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What do you think are the most common insecurities the opposite sex has concerning their first time or the first time with a new partner?

No need to think back, you don't answer for yourself here! Answer what you THINK the opposite sex faces the most.
Insecurities can be anything from questions you would rather have an answer to, to not sure how you look or perform. It can also mean a kind of fear. Obviously the gender specific things might be more interesting compared to the ones probably everyone has, but I keep that up to your answer.

Either for the first time ever or for the first time with a new partner. (First time having sex but that should be obvious I think)
Some things might change when you have the pressure of knowing how it works in general gone. So please specify what you answer or answer both🤗.

I think seeing the questions on this side might already give me a good idea but lets see what other think.

If you answer for your partner keep their privacy in mind.
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  • Most of what I've seen specifically with a new partner, a lot of men are insecure about the woman's past. Being compared to other lovers, penis size, stamina. From what I've seen.

    With women it's usually worrying about men thinking if they have sex with men too soon then men will think they're sluts (which is ridiculous) but we also worry about hoping guys find us sexy, we look good naked, we don't catch feelings too fast.

    • I agree

    • I don't even need to add my own opinion. This right here is 100%

    • @Sirenboobzilla lol

  • Penis size if often the issue I been asked. My boyfriend texted me right away when he went home, if it was a good size, did I like it, was he good, he said he was a virgin before me and I said it was all good but then he asked is his dick small and I answered yes to another question and we had a misunderstanding about that. Which I didn't get because he had to have been 7" I don't know how he could think he is small lol.

    • when it comes to us there is no middle ground, it iseither black or white so if he is not huge, he is small for ourselves anyway, no average or above average, it looks like a coping for most guys from outside. 7 is above average but not huge so he probably rolled it to small ground instead of huge cause he was a virgin and insecure about it.

    • @aceleon But most guys are 6" or under. Also no one needs to be taking an 8" dick, so like what is the big deal?

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  • In my experience, in the older days, women used to be the most insecure about their weight. Nowadays, even fat girls think they're beautiful, just because they have a vagina. And that's not simply the case. But that's false confidence right there. But, the second most insecurity that a woman used to have was the scent of her vagina. And usually unless she has pubic hair that could be a slippery slope there for the scent of her vagina. But that's usually just her mind, and usually when a woman thinks her vagina doesn't smell that great, usually it smells epic. And that's when I have to step in and constantly remind her all throughout oral, that she tastes great. Which, that wouldn't be lying. That would just be expressing the truth.

    So, in the good old days it used to be fat chicks used to be insecure about their weight. And, now that they make bikinis for fat chicks, and they're not smart enough to realize how disgusting they look, fat chicks don't have that insecurity anymore. So I guess then nowadays it would be the center of their vagina would be the number one female insecurity

  • I think the opposite sex is most concerned about the state of their vagina. Is it ugly or pretty? Does it smell fresh or infected? Is there hair where it shouldn't be? Does he like her parts or not? Are the labia weird? Does it look inflamed or healthy?

    It is the most hidden part until that moment usually whereas body fat is generally known and figured out well before that part.

  • The opposite sex's concern...

    What does he think of me now that I have committed to having sex with him? Was it too soon, how did I act leading up to it? Will he want me again?

  • Men: How long he'll last, if he can get it up (performance anxiety), if she'll be into it
    Women: If he'll find her attractive, worrying that he'll treat her as a one night stand after this, if he'll tell his friends about her

    • Nah this can apply to anyone regardless of gender. Countless women also have trouble lasting as well as countless men worrying about their attraction level.

    • he'll most likely treat her as a 1 night stand he will absolutly tell his friends about her if he sees her as a one night stand.

  • Probably about their boobs or ass. If both of those are objectively attractive then wither some other percieved physical flaw or they are focused on the risk of letting a guy who could dominate them get into a situation where it's likely he will try.

  • " will it be good enough "

    this has to be the most common... I think

    • Well yeah. Thats why I added the part of preferably gender specific ones. 😅

    • for what I've heard... it goes the same for both

    • and also... "how do I look" unfortunately... a lot of people with no experience assumes that looks are always an indication of "how good" someone is/or is not... when intimate

  • Well, mines were, would she like my body? Would I kiss well? Is my size OK ( yes again the size thing, people make fun with this question so often that when that moment arrived, I stayed nervous with that), what I need to do? .

    Those were my insecurities in that time. 😊

  • Body details insecurities. Boob size and shape, chubby/skinny issues and vulva aesthetics. Girls do not need to be Mata Hari for a man to enjoy intimacy with you, so don't worry about that.

    • Who is Mata Hari?

  • I dared somebody who was a few years older than me and was divorced. I was 22 and I had sex only once in my life. This girl was the one who initiated sex. I was totally baffled about what I was supposed to do. She was very patient about my awkwardness and did not make fun of me or think I was stupid. I really was insecure and I remember she told me I had nice equipment.

  • Guys: if our dicks are good enough (size)




    Girls: if we will like their tits and pussies

  • I see now why with a question like that perfectly raised, why now looking at it from their perspective, how everyone admires "a certain confidence" in another person. Nervousness just makes one feel, uncertain. In any capacity. I think I too would prefer a woman who's dreamy and cool rather than high-strung and critical. 😲🤭

  • Am I attractive? Am I doing well?

  • I would think they wonder if it is a one nighter or more and also insist that he wears a condom

  • Probably about how long they’ll last and overall performance, maybe about dick size too

    • put dick size before the overall performance.

  • The biggest one is probably "will they want to leave me after they've had sex with me."
    Which is completely 100% justified. Because it happens all the time.

    • for good reasons

    • @aceleon What is for good reasons?

    • why would he want to take her as serious when she is fine with spreading her legs without even a serious commitment? if she can do for you she can do for other guys too and also you can2t deny most guys wants sex first then a relationship if they will and after getting the sex aside from genuine feelings there is not much reason to stay.

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  • For guys: I’d say the two most common are size issues and duration they last.

    for girls: I’d say it is breast size and how things smell

    all in all, it’s about wanting to be desired by our partners. We want to be what they are looking for and what they desire. Insecurity is common, but realizing we all have them can be empowering. Enjoy what God gave you, do your best, and be confident.

    confidence is always the sexiest wardrobe worn.

  • Would she like him and does he have to be very loyal to her

  • He will not like my body, boobs, ass, excess fat.

    That seems to be the main concern women have.

  • penis size.

    did i made her/him satisfied.

    what will my friends say about her body. she she sexy?

  • Mine is giving her orgasms. I always worry that she won't enjoy it.

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