What’s your opinion on people using porn/erotica in relationships?

[Anonymous]

To me if my boyfriend is using porn it’s usually because I didn’t give him enough sex as most men need sex everyday. My friend hates it when her husband is watching porn yet she doesn’t want to satisfy him sexually everyday which makes no sense at all. If she doesn’t want him to watch porn at all, she has to offer him sex everyday which is more effective. I don’t think it’s fair for him. She’s not being a good wife. If I were her, I will be satisfying my own husband sexually everyday if porn bothers me a lot. Mostly men use porn because their partners are not free to give them sex.

[qwert1234]

I'm fine with it - though it's usually awkward for me to watch it with someone else.
For me, it only becomes a problem if one party prefers it over their partner or expect their partner to perform and/or look like a pornstar.

When I was in a relationship, I watch porn for variety. I don't want to cheat on my girlfriend, but I'll be brutally honest - gets tiring to look at the same naked girl all the time. I mean, she does look great and turn me on every time - but a part of me wants to see others without being physical. It does not diminish my care and love for my partner.

Not sure if people will get what I mean.

[Anonymous]

1. Women watch porn just as often as guys, but they just don't talk about it as much, and I do think they require a higher quality of porn. They need an actual plot.

2. Watching porn has nothing to do with whether or not a person is sexually satisfied. It's about a fantasy you're not ever going to experience in real life. If a guy likes watching James Bond movies, it doesn't mean he hates his own life... it means he wants a brief escape from his mundane world.

We all need to take a break from reality, once in awhile.

"Some people live in the here and now..."
"Some people live in the there and then..."
"I live in the here and there... now and then."
*Dudley Moore*

[KittyTwoLick]

I"m tempted to think Men just need a variety - to SEE at minimum, and if they don't get that at least then they're guaranteed to be cheating dogs... then again some of them will be no matter WHAT you do or how many times you get them off (they use sex to compensate in other areas, they don't have sex bc they're horny, they say they're horny and probab;ly believe their own lie, they're just trying to fill a void - the last type I was referring to) and DONT say that word whcih shall not be said... AND NOBODY PULL HARRY POTTER AND SAY IT ANYWAY PLS I mean it lol

[Anonymous]

first: "Mostly men use porn because their partners are not free to give them sex." is not valid.
Mostly men use porn because it is enjoyable and entertaining, BESIDES the real thing, and sometimes along with the real thing.
second: "she doesn’t want to satisfy him sexually everyday" & "hates it when her husband is watching porn"
Hmm... That's just her wrong problem; not his. I agree with you there.
I'm happily single and have been with girls who don't like me watching porn. They saw it as cheating.
So now I'm wondering if I should get into another relationship... Would I be cheating on my porn? lol

[Asker]

I’m quite bothered by porn but I don’t mind trying new sex positions which can guarantee him multiple orgasms everyday.

[Asker]

I’m honestly not against couples who watch porn together but watching porn and reading erotica behind your partners back even though they promised not to is wrong.

[Opinion Owner]

I agree to that. Among adults, let's keep it open; real.

[Asker]

I usually look up on Google on how to give multiple orgasms for men if I have a very good relationship with my boyfriend. I’m single at the moment because I finished college 8 months ago.

[Asker]

I don’t know why but I’m a little afraid of getting orgasms myself in front of someone I love.

[Angela_S]

My b/f who I live with isn't into porn, and I know this is true because he knows I wouldn't care one bit if he was, so he may as well be honest. BUT... he is into sexy girls on TV (music videos, hot girls on TV shows etc) and he does get turned on by them. I have no problem with this. In fact it works very well for me. I knew 3 years ago when we moved in together that his sex drive was WAY higher than mine, and while we have really good sex at least 4 or 5 times a week, and I often supplement this with extra hand-jobs when I'm not in the mood for sex, I really don't mind him getting turned on by the girls on TV. In fact it's really cute. If he's in his bath robe, or something equally difficult to conceal an erection, he gets shy and a bit embarrassed if he suddenly goes "full mast" if a hot girl he likes appears on the TV screen, even though he knows I really don't mind. So we have a kind of jokey rule in our apartment... I'll only get rid of a hard on that I've caused. If one of his TV girlies gives him a stiffy then he needs to sort it out himself, and I'll be the first to comment on it and remind him of that when I notice it helplessly throbbing away in front of him.

[JessicaEarl]

Porn is used to cope often times. I’m against the industry entirely, however it shouldn’t be conflated with an unhappy sex life. It’s actually not that related psychologically

[Nmdr3]

It’s a release of sexual frustration if your partner isn’t into your kinks or fetishes.

[HighValue]

I think people in relationships watch porn for two reasons.

1. Their partner isn't intimate with them often enough.

2. They have fantasies that they are ashamed of and would never actually do IRL so they use porn as a release. Those are the ones that wouldn't want to share with their partner which type of porn they watch.

[litty]

As someone who was addicted to porn for 14 years and have stayed off for 2 years, my imagination has become so much more vivid. Also seeing the girlfriend's bare body turns me on very easily because before I was desensitized by all the porn scenes randomly flashing through my mind in the middle of the day.

[Caunsos]

Personal I find it unrealistic to expect you partner to be willing every time you want sex. And porn is a fair plan b aslong as your honest about the consumption of it.

[Straight2thepoint]

Seems like u know what is the problem.

[RuthlessAggression]

I watch porn and I think to myself, what a wonderful world

[RuthlessAggression]

And I think it should be used in relationships

[EdwinLivingston_]

That's great

[Twalli]

If you turn down sex and he uses porn, it's on you. Yet if he doesn't ask for sex, then it's not you that is the problem.

[Guardian45]

My girlfriend and I choose and watch porn together. Not only does it turn us both on, but it also teaches me what turns her on specifically! My lovemaking has improved cuz of it!

[EnglishEuropean]

Unless you're using porn WITH your partner it can rapidly become a replacement for sex. It then undermines your whole relationship. On the other hand prohibiting your partner from watching porn without providing a physical alternative won't stop him using porn in secret, and will also undermine your relationship.

[Asker]

I don’t like my partner using porn but I’m willing to provide him sex twice a day and I will want to bring him to orgasm twice.

[Asker]

I also agree that watching porn or erotica in secret can destroy a relationship.

[Waldoe]

sometimes we use it because it is easier and faster

[anylolone]

That's never the reason. Porn is not a substitute for sex.

[Leibstanrdarte]

Personally, this is not what I have been taught as a relationship

[Anonymous]

Not getting enough sex is no excuse for watching porn

[Anonymous]

great way to share interests and get to know each other.

[Anonymous]

It's nice when boys jerk off to it so I don't have to fuck them 50 times a day.

[Anonymous]

Agree. And she could at least give him a hj. I mean, how hard it that to make your husband happy?

[Anonymous]

I agree with you and what you said is why marriages fail, women try to use sex against the guy to manipulate him.