea because that's a reason to not date. Try being extremely ugly and male who has never been able to date.
Guys will date you despite you being inexperienced or having any sort of flaws, that's just one of the powers of being female.
OK where the F do you live? Where the F do you meet these "men"? You are "dating" not looking sex.. You are there to find a realationship. If a guy starts already asking about sex, ditch them. Mental connection first, then physical. These guys you keep meeting just want sex. I'm sorry you have to experience this.
I live in East Texas. It's a very rural area and most of the guys act the same. There's not much variety here tbh.
Sucks. But don't give up. Worry more about yourself for the time being.
That's like asking if you should never bother getting a job because you have no work experience. It's silly.
Get out there, have fun.
Dating ain’t about sex. It’s friendship for adults.
''One guy even told me that I can't expect to find a real lasting relationship''
You are either bull shitting, or he's trying to get on your pants under blackmail
People have to start somewhere, it is actually better that you have not screwed everyone that says "hi" to you. But dont be scared, find what you find as hot and embrace it, learn about yourself sexually and the more selective that you are the better.
There is only one way to get experience. Just go for it. Some experiences will be better then others but you will soon learn what you like and what you don't. From there you can choose what you want. Like everything in life, you learn from doing.
You should still date but be honest with potential partners. Talk about it maybe it’ll help with the insecurities and help you learn.
Date and get some experience.
Neah on contrary you should date... don't forbid yourself the experience of life because of sexuality in time you will be more experienced. The guy you mentioned in your post seem really stupid, never relate only to the ones that surround you and always try to know more people, world is really big and people have really different opinions. The guy that told you that you can't expect fo find a real lasting relationship seems really toxic and stupid.
Thats the only way you will learn..
Don't be ridiculous of course date, if she's got a problem with that then she's the wrong person for u
He not she's got a problem sorry typing mistake
id say you were inexperienced at your first try at sex... so is everyone else... dont let it keep you from growing
Don't give up yet, give it another go