I think 5 is a wonderful age to tell them. Why hide it from them. I see all the benefit from educating them now and no benefit to waiting. Educate them about it now and continue to educate them as they get older. As a person whose worked with youth, in non-profit, education, and in the psych field, I've written too many Child Protective Service Reports from kids who didn't understand what happened to them at very young ages. It seriously breaks my heart every time and I think more youth should be educated about their bodies and their right to privacy BY THEIR PARENTS, not by the school. I think you're a wonderful parent for being proactive in this.
1 0 0 0Thank you so much
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Tell them asap now is a good time. Just say if anyone touches you down there you tell me right away make sure they know these are their private parts. Make sure they aren't anxious to tell you. I had this happen and was too anxious to tell my parents until it had been going on for a while. Jokes on me tho they didn't fking do anything about it and still brought that kid around me. I don't know what to even say like they r good parents for the most part but this one thing still bugs me and i can never tell them how i feel cause its so far in the past and it seems pointless and embarassing and will only make them feel like shit or they will downplay it and piss me off more
2 0 0 0Thank you so much for the advice and I am really sorry that happened to you and it still lives with you until today. I guess maybe there are different ways that might help you to move on from it even tho it is tough at most part
I actually repressed it completely until I became very close with someone on this site and she made me comfortable enough to share this, which I have never shared with anyone else. Now I don't mind so long as it's anonymous. It's not the act itself that bugs me, just the fact that my parents still let me be around that kid. I think they gave me the choice and asked if I wanted to end the friendship, but what the fuck does a little kid know? Of course it should have been ended but I thought it would be mean of me for some reason. So if this ever happens to your kids, make sure to do the right thing. Thanks for being understanding. I don't know how to really move on, I'm always going to have a little bit of resentment over this but I can live with it, overall they did an excellent job it was just this one incident that really makes me question their judgement.
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2 20You don’t need to go into detail with kids. With mine we explained that only they can tough their own private parts, and that if anybody else does they should tell us no matter what. Also that they shouldn’t talk to strangers unless one of us/a relative is around. That’s as deep as it has to go.
1 0 0 0Probably around 10-12 age depending on their maturity level.
1 0 0 0My son is 11 and he’s almost ready to understand but kid is different. 🤷♂️
Every kid is different
After puberty.
1 0 0 0I think the younger the better. I know parents who taught their kids the basics at 5 and I wish my parents had done that with me.
1 0 0 0I just wanna add, telling kids not to talk to strangers is helpful, but most kids know their abuser so also make sure to tell them certain behavior is not okay, even if it's from a teacher or babysitter or even another family member
Part of the timing lies with the nature of your neighbourhood and schools. If has a noticeable non-white ethnic component then the sooner the better, and progresses on to 'later' as the danger diminishes. If you live among a community of Daughters of the American Revolution, then her wedding night will suffice.
0 0 0 0I guess the sooner the better
1 0 0 0I agree with you
Once they start liking whatever they end up liking
1 0 0 0My cousin took the approach of teaching my nieces self-defense and using it if someone touched them in their "safety zones". It was focused on defending themselves more than sexual harassment. She said it would be hard for 6 year old's to fully understand a sexual discussion.
1 0 0 0Its time now. Always be careful.
0 0 0 0You had twins at 16? Boys or girls?
1 0 1 0A boy and a girl
Never too young. No need to throw the whole book at them.
If the opportunity arises, talk to them in words that they would understand about an issue.
Just be honest with them1 0 0 0Well just tell them its inappropriate for anyone to touch them in their private areas for now and bring out the sexual ed around at their teens or close teens like 12 or 13 that's when probably they'll start getting sexually active
1 0 0 0I agree. Age 4-6
1 1 0 0I would guess about puberty.
1 0 0 0From whatever age they begin to understand the concept of right and wrong I guess.
1 0 0 0As say as soon as they know names of the private parts.
1 0 0 0I’d say teens
1 0 0 0Teens? 😲
Yes. Teens are right around the age you start having sexual thoughts. There is nothing sexual going on in a 5 yr olds head.
You have a good point here
It's better they know incase
0 0 0 0Do not put into their minds things hateful of men, simply because you hate men. Get a life!
0 0 2 0As soon as you can. Girls start getting harassed at 8ish by normal standards.
They need to know they can talk to you. Staying open about that and other sexual issues will give you a great relationship.1 0 0 0That’s what I am planning to do
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