What’s so bad with being a hoe?

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I’m 23 and I lost my virginity when I was 16, I have a high sex drive and I slept with a dozen of men and a dozen of women, had MMF, FFF and FFM threesomes, but I’m careful to not get pregnant or catch an STD, and I also have a sugar daddy, but I don’t get why are girls like me demonized so much for loving sex and enjoying it with different people as long as I and the person I am having sex with is a single consenting adult.

I go to college and I’m planning to become a nurse and to marry a guy when I’ll be in my mid to late twenties, I never cheated when I’m in a relationship, yet I notice that many guys seems to hate girls like me while they would fuck even more women if they could get sex as easily as I do.

Plus this whole thing about promiscuous women not being desirable is a cope, I have two cousins that were total sluts when they were my age and they are now married with desirable wealthy men that cherish them, and they seem to have a healthy relationship.

hellionthesagereborn · Accepted Answer

1) its not that you just "love sex". Every one, EVERY ONE, loves sex. Doesn't mean we fuck everything that moves. Its like asking why your being demonized for loving food. Its not that you like food, its that your diabetic, over fivehundred pounds and are killing yourself that is the problem. Sex is no different, the issue isn't liking sex, its being irresponsible about it.

2) the issue is that as you said, your going to get married. See, no one respects a woman like this for a long term relationship because you have conditioned yourself to want novelty not stability. You have conditioned yourself for short term gratification not long term commitment. Relationships require sacrifice and what you would be sacrificing is literally everything your life revolves around i. e. sex (casual, and non monogamous). This increases rates of cheating (you can claim otherwise but it does, this is a proven statistical fact), it increases rates of divorce (because you can't control your impulses now why would you think your going to control them later?), increased rates of depression and anxiety (sex is your life or at least a large part of it and so you have focused so much into it you haven't really developed any other part of your life so once its gone you don't have much else left), decreased sexual satisfaction (you've had multiple partners and one person will NEVER be able to amount to all of those people. You will always be left wanting.), as well as decreased satisfaction in long term relationships (because again you have conditioned yourself to have short term flings not relationships).

3) The rest of your argument (and it is an argument, your trying to rationalize away the consequences of your behavior) is bull. Now maybe they were as promiscuous as you, but can't say for certain. You also don't know whats going on in their life or their head unless they tell you. Chances are they are cheating, or they are miserable because that is the statistical likelihood.

4) actually most men would probably not whore themselves out like that but even if they did it still wouldn't alter the fact that its unhealthy and damaging.

5) your free to do what ever you want but that doesn't make it healthy, it doesn't mean that everything will be fine and their is a high probability that men will reject you for long term relationships for being promiscuous because statistically that is the likely scenario. The only exceptions being the men who are "beta" i. e. unconfident men who will take what they can get (and regret it later), men who are stupid enough to think that your past doesn't matter despite it informing your present and making you who the person you are today, or three men who are as promiscuous as you are and thus just as prone to cheat, divorce, etc.

No one is saying you can't do this, they are just telling you its really unhealthy and its going to fuck you over in the long run (and any poor bastard who gets into a relationship with you and any future children resulting from that relationship).

TruthBringer · Accepted Answer

Because it's in a man's biology to get turned off by promiscious women. Why? Because unlike a man who can impregnate multiple women in a short time span, a woman can only be impregnated by one man each time. So she has to be very picky with who she procreates with. A hoe/slut (whatever you like to call it) has no impulse control and bad judgment skills. And therefore, just sleeps around with whomever she likes. Hence why sluts are frowned upon in society and a major turn off for (high quality) men. Saying it's just a "cope" is ironically COPE itself. So nice projection. Also, it's mostly women who slut shame each other. Because they know sluts are undesirable to men in general.

Studies have shown what side effects in correletion with promiscuity:
- Higher risk of STD's (just because you managed to avoid one, doesn't count for all the women who didn't)
- Increased chances of becoming a single mother- More likely to give brith outside of marriage- Seriously undermines girls’ ability to form stable marriages as adults- Is linked to higher levels of child and maternal poverty- More likely to have abortions- Lower overall level of personal happiness- More likely to divorce later on. By the way, pointing to exceptions to the rule, doesn't disprove the rule itself. Your two cousins pale in comparison to the thousands of women used in these studies. Open the PDF in the first study.
https://www.heritage.org/education/report/harmful-effects-early-sexual-activity-and-multiple-sexual-partners-among-women#:~:text=Early%20initiation%20of%20sexual%20activity,birth%2C%20increased%20single%20parenthood%2C%20decreased

https://www.wf-lawyers.com/divorce-statistics-and-facts/

ragequeen · Accepted Answer

It`s simple. One key that can open many locks is a good key, while a lock that can be opened by many keys is a bad lock. It is scientifically proven that women have less of a chance of being faithful in a relationship after living a life in promiscuity, but men are capable of being so. I guess it`s a biological thing. I`m not saying it`s wrong, because the matter of right and wrong, good and bad is subjective. You just lost me at the part when you said you one day wanted to get married after you`ve lived your life like that. If you truly admired that lifestyle of monogamy, you would live it. Women with high body counts have low standards, so why would your dream man want to settle for someone and spend precious money and time on someone who was completely free for someone else? Why should he have to respect you, not use you for sex, or spend money on you if literally everyone else could have you for free? When men settle for a woman, they want to feel special to her. They want to feel like she appreciates everything about him and genuinely values him as a person. When you have a history of sleeping around, you have a history of not respecting men. Why should he respect you?

Also, behaviors create patterns in life. Sex can be an addiction. One day your husband or partner might be too tired. He might be away on a business trip for a month. He might become crippled to the point that sex is pointless. What do you do then? If you`re used to getting everything you want in life from a young age, you become spoiled. The same way goes for promiscuity. You are so used to getting sex almost whenever you want and from whomever you want. How will that suddenly stop one day? Will you honestly be able to resist if a handsome stranger approaches you during a night on the town with your friends?

Maybe my view on it is very old fashioned, but there is science to back it up. I didn`t include any sources but there are plenty of videos on YouTube and articles to check out. I`ve spent a lot of time researching this topic because it fascinates me.

Also, from a psychological point of view, if you have to ask the question you are doubting your own lifestyle and you seek validation. Maybe this is a good time to really soul search and make sure this is the kind of life you want to keep living. My take on that has always been, if you have more to offer than sex, don`t EVER settle for one night stands. It will make you feel like crap about yourself in the end. But if you, yourself, mean that you are not relationship material, now that`s a totally different story. Not everyone is, and that`s totally fine.

Bidensucks2020 · Accepted Answer

1) You lack morals and always do what animals do.
2) You would be a lousy parent.
3) Condoms are not 100% effective and you can still get HIV.
4) You could never be trusted.
5) You take risky chances.
6) You lack self control
7) You are an addict
8) Any decent guy that finds out about your behavior will have nothing to do with you.
9) Irresponsible
10) No character

Just because you can have sex with anyone , doesn't mean you should. You also are the type of person that ruins other people's relationships and marriage. People like you are destructive and not constructive.

Arivor · Answer

The biggest problem you have is with your own self perception as a "hoe." If that's how you see yourself, you can be sure everyone else will see you that way. Just be you, don't go labeling yourself as something that most use to dis others as. I truly believe that just as men are encouraged to "get it out of their system" that women should also be encouraged to do the same and only then should they consider getting into a long term relationship. I've seen too many marriages ruined when some wives realize and say things like "You have been with so many women and I've only ever been with you!" You can be sure that nothing good will come out of that situation. I was actually asked once by a friend of mine who was so scared after hearing just that from his wife, that he actually asked me to take care of her... talk about being placed in the most awkward situation in my life so far.

Itsok2behapp-e · Answer

One will always need a hoe at some point in their lifetime.

Once you buy a hoe you know you've always got one.

Trouble is once in the shed, the hoe is rarely ever used unlike other agricultural and horticultural hand tools.

blamemygyspysoul0507 · Answer

Do what you want with your life 😂 it’s your life

Daniela1982 · Answer

There will always be some guy who will marry a Ho. But will they be respected? Hell no!

wingattebaby16 · Answer

there is nothing wrong with it...

life experience with different people is how you find the traits, looks, and personality you want in a future spouse.

How else do you find the Right person unless you date a lot and for me, i won't marry a guy I have not had sex with.

As long as you are faithful to the steady person you are with, esp your spouse, then it is all good.

Other people are just jealous of you and your adventures.

I had sex before i was 16yo, and after 16yo, most were men older than me, 30 -40 yo.

i have dated more than 55 men and 19 women.. to find what I like now at 26yo...

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Since it's so great, when you settle down with the brain surgeon or the appeals court judge, will you teach our little girls how to be sluts when they get older?

ohshee · Answer

And that hot. Your in the picture where

Berethor · Answer

Who is the fool the marry you? you never cheated? well I highly doubt that.

420Rachel · Answer

Live your best life bro. I'm of the belief that people should be able to do whatever the hell they want as long as they're not harming themselves or others physically or mentally.

normalice · Answer

The male ego makes us want to think we are so good at sex that women are instantly and permanently addicted to us the second our dicks affect them. "Hoes" contradict that because they can enjoy the thrills of one guy and then enioy the thrills of someone else entirely. And if men have deemed one of those men to be our lesser, the fact that a woman still gets off on him means either the criteria by which we placed ourselves above that guy is invalid, or the judge (the "hoe") is too awful a person to understand the value of the criteria. Naturally, we can't believe the former because of ego reasons, so men tend to default to the latter and blame the hoe when it turns out their dick isn't the magic wand they hoped it was.

As for women, they tend to dislike hoes because hoes have a knack for finding sexually frustrated men who have been chasing a particular girl who doesn't want to give it up yet but has been working to keep him interested. The hoe simply swoops in and shows him what it's like to have a girl who loves dick with no games and thus ruins the game of chase they were playing so carefully. Or at least, this is what I imagine girls who dont like hoes imagine is the reason to not like hoes.

But this is all kid shit. People generally grow out of these childish notions of sexual ownership in their 30s.

JPrez · Answer

Does your name start with an “A”? You sound like a former coworker of mine and she is trying to be a nurse too. She and I were friends. She was exactly like you. Although it’s not an ideal lifestyle, I understand it because she enjoyed sex.

postempestas · Answer

Hoes don't deserve any type of respect or admiration, nor support. Keep these stuff for yourself and hopefully you don't end up with a loser... Only losers are into hoes, good men are reservated for good women, not for hoes, that's a plate you won't get. If you get it that would be higly SUS.

wankiam · Answer

there is nothing wrong with having fun while you are young... or old ;)

slatyb · Answer

Nothing as long as you are careful to prevent pregnancy and StDs.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Nothing. The only people who find that bad are men trying to compensate for something else.

SarahP080102 · Answer

I'm a slut. Lost my virginity in just a couple of months ago and already uo to a body count of 20

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i still don't believe a hoe can be turned into a housewife. it's not possible

Miristheiss · Answer

No man should ever marry you.

Avicenna · Answer

Beyond the potential for STDs, it’s also That you don’t value the individual guy. No one just wants to be a number.

Apope16 · Answer

You do you while you're still young and beautiful.

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